Marthulhu Posted March 7, 2013 Posted March 7, 2013 So I'm 24, turning 25 in a couple of months. And, outside of a couple awkward dates in high school, I've never really been on a date. No relationship experience, virgin, etc. You name it, I haven't done it. I won't bore you with a long explanation as to how this came to be, although I'm happy to answer any questions you may have. The point of the matter is that, while I'm generally a pretty introverted person, I feel a lot more confident around girls than I have over the last few years, and really I just feel more socially confident in general. So I want to get out there and start dating. I just don't know what the hell I'm doing. I'm giving online dating a try, haven't had any luck yet but I'm really just starting out so I'll keep at it. Trying to get out a little more and meet more people in person too, so we'll see how that goes. But I'm pretty nervous about my lack of experience. I mean, I'm obviously not going to confess all of this on a first date, but it will come up at some point. I don't know, I go back and forth between feeling pretty optimistic and worrying that I'll make a ton of mistakes and completely embarrass myself. I tend to worry about all sorts of crap, it's just my nature, and being years and years behind most people in the dating pool isn't helping. (Is it... is it a literal pool? This is the sort of thing I don't know!) So, yeah. I'm hoping age 25 will be the year I get out there and kick some ass (not literally, I imagine that would make a bad first impression), but self-doubt is making it tough at times. I know I just have to get out there and get over it, because the longer I put it off the worse it will be, but any sort of advice on how to minimise making an idiot of myself would be greatly appreciated.
iKING Posted March 7, 2013 Posted March 7, 2013 The only way you're going to learn is through experience. Don't look at mistakes as world-ending. They are opportunities to grow and they're inevitable. A man who has never made a mistakes has never tried anything new. Making a big deal out of inexperience is going to do just that - make it a big deal. Believe in yourself and do not fear, most of all have fun. Keep a light heart and you'll keep from getting down on yourself.
Soxfaninfl Posted March 7, 2013 Posted March 7, 2013 The only way you're going to learn is through experience. Don't look at mistakes as world-ending. They are opportunities to grow and they're inevitable. A man who has never made a mistakes has never tried anything new. Making a big deal out of inexperience is going to do just that - make it a big deal. Believe in yourself and do not fear, most of all have fun. Keep a light heart and you'll keep from getting down on yourself. Great post iKING. I couldn't have said it better myself. OP give online dating a chance. Don't get discouraged if some women don't answer. Keep at it and eventually you'll get a response and click with someone and go on a date. I wish you luck.
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