Steve11 Posted March 6, 2013 Posted March 6, 2013 I contacted, asked to get my stuff, she said she'd give it to a friend because its too hard at the moment to see me. I text back agreeing and asking if she was ok, she said no, not at all. So I told her how I felt, no response. I'm trying to stay NC but I'm finding it really difficult. I miss her so much. I'm having real difficulty moving on, finding any motivation or anything. I'm struggling to eat, sleep, talk to people. I know NC is the best option, but I find it so hard.
drpepper1886 Posted March 6, 2013 Posted March 6, 2013 Most of the things worth anything in life are usually hard in some way.
Author Steve11 Posted March 6, 2013 Author Posted March 6, 2013 I can't bare thinking of life without her. She meant everything to me and I feel like I f-cked it all up. It's been 2 weeks now and I'm still going mental.
gravi1 Posted March 6, 2013 Posted March 6, 2013 Dear friend, I too suffered with the same problem of cutting contact. My dearest was cheating on me, well the last incident was realy bad, she was already pregnant as she said 3 months then. She tricked me to be with someone and I confirmed her behavior and actions with cell records that I got with her permission. She said it wont happen again and that she loves me and wants to be with me etc. I told her that it was over that day the 11th of January this year, but I kept backtracking it was and is just too painfull and I really want to believe her and make this pain go away. I slept with her I spoke to her hours asking why, telling her how I felt etc, she was somewhat arrogant with some questions and not very open and forthcoming, made me feel even more betrayed asif she protects the other guy, made me feel more unspecial and unwanted.I kept contacting her until 14 days ago (I do count the days-feels like forever). I just felt worst off because nothing she says can take away what she did, doesnt help me to sleep with her, that beautiful spacial thing that only we shared is no more, so abruptly gone. Long story I found it extremely hard near impossible, I too felt like if there is only somthing more I can say to make things right, if I can say something that will make her feel my pain and react to it, but I thing my cries only boosts her ego nothing else, she only text me in the beggining because as a human being she felt sorry for me. Please try to cut contact, begin with eliminating everything that will and can remind you of her-everything, if things are not too valuable leave them, get rid of anything do it impulsively dont think about them dont categorize or rank things. If its still hard do it in segments, try two days no contact, dont give yourself reasons to want to contact her, then add days as you go, It will never be easy, infact it become a little difficult on no contact, but your doings and thoughts and feelings are safe with you they have no further implications Too long but I do know how it goes down and feels I do
coralie Posted March 7, 2013 Posted March 7, 2013 Hang in there. I'm feeling the same way. You have to keep up the NC. It doesn't actually feel better even if you do contact her right? It ends up feeling worse. Take it one day at a time. I know I'm trying to convince myself of the same because we know NC is the right thing, but it's driving me crazy trying to get through every single day. Time will eventually lessen the pain.
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