9Lives Posted September 6, 2004 Posted September 6, 2004 i want to know if we are wrong to ask you out. And if you do accept are you getting ready to make us try to chase you for the duration of the journey.
snilljente Posted September 6, 2004 Posted September 6, 2004 Right...do you see us as desperate for approaching you/asking you out, or are you relieved that we have taken the first move...do men really want to "chase", or is that just one of those lame stereotypes??
FOX Posted September 6, 2004 Posted September 6, 2004 I LOVE it when girls make the first move. In no way does it seem desperate. I like a girl that see what she wants and goes for it.
Author 9Lives Posted September 6, 2004 Author Posted September 6, 2004 fox, why do you feel this way? Why do other men see it differently. Help us out!
moimeme Posted September 6, 2004 Posted September 6, 2004 Some men are neanderthals. They still think they need to bop the woman over the head and drag her back to the cave. Other men have arrived in the 21st century and learned that to have a woman express interest is a compliment. Because they don't value limp, lame, women who dare not think unless they're allowed to, such men are happy to have the good opinion of independent women. And God bless every one of them!
UCFKevin Posted September 6, 2004 Posted September 6, 2004 I don't think it seems desperate whatsoever. Why should it have to be us men that always do everything? It's f*cking 2004. Things have changed. Take the ball already, ladies.
Author 9Lives Posted September 6, 2004 Author Posted September 6, 2004 I dont believe you men. you say you like it but when a woman does it, yall start acting like little p***ys. NO OFFENSE. I just dont trust it
shortbus74 Posted September 6, 2004 Posted September 6, 2004 I like to make the first move.... (makes me feel in control)
bykenore Posted September 6, 2004 Posted September 6, 2004 It works for me. I've got a female friend who actually advised me to always let the woman make the first move, but then she's not quite connected to real life sometimes.
beautiful Posted September 6, 2004 Posted September 6, 2004 Gurls, there is nothing wrong with asking a man out. The easiest way to see if "he " is an old rule guy, meaning, a guy that needs to be in control because he is the man is by watching him run once you asked him out. He will think of you as desperate and most likey you won't hear from him again. Watch out for guys that call you , "sweetie", "honey" "baby" etc etc and they just met you. You want to stay clear from them. These guys are intimidated by women that are smart and successfull. Now a real and healthy minded man will be flattered that you asked him out. He will apreciate your smartness and knowing what you want and go after it. Those are the kind of men we as women want to know. Remember gurls, stalking it definately out! :-) lol and a sure way to drive him away. Duh ! oh we knew this didn't we?
neptoon Posted September 6, 2004 Posted September 6, 2004 I like asking guys out. I don't like it the other way around. I think I really like doing the chasing.
Papillon Posted September 6, 2004 Posted September 6, 2004 Nothing is more of a turn-on than a confident, self-assured woamn who reaches out for what she wants. Also, it overcomes the psychological hurdle of uncertainty that plagues us when we want to approach a girl. Girls don't have that problem: it's unlikely that they'll be shot down with the venom that men are shot down with.
shamen Posted September 6, 2004 Posted September 6, 2004 Originally posted by Papillon Nothing is more of a turn-on than a confident, self-assured woamn who reaches out for what she wants. Also, it overcomes the psychological hurdle of uncertainty that plagues us when we want to approach a girl. Girls don't have that problem: it's unlikely that they'll be shot down with the venom that men are shot down with. WOW! Venom. I don't think that I've ever shot down a man with that. Ouch. Sorry that that has happened. I've asked out men and have received both yeses and nos. I'm glad that I did it. And the ones that said yes? They too said that it was extremely cool that I did so.
Papillon Posted September 6, 2004 Posted September 6, 2004 Well, of course, ironically, it's the self-assured women who usually have the most lethal venom As always, you get all kinds of chicks. Chicks who are cool and respect the hurdle you leapt in the initialization and approach, are usually already taken
shamen Posted September 6, 2004 Posted September 6, 2004 Originally posted by jvjrose i want to know if we are wrong to ask you out. And if you do accept are you getting ready to make us try to chase you for the duration of the journey. I think that one of the reasons we should ask men out is because we then know how it feels. It is scary! See Papillion's intial quote... One would hope that everyone is cool about saying no, but I'm sure that this does not always happen. Every guy that has ever said no to me has been cool about it, thank god. Papillion, admittedly, most of the guys that I have turned down were because I was dating someone else.
Papillon Posted September 6, 2004 Posted September 6, 2004 One would hope that everyone is cool about saying no, but I'm sure that this does not always happen. Every guy that has ever said no to me has been cool about it, thank god. Yes, I think women develop the venomous response because of men who cannot take no for an answer.
faux Posted September 7, 2004 Posted September 7, 2004 I wish more women would show an initial interest. I don't like the women who stick to the "The man must make the initiative, or I do nothing and he is unworthy of me" philosophy. I like someone who is strong-willed and knows what she wants.
bgfrombg Posted September 7, 2004 Posted September 7, 2004 I like it when girls make the first move. I don't think it seems desperate at all. In my case, I have the hardest time saying anything to a girl I think is attractive unless she starts talking to me first. I heard this thing on the radio the other day. They was telling women that they could brighten a guys whole day just by saying hi to them. And that is true, or at least with me. You know us men, we need an ego boosting occasionally,lol, but seriously, if a girl made the first move with me, I would be very flattered, because she felt that I was worth the effort to make the first move.
snilljente Posted September 7, 2004 Posted September 7, 2004 Ok, I've been locked up in my house for most of the weekend working (my own fault for procrastinating), but when I am out this week, I am going to smile and TRY to initiatie a conversation...although it still makes me nervous thinking about it....but now at least I know that I will hopefully not be looked upon as desperate and that it's ok for the girl to make the first move.....Thanks!
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