youaremysunshine Posted March 6, 2013 Posted March 6, 2013 Do you ever feel restless and dissatisfied with life? I have come so far from the person I used to be and I'm doing all the things I should be. I'm in college ajd for the first time in years i have a safe place to live, with nice, sane people. But I long to throw it away. I guess I value reckless in myself and others. I'm scared of growing up, that my adventure is over. I'm a fiery person and I have always wanted my life to have meaning and impact. I'm in social work but I'm frustrated by the bureaucracy and limitations. I'm also dating a smart, introverted man. I want a loving, stable relationship, but crave passion and excitement. All of my previous relationships were firery train wrecks, mostly short lived. I'm at once desirous and repulsed by love. I think about marriage and family a lot and it scares me. I'm 23, maybe I'm just becoming an adult and leaving my wild years behind.
MsSmurf Posted March 7, 2013 Posted March 7, 2013 Well there is a huge difference between doing something wild and exciting and doing something wild and reckless. If you want the former then I think many people feel that way. That's when you do something spontaneous.... go on a road trip, go sky diving, dirty dance in a bar, etc. I think it is very normal to feel restless and dissatisfied as a 20something because you're still figuring things out and everything is constantly changing. As for work... if you hate the bureaucracy of social work now, guess what? You'll hate it in the future. It may be time to reexamine your career aspirations and find a better fit for yourself. It sounds like you wish your bf were a little more exciting and if you want to be with him that is something you both can work on. Try something new and spontaneous together, create your own adventure, and spark up some passion. You can certainly enjoy all of those things in a stable and loving relationship. I also think it is ok to be a little scared of marriage and kids right now, that just means you aren't ready for that yet and that is ok. Many 20somethings aren't ready and that doesn't mean you're strange.
todreaminblue Posted March 7, 2013 Posted March 7, 2013 Do you ever feel restless and dissatisfied with life? I have come so far from the person I used to be and I'm doing all the things I should be. I'm in college ajd for the first time in years i have a safe place to live, with nice, sane people. But I long to throw it away. I guess I value reckless in myself and others. I'm scared of growing up, that my adventure is over. I'm a fiery person and I have always wanted my life to have meaning and impact. I'm in social work but I'm frustrated by the bureaucracy and limitations. I'm also dating a smart, introverted man. I want a loving, stable relationship, but crave passion and excitement. All of my previous relationships were firery train wrecks, mostly short lived. I'm at once desirous and repulsed by love. I think about marriage and family a lot and it scares me. I'm 23, maybe I'm just becoming an adult and leaving my wild years behind. I am restless but not in that way.......i feel unanchored and restless is what i feel, i would love to explore a truly good relationship as i felt i have not had that yet one that was mutual and equal......, i have to have an anchor a feeling of safety, security and mutual love, then in that safe and secure environment i am free to be who i am ....once i wouldnt have cared, i have done a lot of things by myself, i have done some amazing thing met some awesome people , seen some gorgeous places, i like to share.......if i had not had family i would be on a mission somewhere.......doing something i believe in...now...i am doing soemthing i believe in, following a path i hadnt taken before and keeping one i always have had...my family, and one day i will have an empty nest....when i do ....thats when ill make plans to do something that i have dreamed of and i am ready to tell my dreams to someone special...so i am not repulsed by love...scared yeah but not repulsed....its a wonderful thing to have............deb 1
Author youaremysunshine Posted March 7, 2013 Author Posted March 7, 2013 To dream in blue, I find myself dreaming of that. To be completely safe and secure and warm yet free to be my self. I want an anchor with a long chain. But for some reason I believe that's not meant for me. Full disclosure, I lived on the streets intermittently as a teenager. I was headstrong and made mistakes. I KNOW I am meant to work with street youth. The social service industry is just frustrating. I would love to go traveling on a drop of a hat. A road trip is my dream. I've never been out of the city that I live in. Unfortunately I struggle to survive and stay in school, even with loans. I'm tied to my job as well. I also have a lease on an apartment I share with two successful young professionals. I am actually proud of myself But sometimes I feel like an animal with its paw caught in a trap you know?
MsSmurf Posted March 8, 2013 Posted March 8, 2013 Full disclosure, I lived on the streets intermittently as a teenager. I was headstrong and made mistakes. I KNOW I am meant to work with street youth. The social service industry is just frustrating. Ahhh this I understand and admire. It is very important that you find a sense of balance in your life however. The red tape, hoops, hurdles, and bs you'll have to deal with in social work will never go away and it will probably get worse. If you're determined to work in that industry then in order to survive and stay healthy you will need to find something that grounds you and makes you feel at peace within. Perhaps a creative pursuit? Some form of exercise? A quirky hobby? I would love to go traveling on a drop of a hat. A road trip is my dream. I've never been out of the city that I live in. Unfortunately I struggle to survive and stay in school, even with loans. I'm tied to my job as well. I also have a lease on an apartment I share with two successful young professionals. I am actually proud of myself But sometimes I feel like an animal with its paw caught in a trap you know? Ahh yes finances do make it difficult to see all that we wish to see in the world. However you don't have to go far to curb that urge to explore. My funds have also been quite limited for some time and I appease my inner explorer by uncovering hidden gems locally. I love to hike so I check out nearby trails I haven't been to. I love to dine out so I try restaurants off the beaten path. I take different routes to work and school at times just to see what new things I might find. I also attend every free or low cost cultural event I can cram into my schedule so that in some small way I'm experiencing the world until my finances shift and allow for travel. You too could try some of this to keep from feeling trapped.
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