karen00 Posted March 7, 2013 Posted March 7, 2013 Hello everyone. I have been dating a guy for about 5 months and lately I think he's been doing the "disappear" pull-back thing. Everything before this has been great. He's initiated most contact, called, and texted--very much on the hunt. He use to text me Good Morning messages like clockwork and text me because "he was thinking of me." He knew I loved it! When suddenly he became a little distant with shorter responses and longer gaps in answering. Then he stopped texting me about 2 days ago. I have decided to not call or text him until he initiates it again. I feel it may be best to give him space since we had been in contact everyday. Is this how I should handle it? Give him space? After pulling myself back to think about things, I'm not going to trip about it and though I'm sad and confused, I'm trying to just carry on like normal (before I met him). One more thing, so what threw me for a loop: I haven't made contact in two days, yet, he liked pics of me on instagram this morning. Hmm...what are your thoughts? Please answer folks. I'd appreciate your input but please don't bring in snippy comments...we're here to help each other not judge.
anna121 Posted March 7, 2013 Posted March 7, 2013 You've been dating him for five months. Exclusively? After five months I would consider someone my BF and feel I had a right to contact him whenever I felt like it. There could be a harmless explanation. When you get to a certain point in a relationship, constant contact may seem silly. Two days isn't THAT long. BUT...if I felt he was doing a disappearing act, I'd probably give him some rope and see whether he hung himself with it.
mortensorchid Posted March 7, 2013 Posted March 7, 2013 I just don't get this, why they have to do that. It makes the other party crazy, and they know it. Inconsiderate and cowardly, if that's what he's really doing. But yes, I agree with the last poster. See if he gives himself enough rope to hang himself with.
AverageCat Posted March 7, 2013 Posted March 7, 2013 I just don't get this, why they have to do that. It makes the other party crazy, and they know it. Inconsiderate and cowardly, if that's what he's really doing. But yes, I agree with the last poster. See if he gives himself enough rope to hang himself with. I love this type of threads. And obviously women's point of views are always..... so self centered. So let me reiterate: - He was putting all the work. Texting YOU good morning and making YOU feel happy. - You probably didn't do ****, in that you NEVER showed affection, by doing the same thing. (Did you ever txt him out of the blue that you were thinking about him?) - You probably didn't even show appreciation for what he did and the time that he put into making YOU happy. You just took it for granted. AND NOW YOU WONDER WHY HE"S NOT DOING IT ANYMORE?????? Gah
Janesays Posted March 7, 2013 Posted March 7, 2013 Drop him completely. Life is too short for EITHER of you to start playing games. Try dating someone who has no desire to make you feel 'confused and sad' instead.
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