Marine0311 Posted March 7, 2013 Posted March 7, 2013 I feel like ranting and dont mean to offend anyone. After the last half year of my ex treating me like ****, dumping me, coming back, being warm, being cold, and just walking all over me I finally had enough! I think you guys need to hear this and listen. Why do you want your ex back?! He/ she obviously doesnt want you anymore. If they did they wouldnt have left you in the first place. If they still talk to you, they are out there fishing, but keeping you on the boat just in case they do not catch anything. Do you really want to be second? You may love this person, but love yourself first! Dont allow this, they ended it, so why dont you forget them and fall back in love with yourself. I finally realized this and Ive been doing great. I realized that my ex has her life and doesnt need me in it. She may have dragged me along because she wanted me to fall back on, but why do i deserve that? I took a deep look in the mirror and remembered who I am. I am a former Marine, I am young, I am strong, I have the world in my arms and Im ready to experience it in a new relationship. This new relationship is with me. So for everyone hurting out there, remember, youre more important than your ex. Fall back in love with yourself and I promise, things will change for the better. 14
Dood Posted March 7, 2013 Posted March 7, 2013 Well brother I can take MarineNets and MCI's all day long that supposedly teach me to be a better grunt, or at least not commit suicide or sexually harass somebody but the Corps hasn't provided training on break ups. It's funny I am trained to kill a man at 500 yards and then laugh about it later but sometimes even A type personalities get soft for a girl. I like your post though, its motivating when I need it especially with it coming from another 11.
SimonSerenade Posted March 7, 2013 Posted March 7, 2013 Just what I needed to hear, I'm in the same boat as you friend and it stinks!, I was in this position a long time a go and I never thought I would be again but I learned a lot from that painful break up and I swore I would never let anyone do what had been done to me ever again, I know all the right moves and all the wrong ones, my recent ex of just over a year felt she could do whatever she wanted and I was just supposed to stand by and accept it, I got walked all over, picked back up and walked all over again and I let her do that because I was so desperate to feel wanted and important to this girl after left feeling so discarded, worthless and generally just not worthy enough for her time and effort but what's important is how I feel and I refuse to lose my confidence because of this, I was a great guy to her and she'll struggle to ever find someone like me again, great positive posts like this reinforce my will to steer clear of her and let me know I deserve better than to be somebody's lap dog, treat me like crap and I just take it, well no more of that I'm going to take a long weekend to myself to reflect, get all the sadness out of my system, watch a bit of cheers and Frasier, listen to some sad music, cry myself out and start fresh first thing Monday morning, she meant the world to me but I always felt my feelings were stronger than hers but hopefully one day there'll be somebody out there who'll treat me right and know all the right things to do and say =] can't wait for that day, cheers again dude
Author Marine0311 Posted March 7, 2013 Author Posted March 7, 2013 Well brother I can take MarineNets and MCI's all day long that supposedly teach me to be a better grunt, or at least not commit suicide or sexually harass somebody but the Corps hasn't provided training on break ups. It's funny I am trained to kill a man at 500 yards and then laugh about it later but sometimes even A type personalities get soft for a girl. I like your post though, its motivating when I need it especially with it coming from another 11. ahaha awesome to hear another grunt, got out early due to med-sep which sucks. Miss the fleet, but mostly just my friends. I was with 3/3 India Co. Salty as they come errr. But ya man I know exactly what youre saying. Out in the fleet girlfriend problems didnt get to me bc of all my buddies and just barracks life (uk how it is haha). But now that Im home its tough, but staying motivated to live my life and move on
J_L_C Posted March 7, 2013 Posted March 7, 2013 Question: Do you believe in second chances for happiness?
grace777 Posted March 7, 2013 Posted March 7, 2013 Marine - I like this post. It's how I've been feeling too, lately. She will be hard pressed to find someone like me, and the love we shared. However, her life is hers to lead. She chose to lead it without me, so I am now leading my own. It's so empowering to finally feel like I am actually too good for her. I am the catch and she blew it. Time to find my own in this world. However, Dood, --- I'm disturbed... Really, you'd kill a man and then laugh about it? That's horrible.
