Lambchoper Posted March 7, 2013 Posted March 7, 2013 Can a man put a woman who he find extremely attractive in the friend zone even if they never had sex? Even if the woman is interested in him? Or does it eventually explode into something else? And why? If so, please share some examples of situations.
Author Lambchoper Posted March 7, 2013 Author Posted March 7, 2013 What if it's sexual but not romantic? and they are not celebate or religious?
bodhesatva Posted March 7, 2013 Posted March 7, 2013 Can a man put a woman who he find extremely attractive in the friend zone even if they never had sex? Even if the woman is interested in him? Or does it eventually explode into something else? And why? If so, please share some examples of situations. The reason the "friendzone" exists in the first place is that the person doing the friendzoning isn't attracted sexually to the other person. So starting the converastion with "a girl I am totally attracted to but who I friendzone anyway" is going to be uncommon. Yes, men "friendzone" lots and lots of women -- the ones they don't find attractive. Of course, guys are often less courteous about it than are women. Typically instead of "friendzoning" these women, they just look right through them, as if they were invisible. As we are sort of doing in this thread.
Lonely Ronin Posted March 7, 2013 Posted March 7, 2013 Can a man put a woman who he find extremely attractive in the friend zone even if they never had sex? Even if the woman is interested in him? Or does it eventually explode into something else? And why? If so, please share some examples of situations. Yep, it can. I have done it once already this year, and twice last year. All 3 women where very physically attractive to me, but personalty wise we where not a match.
Author Lambchoper Posted March 7, 2013 Author Posted March 7, 2013 If you guys start hanging out a lot more, can that change?
Estate Posted March 7, 2013 Posted March 7, 2013 Can a man put a woman who he find extremely attractive in the friend zone even if they never had sex? Even if the woman is interested in him? Or does it eventually explode into something else? And why? If so, please share some examples of situations. Of course... I won't say I've done it often, if I find a girl attractive I'll want to persue her. But there have been instances where there was some sort of mix in our social circle where it was best not to persue. I also dated a girl last year for a little bit, we hadn't slept together btu I felt it fizzling and met someone else at the same time... she got back in touch later, she's a really pretty and lovely girl who I'd usually have had no problem seeing but since it didn't click first time, I know friends is just better for us now. Quite often I've seen guys who have alot of options do this too. I went to school with a guy (when I was young and really shy) who'd just brush off the most insanely hot girls just because he could.
Lonely Ronin Posted March 7, 2013 Posted March 7, 2013 If you guys start hanging out a lot more, can that change? what do you mean?
Author Lambchoper Posted March 7, 2013 Author Posted March 7, 2013 Well how much do you actually talk to these girls as considered friends? Is it you see each other once in a while, or on a regular basis? If you guys start hanging out more, people usually find more things in common and if you are sexually attracted to them, can it turn to something?
Lonely Ronin Posted March 7, 2013 Posted March 7, 2013 Well how much do you actually talk to these girls as considered friends? Is it you see each other once in a while, or on a regular basis? If you guys start hanging out more, people usually find more things in common and if you are sexually attracted to them, can it turn to something? One I only see every month or two as our social circles only have a few people in common. One i see every other week or so, and the last girl I see maybe twice a week on average, as we have a lot of the same friends. For me, it's not so much about finding more things in common, it's about the fact that some of the things we don't are very important to me.
MrCastle Posted March 7, 2013 Posted March 7, 2013 Or does it eventually explode into something else? [/Quote] She explodes. Into flames. 1
CudLRoo Posted March 7, 2013 Posted March 7, 2013 Well how much do you actually talk to these girls as considered friends? Is it you see each other once in a while, or on a regular basis? If you guys start hanging out more, people usually find more things in common and if you are sexually attracted to them, can it turn to something? It always has with me (well, usually, lol) because if I've gotten to know someone, then my warm n'cool personality usually rubs off, they just want to be around me and not let go - not being big-headed here, I used to be a massive self-critic, just making up for it, why not, it's the truth??!! Anyway, gotta be kind to myself. Rather than have 17 one-night stands and one date-rape (the British 'lad' norm), I've had three longish-term relationships with friends that have been a lot deeper than many marriages I've heard of. Yeah, they ended, but all maturely and amicably and I still love all of them dearly and if they ever need any help, they'll get help. I'm a little bit alpha, a lot bit beta, but I'm also kind of psycho/alpha/disco/beta, I'm into stuff like Parliament,they like this style, this seems to generally pull me close female friends, though I f*cked up on a recent attempt, so I may be getting rusty! It's DEFINITELY possible.
Archgirl Posted March 7, 2013 Posted March 7, 2013 She explodes. Into flames. You know what you are right? 1
Archgirl Posted March 7, 2013 Posted March 7, 2013 And that's news? I'm not laughing at your jokes until you go like my awesome comeback on the other thread
Author Lambchoper Posted March 7, 2013 Author Posted March 7, 2013 It always has with me (well, usually, lol) because if I've gotten to know someone, then my warm n'cool personality usually rubs off, they just want to be around me and not let go - not being big-headed here, I used to be a massive self-critic, just making up for it, why not, it's the truth??!! Anyway, gotta be kind to myself. Rather than have 17 one-night stands and one date-rape (the British 'lad' norm), I've had three longish-term relationships with friends that have been a lot deeper than many marriages I've heard of. Yeah, they ended, but all maturely and amicably and I still love all of them dearly and if they ever need any help, they'll get help. I'm a little bit alpha, a lot bit beta, but I'm also kind of psycho/alpha/disco/beta, I'm into stuff like Parliament,they like this style, this seems to generally pull me close female friends, though I f*cked up on a recent attempt, so I may be getting rusty! It's DEFINITELY possible. Hmm. I feel like when I get to know someone so well, and we haven't had any sexual contact, I don't think of them in a sexual way. I bet it was weird making that transition.
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