counterman Posted March 6, 2013 Posted March 6, 2013 I had a date set up yesterday with a girl I met a few days ago. I thought our first meeting went really well, as she was laughing and smiling and seemed really enthusiastic. I set up a date on the spot, date and location. I sent her a text the day before to confirm the date, to which she didn't reply, but I thought since she had agreed to the date and seemed excited, that she would show up. Well, she didn't. And this is my first time being stood up. I must admit, I was a little bit disappointed. After waiting for about 5 to 10 minutes, I gave her a call, to which there was no reply. Then, I just moved on and met some friends. Later last night, she sent me a text with her friend's phone and apologised for not being able to reply. She said her phone was broken and that if I want to message her, I should message her at this new number. So, I'm just wondering, what do you say to something like that? She didn't even say anything about our scheduled date. I really don't know what to make of it. Anyways, during that day I met another bunch of girls, gotta get moving and cannot dwell on one for too long
Sivok Posted March 6, 2013 Posted March 6, 2013 Why would you show up if you didnt hear back from her for a full day? Doesn't make much sense to me. She could've been busy, stuff comes up. Next time get a confirmation before showing up lol 1
cosmicpanda Posted March 6, 2013 Posted March 6, 2013 I had a date set up yesterday with a girl I met a few days ago. I thought our first meeting went really well, as she was laughing and smiling and seemed really enthusiastic. I set up a date on the spot, date and location. I sent her a text the day before to confirm the date, to which she didn't reply, but I thought since she had agreed to the date and seemed excited, that she would show up. Well, she didn't. And this is my first time being stood up. I must admit, I was a little bit disappointed. After waiting for about 5 to 10 minutes, I gave her a call, to which there was no reply. Then, I just moved on and met some friends. Later last night, she sent me a text with her friend's phone and apologised for not being able to reply. She said her phone was broken and that if I want to message her, I should message her at this new number. So, I'm just wondering, what do you say to something like that? She didn't even say anything about our scheduled date. I really don't know what to make of it. Anyways, during that day I met another bunch of girls, gotta get moving and cannot dwell on one for too long dsnt sound like u have a problem?
cosmicpanda Posted March 6, 2013 Posted March 6, 2013 (edited) Why can't your gender stick to a commitment. She agreed to go on the date. You treat wasting peoples time as some kind of joke. uh im not standing up for anyone, what she did was rude. but he just said that later he met a bunch of girls ? it sounds like he wasnt that interested in this chick anyways. Edited March 6, 2013 by cosmicpanda typo
Author counterman Posted March 6, 2013 Author Posted March 6, 2013 Sivok, I showed up because I was around the area anyways, I had alternative plans nearby and, most importantly, she seemed really up for it. You are right though, I should get a firm confirmation before showing up next time Cosmicpanda, I was really interested in this girl. She was really outgoing and she shared a some interests. I was a bit surprised she didn't turn up. I did meet other girls afterwards, because I didn't want to sit around and mope about it. I am a still interested but a little reluctant. Don't know how to reply to her. She said if I want to chat, send her a message to this number. I might chat to her but won't push for anything; if she's interested, maybe she could try to schedule something. 1
veggirl Posted March 6, 2013 Posted March 6, 2013 I'd write back "uh, no thanks" and then never talk to her again. She knew when the date was, she chose not to show up, now she wants to keep you around for attention or something I'm guessing. 4
Emilia Posted March 6, 2013 Posted March 6, 2013 I am a still interested but a little reluctant. Don't know how to reply to her. She said if I want to chat, send her a message to this number. I might chat to her but won't push for anything; if she's interested, maybe she could try to schedule something. Don't get it. Her phone was broken, she couldn't reply and had to give you a new number and appears to be interested. Don't understand what the problem is?
TaraMaiden Posted March 6, 2013 Posted March 6, 2013 So she doesn't turn up, "because her 'phone was broken". (Were her legs broken too....?) She then manages to contact you on a friend's phone - and says to contact her on THAT number (is it her freind's spare phone, or what?) She couldn't have contacted you that way on the evening of the date? And - how did she remember your number if it was on her phone - and it was 'broken'....? What breaks on a phone that you can access the contact details but can't text? And then, no apology for having stood you up? Well, I think the clues are there, don't you, viewers.....? 2
veggirl Posted March 6, 2013 Posted March 6, 2013 Don't get it. Her phone was broken, she couldn't reply and had to give you a new number and appears to be interested. Don't understand what the problem is? If her phone was broken she should have text him from her friends phone before the date to cancel. Not sure how a broken phone = need to cancel date anyway but that would have been the right thing to do. Not just NOT show up to an agreed upon date.
