Fmrbrknhrt22 Posted March 7, 2013 Posted March 7, 2013 It's been a little over a year since I ended things with my ex. She has her man so far as I know and has a whole new social circle. She's always been great at making friends and carrying a great energy with her. I'm sure she's very busy and happy in her life, but the truth is, I haven't spoken to her in 10 months so I don't know for sure. So what have I learned since things ended a year ago? 1. Don't settle-It's easy to feel pressured by our ex's and even our friends who are involved in a serious relationship with someone to quickly find someone to call our significant other, even if we don't feel strongly about them. Resist the urge and take your time. 2. Don't compare yourself to your ex-My ex is a great person. Like I said before, people gravitate to her positive energy. But at the end of the day, I have to carve out a niche for myself and gravitate my energy towards things and people I enjoy. I can't try and compete with her in terms of having a better looking partner, more friends, etc. Pointless and a waste of time. 3. It's Natural to Miss her when there's no one special in your life-Pretty self explanatory. I guess you could say I've hit kind of a dry patch with women and the dating scene. It's easy to reminesce about your ex during these times, but you just have to stay strong, don't look at her facebook page, and concentrate on improving yourself each day As of right now, I guess you could say I am feeling a little down and frustrated by women. But I thinking writing these things out and emphasizing the positive help and hopefully give people some reassurance who feel that they're nothing without their ex in their life again. 2
lilacwine Posted March 7, 2013 Posted March 7, 2013 It's been a little over a year since I ended things with my ex. She has her man so far as I know and has a whole new social circle. She's always been great at making friends and carrying a great energy with her. I'm sure she's very busy and happy in her life, but the truth is, I haven't spoken to her in 10 months so I don't know for sure. So what have I learned since things ended a year ago? 1. Don't settle-It's easy to feel pressured by our ex's and even our friends who are involved in a serious relationship with someone to quickly find someone to call our significant other, even if we don't feel strongly about them. Resist the urge and take your time. 2. Don't compare yourself to your ex-My ex is a great person. Like I said before, people gravitate to her positive energy. But at the end of the day, I have to carve out a niche for myself and gravitate my energy towards things and people I enjoy. I can't try and compete with her in terms of having a better looking partner, more friends, etc. Pointless and a waste of time. 3. It's Natural to Miss her when there's no one special in your life-Pretty self explanatory. I guess you could say I've hit kind of a dry patch with women and the dating scene. It's easy to reminesce about your ex during these times, but you just have to stay strong, don't look at her facebook page, and concentrate on improving yourself each day As of right now, I guess you could say I am feeling a little down and frustrated by women. But I thinking writing these things out and emphasizing the positive help and hopefully give people some reassurance who feel that they're nothing without their ex in their life again. If she's such a great person, why you broke up with her? i don't get it. Do you ever consider going back to her?
Author Fmrbrknhrt22 Posted March 7, 2013 Author Posted March 7, 2013 I tried it once, didn't feel right. Took her back, worked for awhile, but realized I just wasnt in love with the girl or happy. Doesn't matter how great a girl she was, just wasnt the love of my life. 1
Amelie1980 Posted March 7, 2013 Posted March 7, 2013 (edited) I tried it once, didn't feel right. Took her back, worked for awhile, but realized I just wasnt in love with the girl or happy. Doesn't matter how great a girl she was, just wasnt the love of my life. Why not? What did she do wrong? I find it astonishing for a dumper to be posting in coping because they are down after they dumped a lovely girl twice probably hurting her lots. Edited March 7, 2013 by Amelie1980
purplereigncb Posted March 7, 2013 Posted March 7, 2013 Why not? What did she do wrong? I find it astonishing for a dumper to be posting in coping because they are down after they dumped a lovely girl twice probably hurting her lots. yes.... do tell?
Author Fmrbrknhrt22 Posted March 7, 2013 Author Posted March 7, 2013 I will try and condense this as much as possible. a. met ex at a poetry meeting, became friends b. made out with ex prior to leaving to study abroad c. got back from study abroad, considered dating d. backed out and a few weeks later decided to give it a shot e. ended things after a month, didn't feel right f. 6 months later after a lot of thinking, gave things another shot g. a week later, she ended it on my bday, next day changed her mind h. Cuddled with another girl while on vacation a week later (felt awful, bad mistake), didn't tell her until 4 months later, she was devastated i. she gave me another chance, we dated for a total of 10 months j. ended things with her, once again DIDNT feel right I put this girl through a lot and I did feel bad about it. We were good friends and I thought we could maybe take things to the next level because she was a cute girl and we got along so well. I also realize now that both of us had a lot of growing up to do and I just really wanted a companion. She was a great companion, but my feelings for her were hot and cold romantically. I miss her as a person and like I said, when you are having a dry spell in the dating scene, it can be easy to think about what you once had in your last serious r-ship. But don't drag someone along for the ride of being in a serious r-ship unless you really feel strongly. I settled for someone I cared about, but was never in love with or extremely attracted to and it turned out poorly. We learn from our mistakes and move on.
AKisBaked Posted March 8, 2013 Posted March 8, 2013 It's been a little over a year since I ended things with my ex. She has her man so far as I know and has a whole new social circle. She's always been great at making friends and carrying a great energy with her. I'm sure she's very busy and happy in her life, but the truth is, I haven't spoken to her in 10 months so I don't know for sure. So what have I learned since things ended a year ago? 1. Don't settle-It's easy to feel pressured by our ex's and even our friends who are involved in a serious relationship with someone to quickly find someone to call our significant other, even if we don't feel strongly about them. Resist the urge and take your time. 2. Don't compare yourself to your ex-My ex is a great person. Like I said before, people gravitate to her positive energy. But at the end of the day, I have to carve out a niche for myself and gravitate my energy towards things and people I enjoy. I can't try and compete with her in terms of having a better looking partner, more friends, etc. Pointless and a waste of time. 3. It's Natural to Miss her when there's no one special in your life-Pretty self explanatory. I guess you could say I've hit kind of a dry patch with women and the dating scene. It's easy to reminesce about your ex during these times, but you just have to stay strong, don't look at her facebook page, and concentrate on improving yourself each day As of right now, I guess you could say I am feeling a little down and frustrated by women. But I thinking writing these things out and emphasizing the positive help and hopefully give people some reassurance who feel that they're nothing without their ex in their life again. Couldn't have said it better than myself. I will be looking back on this thread when it hits my 1 year of a break up But hopefully a year from now I won't be thinking of her... she will just be a distant memory of mine
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