picstr Posted March 6, 2013 Posted March 6, 2013 I posted a novel a week or so ago for therapy. First off I have no business being in a relationship right now, I am in therapy and right now we are trying to pinpoint the issue's. So far, low self esteem(huge understatement), and the Dr. believes I suffer from relationship codependency. I just can't figure out why I'm having a hard time letting go of this woman. We had a huge connection and we were very attracted to each other. I am the dumpee, she couldn't handle the conflict. BTW there were really no arguments just simply differences of opinion. To be honest I think this was just an excuse. I'm on day 10 of NC. There is a part of my brain that would take her back right now, the logical part of my brain says this: No job. 3 kids. In a lot of debt. And an STD. This woman has no job skill that I know of. I do not have an aversion to children but at this point in my life I'd rather not have to be a Dad again. We got physical but not at the risk of me getting anything. I found out about the std on our second date. So I was willing to be the sole provider for her and her kids, soak up her debt AND be exposed sooner or later to an STD? Seriously? I swear sometimes we men are the stupidest beings on the planet. I need validation that this breakup is a good thing. Please someone remind me again why this woman is a huge train wreck! I need to be set straight here. I need it raw and impolite. Picstr
Mr Reptile Posted March 6, 2013 Posted March 6, 2013 I posted a novel a week or so ago for therapy. First off I have no business being in a relationship right now, I am in therapy and right now we are trying to pinpoint the issue's. So far, low self esteem(huge understatement), and the Dr. believes I suffer from relationship codependency. I just can't figure out why I'm having a hard time letting go of this woman. We had a huge connection and we were very attracted to each other. I am the dumpee, she couldn't handle the conflict. BTW there were really no arguments just simply differences of opinion. To be honest I think this was just an excuse. I'm on day 10 of NC. There is a part of my brain that would take her back right now, the logical part of my brain says this: No job. 3 kids. In a lot of debt. And an STD. This woman has no job skill that I know of. I do not have an aversion to children but at this point in my life I'd rather not have to be a Dad again. We got physical but not at the risk of me getting anything. I found out about the std on our second date. So I was willing to be the sole provider for her and her kids, soak up her debt AND be exposed sooner or later to an STD? Seriously? I swear sometimes we men are the stupidest beings on the planet. I need validation that this breakup is a good thing. Please someone remind me again why this woman is a huge train wreck! I need to be set straight here. I need it raw and impolite. Picstr You answered your own question. It doesn't have to be fights and all that for a relationship to break, some people just loose feelings. Whatever you do, don't take her back! She left and gave up when it was getting difficult, she's not worthy you.
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