all_cats_rgray Posted March 7, 2013 Posted March 7, 2013 It's been almost 9 months since my boyfriend of 7 years left me. I'm at my darkest. Which is odd, cause I started out crushed but alright, and pushing forward. I'm struggling with the obsessive thoughts of self-worth. Please really, time is just moving forward and dragging my dead body along with it.
Toddbt12y1 Posted March 7, 2013 Posted March 7, 2013 You're right. Time won't do a single thing for you, but age you..... It is what you do with that time, that determines how well you will end up feeling. Not to say either, that some people need to fall low, in-order to rise higher. You need to get into the habit of pushing your ex, out of your mind. To pushing doubts, fears, worries, anger, or whatever have you, out of your mind. No good can or will come of it. You cannot get better, without forcing yourself to get better. You have to actually use force upon yourself, to make yourself realize how capable you really are. 5
KatZee Posted March 7, 2013 Posted March 7, 2013 You're right. Time won't do a single thing for you, but age you..... It is what you do with that time, that determines how well you will end up feeling. Not to say either, that some people need to fall low, in-order to rise higher. Exactly. Ticking boxes on a calendar aren't going to make you feel better. You can sit here for another 5 years and still be in the exact same spot. It's not the time that helps, it's how you're choosing to live your life and how you're choosing to spend your time from this point forward. Are you going to sit home and mope? Be isolated from society? Or are you going to go out and meet new people? Have all new experiences? Do things you never had a chance to do because you were always concerned about someone else? When you're out there focused on other things, you'll find your focus shifting from your ex, to those other things. To yourself. Only when you're growing on a personal level, will you start to heal and move forward. 2
Thunderchild Posted March 7, 2013 Posted March 7, 2013 Move on - you owe it to yourself. Even if he piddles malt whisky and sh*ts gold bars he ain't that special. If he was "that special" he would have the good sense be with you.
NoLeafClover Posted March 7, 2013 Posted March 7, 2013 It's been almost 9 months since my boyfriend of 7 years left me. I'm at my darkest. Which is odd, cause I started out crushed but alright, and pushing forward. I'm struggling with the obsessive thoughts of self-worth. Please really, time is just moving forward and dragging my dead body along with it. You are just having one of those days..You have already come too far along hun. Give it a bit you will be back on track again. It's totally normal. Keep STRONG
Seeking Happiness Posted March 7, 2013 Posted March 7, 2013 I'm sorry that you're feeling this way. I know what it's like as most of us do, it's hard to move on sometimes. Not sure if this helps or not but sometimes it's good to read some great books on Relationships. I just bought a great book called The Rules and it's really interesting. I think it's like a Bible for women. It really gives you insight on things mostly from a womens perspective. I have went through a lot of emotional stuff since the break up, it's only been 2 months. It was like a Roller Coaster ride for a bit there. I'm starting to see just how unhealthy my relationship was and how I wanted out for a while but I stayed because i didn't want to be alone. I'm finally feeling better and you will too. It's a big world out there and there are some very nice people out there. You should give yourself a chance to meet these great people and maybe try to date. Just take your time with getting to know a guy and see where it leads. You should try to keep an open mind. If you do this you may just find a great guy who is way better suited to you than your Ex ever was. If you don't feel like dating that's ok too. You could always spend time with friends and develop some new hobbies and meet people that way. Even meeting a new girlfriend helps in situatons like this. The more you find your own happiness in your life on your own the better off you will be
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