Darren Steez Posted March 7, 2013 Posted March 7, 2013 We all would like to think we're so special. Some of us have idealized notions about romances/relationships. We never look at things cold and analytically, how can we, it's an affair of the heart. Two people come together, and only one side is putting in most of the work. We're so blinded by emotion, we ignore the obvious, the other person is just not doing enough. We brush aside the half truths, the subtle changes in behavior, we don't get back what we are giving. So when the split comes, you do what's natural, you fight, merely to save all the work you've done from your end, basically ignoring the fact that your partner never put in equal work or time, and over time just got less and less bothered with hiding it. 1
Seeking Happiness Posted March 7, 2013 Posted March 7, 2013 That was an excellent post!. I just went through the same thing. My Ex Boyfriend was stringing me along bigtime. After him calling me and talking to me for 3 hours one night I decided that this wasn't healthy for me. He told me he Loves me 3 times over the conversation. It confused me for a few days. I believe that actions speak louder than words so I knew what I had to do. I left a voicemail for him telling him I can't Dogsit his dog and that there are changes going on with me as I have to do what's best for me. We can't be friends I'm sorry. I thanked him for all of the nice things he did for me. Of course he "Freaked Out" right way within minutes calling and texting me. I have completely cut him out of my life. I can tell he can't stand this as he has no control over me and my emotions anymore. That feeling is incredible, I must say. I took control of my life because I care about myself more than I do him and his nonsense. I'm finally feeling better and you guys will too. I have been speaking to a great guy who makes me laugh a lot, that kinda helps . 1
SimonSerenade Posted March 7, 2013 Posted March 7, 2013 We all would like to think we're so special. Some of us have idealized notions about romances/relationships. We never look at things cold and analytically, how can we, it's an affair of the heart. Two people come together, and only one side is putting in most of the work. We're so blinded by emotion, we ignore the obvious, the other person is just not doing enough. We brush aside the half truths, the subtle changes in behavior, we don't get back what we are giving. So when the split comes, you do what's natural, you fight, merely to save all the work you've done from your end, basically ignoring the fact that your partner never put in equal work or time, and over time just got less and less bothered with hiding it. Man do I feel bad for being so happy Spurs beat Arsenal now because what you just said it exactly my situation, she never put any effort in, she'd say something out of line or do something out of line then wouldn't do a single thing to fix it, just ring me out of the blue and start talking like nothing had ever happened, man it really does a number on your mind.
spiritofjosh Posted March 7, 2013 Posted March 7, 2013 I mostly agree except not all break ups happen because the dumper doesn't "want" the other anymore. Sometimes people break up for good reasons even if both parties still love each other. Sometimes they stay apart but don't move on and then sometimes they end up back together because they individually grew during their break. This is rare, no doubt, but not impossible. Just a flipside to your original post.
Author Marine0311 Posted March 21, 2013 Author Posted March 21, 2013 I didnt feel like starting a new thread so maybe i will get some replies in here. My ex is home for a week and we have hungout twice. The first time I played it cool to see where things would go, she was cold, but I expected it. The second time she was more open and everything seemsd fine until I went in for a kiss and was shut down. Ive decided on strict no contact because I do not want to be friend zoned. I still love her and this will be very hard, but being in the friendzone will hurt more than anything. Strict NC until I feel I have completely moved on and then maybe I will reach out to her come July or something
travelonic Posted March 21, 2013 Posted March 21, 2013 IMO, in some cases I'd agree, but you can't blanket statement wanting an ex back as letting them walk all over you in a way that implies it is always true. Seriously.
Jono85 Posted March 21, 2013 Posted March 21, 2013 I didnt feel like starting a new thread so maybe i will get some replies in here. My ex is home for a week and we have hungout twice. The first time I played it cool to see where things would go, she was cold, but I expected it. The second time she was more open and everything seemsd fine until I went in for a kiss and was shut down. Ive decided on strict no contact because I do not want to be friend zoned. I still love her and this will be very hard, but being in the friendzone will hurt more than anything. Strict NC until I feel I have completely moved on and then maybe I will reach out to her come July or something lol so after that big rant you're basically still p*ssy-whipped by this chick?? sigh.
Ramzk001 Posted March 21, 2013 Posted March 21, 2013 I'm in a state of confusion aswell after taking back my Ex who contacted me. I took her back and being cool. Ive noticed too that one day she loves me and next day she look a bit changed. I know that still i am doing more not her, Im confused about one positive thing that she came back when she had many other options. She knew the drawbacks but still she did. Fact that she is not doing enough is getting on my nerves, but deep down i still want her and giving it a second chance. Sense of improving myself is increasing, I know i have to be independent, I have to love myself to get out of this deadlock.
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