grace777 Posted March 7, 2013 Posted March 7, 2013 Hi friends - I've been around awhile and am actually moving on. I'm talking to a girl on match who is moving here in a couple of months and she's...well, AMAZING! We've been talking since November, but it's really picking up the pace lately. One thing that happened, and my insecure (because of the breakup 5 months ago) mind is trippin. So here's my question. I emailed her. She's been online a lot (like multiple times throughout the day) which is weird for her. She usually goes on every few days. Whenever I email her, once she logs on, it says "read." She emailed me Sunday and was having major Match.com technical difficulties, so I gave a quick reply and said that I did, in fact, receive it. I was off to the gym and I'd email her in more detail later that night. So I did. Since then, she's been logging in, but it still says "unread". And of course, no response. I feel like she may be waiting for me to reply and that's why she's on Match so much -- she told me that she only goes on lately (since Christmas) to hear from me. So I really don't want to blow it with this girl before she moves her. Well, I don't want to blow it with her at all..haha. So I don't want to act all crazy and be like --- I see you've logged on a lot over the last few days, but still haven't read my email...just making sure you got it... That sounds a bit nuts right. If I were ignoring someone, I'd think it was nuts. But I can't imagine she'd be ignoring me. Ahhhh - what do I do? I want her to read what I wrote and hear back from her, but I don't want to push her away by acting all desperate either. Could she have read it through her personal email and it still is marked unread? I looked into this online, and it seems that even if you do look at emails from Match through gmail or whatever, it still will show up as read. Advice? And yes, I know I sound a bit crazy, but she's the first person I've met on there that I actually can see myself having fun with...either as friends or otherwise. Again, I just don't want to blow it by acting needy.
Compromize Posted March 7, 2013 Posted March 7, 2013 Maybe just a quick "Just wanted say hello and see how you were doing and how your day was going" e-mail? I don't think that's too needy or anything and and shows her that you were thinking of her without directly saying it. Another one; ask her her favorite animal, color and how she would describe the ocean to a blind person, make it slightly coy, "all in the name of science and statistics" or something of that nature. Just be slightly aloof and mysterious. Intrigue her a little and if she doesn't bite, start reeling in and don't focus your attention her direction until she responds.
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