Compromize Posted March 7, 2013 Posted March 7, 2013 Curious to hear from the other Love Shackers if they have done anything similar: In a moment of feeling totally unwanted and worthless from being dumped (again!?) by the ex, started a profile on a dating site just to see who else was out there/get some attention only to get said attention and then realize it was a very stupid thing to do and close the profile and start missing the stupid ex worse for some stupid reason? Even if it was attractive and nice, intelligent people supplying said attention still want the stupid ex over all of them? Doesn't matter if she/he was a ridiculously rich supermodel they still wouldn't compare? Guess that means they really did a number on our heads and left us spinning. I can't be the only one!!! Thoughts? 1
Bigcitydreamer Posted March 7, 2013 Posted March 7, 2013 I did something similar. When me and my ex broke up 2 weeks ago, I had a few guys write me on Facebook and flirt with me. I flirted back but afterwards felt more sad. I think with some people you have toget over the breakup before being with anyone else. I have nooo idea how serial daters do it! Interesting question though because it was recently that this happened to me and I wondered if I was the only one! 1
SinceYou'veBeenGone Posted March 7, 2013 Posted March 7, 2013 Yes. I keep going on free dating sites as a way of meeting new people/dates but I just keep feeling let down. I don't like any of the guys. The few I talk to have been really into me but I've slowly dropped each of them. I continue finding guys but I end up just feeling more sad and depressed. I find that the selection is horrible and makes me realize how bad I wish my BU never happened. My bf was so much better than all of them on these sites. After being with someone so compatible to myself and so attractive it's hard for me to settle on average dates (like I used to).
stevie_23 Posted March 7, 2013 Posted March 7, 2013 Yes. I joined THREE dating sites, and one was for SUGAR DADDIES. *sheepish* Never continued with any of them though, as you had to pay and I also thought WHAT THE HELL AM I DOING!? DO NOT DO THIS!
Author Compromize Posted March 7, 2013 Author Posted March 7, 2013 Well I'm glad I'm not the only one! It was a narcissistic impulse to feel wanted that spured it for me and very short lived. I have my kids pretty much all the time anyway except for a few work nights so not like I could even date anyway. And I am not in any way into casual sex. I like my sex intimate and monogomous so if it takes a long time to get rid of the ex in my head and find the right one that will accept my role and time as a father and a lover and partner as well its worth it. Damn it though it would be nice to cuddle and watch a movie though. Sigh.
Coping Vortex Posted March 7, 2013 Posted March 7, 2013 Yes. I joined THREE dating sites, and one was for SUGAR DADDIES. *sheepish* Never continued with any of them though, as you had to pay and I also thought WHAT THE HELL AM I DOING!? DO NOT DO THIS! Aren't you still with your partner? Shouldn't you BU with her first?
Amelie1980 Posted March 7, 2013 Posted March 7, 2013 Yeah I did this. introduced to so.many guys but only one possibility of a date. None of the decent guys want.me. its made me realise how worthless I am.
TigerCub Posted March 7, 2013 Posted March 7, 2013 It's odd I thought of that during the week - I thought "well on the plus side I can just go out and **** whoever I wanted" - but it was a passing thought - I was much too sad to actually think of doing online dating or anything else.
flitzanu Posted March 7, 2013 Posted March 7, 2013 none of the new people compare to how wonderful and amazing your exes are? wait, you are referring to the exes that have dumped you and are probably seeing other people right? that doesn't seem to make them "so wonderful" does it? 2
LostGirl11 Posted March 7, 2013 Posted March 7, 2013 It just means that we aren't ready yet. I want to be ready because I know my ex is on one, but I don't want to force it.
cps Posted March 7, 2013 Posted March 7, 2013 give yourself time to relax.. do other things you would enjoy.. thinking about your ex would let you cause more damage..
Author Compromize Posted March 17, 2013 Author Posted March 17, 2013 none of the new people compare to how wonderful and amazing your exes are? wait, you are referring to the exes that have dumped you and are probably seeing other people right? that doesn't seem to make them "so wonderful" does it? Ouch. True but it doesn't make the reality of the heartbreak go away. Rather than trying to mask the pain with another person, I choose this time to face it head on and get past it before allowing myself to meet someone new and amazing and wonderful. I would be unable to see it/appreciate it in my condition anyway.
Bigcitydreamer Posted March 17, 2013 Posted March 17, 2013 Guilty as charged. Well sort of. I went one of those dating sites not expecting much but it was horrible. I'd really rather not meet someone online in the first place because it seems to awkward but I did it to see what was out there. I got a nice few msgs but no one worth talking to so I shut my account down after a day. Made me miss my ex more without a doubt!
Bigcitydreamer Posted March 17, 2013 Posted March 17, 2013 Just realized I already replied to this thread lol. I'm clearly putting myself out there but no matter what it doesn't help me get over my ex!
Love4Pain Posted March 17, 2013 Posted March 17, 2013 I almost did...was really thinking about it but I just wanted to see if there were any good looking guys in my area, I didn't want to have to make a profile so I still haven't done that.... The problem I have now is that for the first time I am actually lonely while being single, I've never cared about it before. I'm not talking about the sex part but I miss the interaction, and damned if I don't really want someone to cuddle with right now >_< I still miss my ex too....
Author Compromize Posted March 17, 2013 Author Posted March 17, 2013 Just realized I already replied to this thread lol. I'm clearly putting myself out there but no matter what it doesn't help me get over my ex! It's all good! At least we are here instead of hitting up our exes! The problem I have now is that for the first time I am actually lonely while being single, I've never cared about it before. I'm not talking about the sex part but I miss the interaction, and damned if I don't really want someone to cuddle with right now >_< I still miss my ex too.... I know how you feel. It seems pretty much all of the adult interaction I get is at work. With my ex and I the sex was completely out of this world, best I have ever experienced so I know there will be initial disappointment with someone new. We knew each others bodies so well and fit together perfectly. Sigh.
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