the_opposite_sex Posted September 5, 2004 Posted September 5, 2004 ...he said it was due to the fact that i was never happy and we fought all the time. Now i'm just working on improving my self, and when I have, that he'll see that and this will only be temporary. I'm just really scared. I know there's other men out there, but him and I have soooo much together, and have shared so much together. I just have a feeling that it's gonna be too late when I have finally reached my "happy" point in life, and i gain more confidence in myself. But I guess i can't think like that. I'm asking for any comments/advice here. This is so very tough.
ECVegas Posted September 5, 2004 Posted September 5, 2004 You shouldn't try to improve who you are for him. You should be doing it for yourself. The reason why he was originally attracted to you was because of your independence and how well you guys clicked. When you have fun with someone, you want to spend more time with them. It sounds like you had issues with the relationship to the point were you weren't happy. Life is too short to argue all the time. Maybe he wasn't the one for you? Only you know what he did to make you unhappy. Everything happens for a reason. You were able to laugh and enjoy life before you met this guy, who says you can't after he is gone. If you feel you could have done things different, then definitely work on those. Your right, there are other men out there. But regardless if you date him again...or start dating another guy...if you don't get over your shortcomings--that problem will continue to pop up in all future relationships. You will utlimately find happiness when you can be with someone who can work with your faults and make you feel secure in a relationship. Until then, it's a live and learn.
Author the_opposite_sex Posted September 5, 2004 Author Posted September 5, 2004 I'm trying to improve myself for MYSELF, and for him or what ever guy I end up with. I forgot to mention *and i dont know if this even means much*, i asked him if it was over for good when we broke up, and he said "no not necessarily". He just said that he didn't want to be in a serious relationship right now.
backspn Posted September 5, 2004 Posted September 5, 2004 You're ok. He's just having doubts about you....improve yourself and he'll see. Be happy and dont let things get you down. I have a friend who is married. He comes home every night from work and he's smiling and kisses his wife and she looks at him and says "what are you always so happy about?" Why not?!! Be happy and enjoy what you have....it could be worse, right? You still have a chance with him. Buck up.
RedSkiGirl9 Posted September 5, 2004 Posted September 5, 2004 Hello Everyone, I am getting married in June and my fiance seems so apathetic towards the wedding and honeymoon. I asked him to plan it for me but he hasn't yet and that is making me mad because it seems as if his band is more important than us. He is constantly working on the stupid band website whenever he is over and that is making me so mad. He only gives me attention when the website is complete or after he has had his fair share of video games. I feel used, taken for granted, and angry at him for this. Yes, I do get mad at him for this and tell him constantly, but it doesn't seem to work. I am just sick of this addiction that he has and feel like he doesn't care about me anymore. I am actually very pretty too, so it's not like he's unattracted to me. I constantly get hit on and am always told that I'm pretty. I have a very nice body and have nice long blondish reddish hair. I am not one to have a hard time getting a date. How do I get him to want me like he used to want me and make him realize that every other guy out there would pay more attention to me than he does. Thanks!
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