kingme34 Posted September 5, 2004 Posted September 5, 2004 My girlfriend and I have been dating for 3 years now. For the last year, we have been long distance. I live in West Virginia and she lives 5 1/2 hours away in Charlotte. Last night, when I was finishing with work, she called me. She was a little drunk and seemed to be in a good mood. When we were wrapping up the conversation, she told me that she wanted to tell me something. She drug it out saying, it isn't bad, you shouldn't get mad, you shouldn't care. Then she told me, "I did something with a girl". After another 5 or so minutes of her saying, "I don't want to tell you what it was because I don't want to say it", she finally tells me that she kissed her and that there was light touching above and below the waste from both parties. They were in private at this girl's house. This had happened over a week prior. She expected me to just be ok with this. She thought it was casual conversation. She then told me that she couldn't believe that I was upset and that every other guy would be happy about it. I am sorry but this is cheating in my book. I don't feel that it matters what sex the other person is, it is still a third party being introduced into a monogamous relationship. On top of that, the other girl is married. And my girlfriend tells me that the husband didn't care when he found out. That leads me to believe that he sees himself being involved on some level in the future. I don't know what to do, what to say, or how to show her how I feel. I feel betrayed and I feel that a huge trust barrier has been broken. Without trust in a long distance relationship, what do you have left?
RedSkiGirl9 Posted September 5, 2004 Posted September 5, 2004 Hi there, I'd suggest talking with her when she's sober and saying something like, "Well, would you mind if I hooked up with Dave from time to time?" If that doesn't work, tell her that it makes you uncomfortable and you don't want to be treated like that.
Author kingme34 Posted September 5, 2004 Author Posted September 5, 2004 She claims tht it wouldn't be such a big deal if I were to do something with a guy. However, she says this knowing that there is no chance of that ever happening. I talked to her abour it while she was sober today and she told me that she has a totally different view of it than I do and suggested that we take a week to be ourselves and figure everything out. I can't see eye to eye with her at all on this one.
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