Emilia Posted March 6, 2013 Posted March 6, 2013 So she doesn't turn up, "because her 'phone was broken". (Were her legs broken too....?) She then manages to contact you on a friend's phone - and says to contact her on THAT number (is it her freind's spare phone, or what?) She couldn't have contacted you that way on the evening of the date? And - how did she remember your number if it was on her phone - and it was 'broken'....? What breaks on a phone that you can access the contact details but can't text? And then, no apology for having stood you up? Well, I think the clues are there, don't you, viewers.....? It is completely plausible that it would be broken that way yes (ie accessing certain functions but not text/call), I've seen it happen with smart phones. No, I don't think the clues are necessarily there 1
Emilia Posted March 6, 2013 Posted March 6, 2013 If her phone was broken she should have text him from her friends phone before the date to cancel. Not sure how a broken phone = need to cancel date anyway but that would have been the right thing to do. Not just NOT show up to an agreed upon date. I'm guessing she wasn't with her friend for 24 hours? I just think this would merit a proper conversation and then moving on if she is a flake
TaraMaiden Posted March 6, 2013 Posted March 6, 2013 one out of six doesn't cut it in my opinion, FWIW..... She was still bloody rude. If she had access to his number, she should have contacted him on the night. There are other phones available other than the one in her purse.... 1
Emilia Posted March 6, 2013 Posted March 6, 2013 I think personally I wouldn't make a big deal out of something that wasn't confirmed, not the first time anyway. I would watch the other person's actions but I'd be more chill
Author counterman Posted March 6, 2013 Author Posted March 6, 2013 That's what I thought, she wants more attention, that's why. I don't assume anything though, and might as well give her the benefit of the doubt. I agree with a lot of TaraMaiden says - she could've contacted me earlier, she could've apologized for not showing up, and obviously she had access to my number. She could've offered me an explanation. I will message her but do you I call her out on what happened or do I just shrug it off and pretend it didn't happen? I won't be pushing for anything, just texting casually
SJC2008 Posted March 6, 2013 Posted March 6, 2013 I never understood why people confirm dates? When you have a date and time that's a confirmation isn't it?
Author counterman Posted March 7, 2013 Author Posted March 7, 2013 I agree, I thought agreeing on a place and time is confirmation enough but I guess it doesn't hurt to make sure. Might prevent someone from being stood up Yeah, I don't know how to respond to this
anna121 Posted March 7, 2013 Posted March 7, 2013 She could have handled it better, no question. OTOH, she did offer an explanation. Unless she's a total flake, she would have no reason to continue to indicate interest if she intentionally stood you up. If you like her, a second chance isn't a terrible idea.
kaylan Posted March 7, 2013 Posted March 7, 2013 Her phone didnt break. Shes a liar and a rude idiot for standing you up.
mortensorchid Posted March 7, 2013 Posted March 7, 2013 I don't buy that "text/contact me at this new number" business. If she really did have a broken phone, why didn't she get it fixed and then be quick to explain it? Have you contacted that number? Chances are the other party whoever they are has no idea what is going on. Sounds fishy. That happened to me once without my knowing. I had met this guy and we had a get together. A few days later upon his suggestion I texted him, then got a response of "who's this?". I identified myself, I said I was looking for (name). Whoever it was on the other end of the text said she was his cousin's girlfriend, he was using her phone for a while. I said in a text "Oh ok, sorry to bother you." Then without further prompting the cousin's girlfriend (if that was who they said they were, I have no idea) said "(Name) went back to his baby momma." I said "I see, thank you for the information, sorry to bother you." True? Who knows? I never saw/heard from him again. I'd move on from this. Something's not right here.
tbf Posted March 7, 2013 Posted March 7, 2013 Another vote for being rude and a liar. Don't forget the ability to call using google, skype, any number of different cyberspace vehicles. Don't respond to her text. Let this fish swim off.
Imported Posted March 7, 2013 Posted March 7, 2013 (edited) Maybe she is broke, couldn't pay her phone bill, didn't show for the date in case she had to spend any $$$ she didn't have and is too embarrassed to say? Just putting it out there, I have no idea. Ask her why she flaked. Try calling her number (original number she gave you). If her phone doesn't work, it'll not go through. Don't think it's the same when you just text. Edited March 7, 2013 by Imported
Estate Posted March 7, 2013 Posted March 7, 2013 If you're into her, it's worth another go, she *might* be being truthful but sounds like a flake really. Maybe give it a go if you want and if she's not acting very into this (since she was the one who flaked and kinda needs to take some initiative if it was genuine) then forget about her.
Author counterman Posted March 7, 2013 Author Posted March 7, 2013 Well, I turned off my caller ID and called the original number she gave it. After several rings, she picked up (I assume it was her, but anyways, someone picked up). It is her number as when I was getting her number, I called her on the spot so she had mine. I have no idea what she was trying to do by getting me to message the other number. Perhaps it is what you say, Mortenorchild. Thanks for your advice and opinions everyone
Author counterman Posted March 7, 2013 Author Posted March 7, 2013 I don't buy that "text/contact me at this new number" business. If she really did have a broken phone, why didn't she get it fixed and then be quick to explain it? Have you contacted that number? Chances are the other party whoever they are has no idea what is going on. Sounds fishy. That happened to me once without my knowing. I had met this guy and we had a get together. A few days later upon his suggestion I texted him, then got a response of "who's this?". I identified myself, I said I was looking for (name). Whoever it was on the other end of the text said she was his cousin's girlfriend, he was using her phone for a while. I said in a text "Oh ok, sorry to bother you." Then without further prompting the cousin's girlfriend (if that was who they said they were, I have no idea) said "(Name) went back to his baby momma." I said "I see, thank you for the information, sorry to bother you." True? Who knows? I never saw/heard from him again. I'd move on from this. Something's not right here. This is exactly what happened. I proceeded to call the other number and a guy picked up.
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