dddi Posted March 7, 2013 Posted March 7, 2013 Ok I'll try to make the story short. I usually wouldn't ask for help, but I really need it this time around. First of all, I am not trying to be cocky or anything... but let me say that out of all dates so far, the girls usually initiated asking me out... so I've absolutely NO EXPERIENCE asking a girl out Second, I am in professional school, where our class is relatively small... so If I do ask this girl out and s*** falls apart... it is going to be VERY AWKWARD for the next 3.5 years Lastly, I have no problem talking to random chicks @ bars and clubs (well, I guess alcohol helps) and actually, I have no problem talking normally to this girl I like. But whenever the conversation is about dating/relationships, I either blank out or say something completely stupid... she just makes me flutter like that. And I really do feel differently about this girl. I want to have a genuine relationship with her. I guess what I want to ask on here is how would I "test" the waters? I am not sure if she feels the same way, I THINK she does, but what the hell would I know b/c she's so damn nice to everyone Here are some signs I guess? 1. after a class gathering (most ppl left), I talked to her for a good 2-3 hours alone (this is what sparked my interest in her) 2. she would sometimes walk with me on the way home, even though its a bit out of her way 3. she asked me if I only dated girls of my ethnicity (here is the stupid thing on my part... I said NO, and did not follow it up with anything... I want to ask her the same thing now but its been like a week so It is going to seem so random) I did drop some hints here and there like sitting next to her in class everyday and what not, but I guess shes not the kind to initiate so that's why I gotta do it Im usually pretty confident but whenever i'm around this girl I just cant think straight and become somewhat shy.... helllllp -_- PS. I NEVER asked her if she had a boyfriend, I dont think she does b/c she never brings anything about a bf up but i cannot be sure. What is a good way to ask SUBTLY lol I say subtly b/c of the same class dilemma, I don't want to cross that line if she does have a boyfriend, I need something to fall back on so it wont be awkward as hell (most of you are probably just going to tell me to man up and ask straight up.... but i really think i should test the waters more lol)
skweezd Posted March 7, 2013 Posted March 7, 2013 Awwww I loved reading this. Look when you meet someone of the opposite sex that makes your stomach flutter, you need to act on it because you don't want to lose this girl. Try not to freak her out by mentioning how strongly you're feeling. But tell her about some of her different and unique characteristics you like about her. Women love compliments. Then just ask her to dinner. Make it casual. If things go well at dinner, tell her you really like her and then wait for the response. I have a feeling you will like her feedback. Good luck. Be strong.
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