chida37 Posted March 7, 2013 Posted March 7, 2013 My girlfriend broke up with me 3 days ago because she said she wanted sometime for herself and since she will be starting work soon she doesn't want our relationship to be a distraction as we fight more than normal couples. I went NC for 3 days last night she called me crying...I wanted to keep NC but I couldn't seeing how she was crying I got weak. I proposed a plan to her, I said that I want to show her that I can change and be the guy she needs but at the same time I also mentioned that this doesn't mean we're getting back together. I said that I don't want either of us to have any obligations or expectations for each other. I said if I meet someone else during this time I will tell her and vice versa. After listening to my proposal she made it clear that she is not ready to get back with me. She agreed to this plan and said that I don't have to worry because she won't be looking for anyone, and now we're in LC. I texted her first today and asked her how her day was, she responded with a good and asked how my day ways, I said good and it's been 6 hours sine I've heard from her. How did I handle the situation? How do I slowly reer her back? And most importantly how would you analyze her response?
Author chida37 Posted March 7, 2013 Author Posted March 7, 2013 I forgot to mention that, I really do love her and want to get back with her ASAP
Dood Posted March 7, 2013 Posted March 7, 2013 Bro we have our weak moments. Also, I know your pain you can visit my thread in this same freaking section. Your not going to get back asap if at all. I know this and accept that with my own female problem. However, like you I'm in love as well and logic always loses to emotion for some reason. We have to tread slow man. I want my ex back like last month, however, it hasn't happened. I am no expert on the whole NC/LC thing, but I know this, until last Friday when my ex called me I was starting to get better at 3 weeks into nc. Was I still thinking of her daily, yup, but was the pain starting to subside...yup. However, she broke NC and that brought all crashing right back onto me. So NC will help you heal, give you time to assess your relationship and more importantly yourself. Figure out where things went wrong and why. That is what I have been trying to do and I've learned a lot lately. Also, do yourself a favor. Grab some of your buddies this weekend and go have an adventure. Have a good time. You need it.
Author chida37 Posted March 7, 2013 Author Posted March 7, 2013 So you think I messed up by proposing that idea to her? Sigh...I really dont know what to do...
Author chida37 Posted March 7, 2013 Author Posted March 7, 2013 Please...I really need someone to help me with this...
Author chida37 Posted March 7, 2013 Author Posted March 7, 2013 please someone help....I dont know how to deal with this at all....
thewrongonee Posted March 7, 2013 Posted March 7, 2013 If you want her back, start NC and stick with it for a while, 2-3 weeks. you need to give her space, she loves you and clearly isent ready to move on yet, so just do your own thing and have fun. you both have issues that need to be worked on, time allows you to think about the relationship and what went wrong.
NoLeafClover Posted March 7, 2013 Posted March 7, 2013 So you presented her a proposal huh, Nice nice Did you like...give her a "Requirements" form as well. Perhaps including your "functional and non functional dependencies" in there. Maybe get a Gannt chart in there with your daily schedule when to plant to talk and who does what while you're at it. Cmon man, don't fall for the tears. I know it's hard, but you should know better than give in so quick. It's only been 3 days. Now you gave her the ego boost. One day you will text her how she is doing, then she will reply, AWESOME I AM GOING OUT WITH THIS ONE GUY or she might not reply...and you will feel like crap. Pick and choose - feel like crap later and hurt for a long time or feel like crap now and feel awesome for good later. How is that for a proposal.
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