kaitracid2010 Posted March 7, 2013 Posted March 7, 2013 ok first of all i already have a thread on here about my situation with the ex... so i will try to keep this as short as possible... firstly i have blocked the ex just over one week ago... she cannot email me, i have changed my mobile number, so no way for her to contact me. so this morning, i check my post & i find a letter addressed to me, with her hand writing... now my guess is, more than likely this letter is full of accusations & abuse... or maybe, just maybe, but i very much doubt it... it could be a letter, about wanting to talk to me. i have not opened it, as i do not want to expose myself to anymore hurt. the last bit of contact i had with her, she was mocking me, blaming me for everything as per usual, showed me no sense of sympathy, and was laughing & joking about the situation. she also claimed not to be single, and in the same breath, claimed when she is out & about she will be on the pull... that makes no sense at all pretty much she has proven to me, she is a nasty person, who just wants to hurt me. so should i just bin this letter? i am very very curious as to what is says
Chi townD Posted March 7, 2013 Posted March 7, 2013 Hard to say. That's completely up to you. Could be a hundred different things. Could be more of blaming you for everything. Could be an explaination of why she did what she did and it was probably your fault in one way or another. Could be pics of her having sex and rubbing your nose in it, or it could be an apology. Choice is yours dude.
emmalynro Posted March 7, 2013 Posted March 7, 2013 The fact that you haven't torn it open already means you have plenty of distance and self-discipline, so this thing isn't going to break you. Go right ahead. If it makes you feel better, ask some friends over and make a drinking game of it. It's obvious that this chick is toxic. If her letter is anything short of begging for mercy like a hostage at gunpoint then just let it go. If she is really apologizing then maybe you can say you forgive her, wish her well in life.
Author kaitracid2010 Posted March 7, 2013 Author Posted March 7, 2013 knowing her the way i do... i doubt it will be an apology & i doubt it will be her wanting reconciliation... too much has happened... when i was with her, she treated me quite bad, then she eventually dumped me. push & pull, push & pull.... it was like i was part of game. she treated me with a lot of dis respect... made me feel very small.. she would ignore me for days on end, once for a full week & avoided me even on new years eve!! called me names... SOFT BOY, FAIRY, CRAP BOYFRIEND, NOBB HEAD i lost my confidence, became weak, always chasing her, always apologising for everything & she never lifted her finger to make up once. not too any blame... so whats the point reading this letter? she booked a singles holiday, behind my back, while we was together. i doubt reading this letter will change anything... the fact is, i deeply loved her & she mis treated me for it, and used that love against me. i do not trust her... so why read the letter... the curiosity is killing me... but my gut tells me, this letter will bring me more hurt. and even if she is groveling in this letter, for another chance (i doubt that) should i even give a person like this another chance. i wish she had not sent me this, i was getting stronger... now i am stressing again!
na49 Posted March 7, 2013 Posted March 7, 2013 I don't know her like you know her, but would she really send you a letter to insult you? I'm sure it's some type of apology with something along the lines of "I know you hate me, I just wanted to apologize for everything. I hope we can be friends" 1
Author kaitracid2010 Posted March 7, 2013 Author Posted March 7, 2013 I don't know her like you know her, but would she really send you a letter to insult you? I'm sure it's some type of apology with something along the lines of "I know you hate me, I just wanted to apologize for everything. I hope we can be friends" this woman is so bitter & toxic, i would not put it past her... i mean what woman dumps her boyfriend, then one week later blatantly rubs it in his face, that she is not single.... does she not realise how much hurt that would cause me... did she care... no, not one bit how could i even consider being freinds with some like this... she ripped my heart out
CaliBabe Posted March 7, 2013 Posted March 7, 2013 I'd get yourself a stiff drink first... Then open it. 2
Author kaitracid2010 Posted March 7, 2013 Author Posted March 7, 2013 my gut tells me, she may had been seeing someone,while with me, and or is seeing someone now.... i don't think i should expose myself to anymore hurt
KraftDinner Posted March 7, 2013 Posted March 7, 2013 If you decide not to read it, don't just bin it...mark it "Return to sender" and put it back in the mail. Clear message that you have no interest in reading her BS. 10
Author kaitracid2010 Posted March 7, 2013 Author Posted March 7, 2013 that is a good idea!!!! as i was thinking about binning it... there are only 3 possible out comes to this... 01) she wants to be freinds? hell no! after the way she treated me & she is probably with next man already... not a chance we could be friends, plus i still have strong feelings for her. 02) she wants to blame me for everything & is sending more abuse my way.. in that case why expose myself to that, had enough of that already 03) she wants to reconcile? i still love her... but did she really love me, then why even treat me like a complete mug in the first place... why push me away & pull me in again, like a toy, for the last 4 months... is that how you treat someone you love. i think sending the letter back is the only option left 1
drpepper1886 Posted March 7, 2013 Posted March 7, 2013 that is a good idea!!!! as i was thinking about binning it... there are only 3 possible out comes to this... 01) she wants to be freinds? hell no! after the way she treated me & she is probably with next man already... not a chance we could be friends, plus i still have strong feelings for her. 02) she wants to blame me for everything & is sending more abuse my way.. in that case why expose myself to that, had enough of that already 03) she wants to reconcile? i still love her... but did she really love me, then why even treat me like a complete mug in the first place... why push me away & pull me in again, like a toy, for the last 4 months... is that how you treat someone you love. i think sending the letter back is the only option left I agree with you, If someone wants to reconcile she'd be at your doorstep. I'd imagine she just wrote a bunch more excuses to relieve her guilt. Send it back and her packing along with it.
fancy feast Posted March 7, 2013 Posted March 7, 2013 Treat it like any other piece of mail. If you're interested in what it's saying, keep reading. If it starts to sound like junk mail, trash it and carry on with your business.
KatZee Posted March 7, 2013 Posted March 7, 2013 I'd open it. The curiosity will drive you nuts. Read it, re-seal and return to sender, and don't give a response. 1
Chi townD Posted March 7, 2013 Posted March 7, 2013 Oh hell with it. Open it and if its about blaming you about everything. Make it into a paper airplane and have a blast!!
Amelie1980 Posted March 7, 2013 Posted March 7, 2013 Don't send it back. any reaction is a reaction even sending it back will spark another reaction. Just put it somewhere until you decide what to do with it. Imagine sending a handwritten letter and getting no reaction at all....exactly. 1
Author kaitracid2010 Posted March 7, 2013 Author Posted March 7, 2013 i did not sleep most of the night... i have not read the letter i really loved this woman, but she just treated me like garbage & just binned me, when it suited her... she is out & about meeting other men, maybe sleeping around. she even told me that is what she will be doing. the only reason for me to read this letter is... if i wanto get back with her i miss her.... my heart wants her back.... but my brain is telling me, your a complete fool dont know what to do
TaraMaiden Posted March 7, 2013 Posted March 7, 2013 In my opinion you have 3 options: ONE: Get someone sympathetic to you and aware of your situation to open it, and read it FOR you. Not TO you, FOR you. If they see nothing good, to screw it up, put it in their pocket, tell you, "Forget it man, just more schytt." and throw it away later, away from you so you're not tempted to grab it out of the bin and read the toxic poison she 's written this time.... TWO: "Return to Sender". The reason she wrote this way was because she realises you have her blocked every other way. Getting it back, unopened will simply confirm your total disinterest and refusal to play her game. THREE: Burn it, unopened. I say: Definitely DON'T read it - and choose option 2. 1
Author kaitracid2010 Posted March 7, 2013 Author Posted March 7, 2013 i hear you tara see the way i see it is..... the only reason why i should even consider reading this letter is.... IF I WANT HER BACK IN MY LIFE i do love her, and miss her.... but i think she could end up ruining my life!!!! please read my other threads on her, as i am feeling quite confused right now
aussie sam Posted March 7, 2013 Posted March 7, 2013 I'm dying to know what it says! But I have to agree with the rest of the mob on sending it back unopened. I think it will reinforce (to both of you) that she has no power to communicate with you, and that you aren't jumping on every crumb she tries to feed you. I admire your strength.
Neffer Posted March 7, 2013 Posted March 7, 2013 Read it or throw it out. Sending it back just smacks of drama and will continue the cycle. Just get on with your life. 1
fixing Posted March 7, 2013 Posted March 7, 2013 Read it, then burn it, and stamp on the ashes! Otherwise it will nag away at you not knowing what it says. Dont respond though. Leave her wondering if you ever received it.
SharkTooth Posted March 7, 2013 Posted March 7, 2013 "Return to Sender" unopened. From the sounds of your progress, you'll forget about the letter in 2 weeks and this will be a monumental step in your recovery. Good Luck
TaraMaiden Posted March 7, 2013 Posted March 7, 2013 i hear you tara see the way i see it is..... the only reason why i should even consider reading this letter is.... IF I WANT HER BACK IN MY LIFE i do love her, and miss her.... but i think she could end up ruining my life!!!! please read my other threads on her, as i am feeling quite confused right now I don't need to read your other threads. And your confusion is palpable. We have differing opinions - but WE'RE not confused. Choose the option you believe will hurt and affect you least. If you open it, your curiosity will be satisfied - but your emotions will be put through the meat-grinder once again. That is akin to you getting in your car, going to the hard ware store, buying 3 feet of razor wire, a pack of darning needles and two jagged-tooth bulldog clips. So you nasal-floss with the razor-wire, stick the needles under your nails and into your eyes, and attach the tooth-edged bulldog clips directly to your balls. How's that feeling now? Well, if you want to feel marginally worse - open it.
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