kaylan Posted March 6, 2013 Posted March 6, 2013 The male outliers of her study will get very offended by the stuff she wrote...have a feeling kaylan is one of them. I wouldnt really care, because theres a plethora of information that says different what she says. But Im willing to read it. Either way, what she says about males as a whole doesnt reflect on me as an individual. 4
kaylan Posted March 6, 2013 Posted March 6, 2013 But.... the articlews clearly state that female brains mature in certain areas more quickly than that of males.....! As I said - draw the distinction, please, between biological maturity and emotional maturity. Occasionally they overlap, but emotional maturity - the kind we speak of on this forum - is implied in a different way. In certain areas...duh. Males mature faster in certain areas as well...this is why men and women are better at different things. But to push the idea that women are completely mature in their brains faster than males is disingenuous...and thats the idea that most people generally try to push. They dont usually say "in some areas". 1
kaylan Posted March 6, 2013 Posted March 6, 2013 Chill Kaylan no need to get snarky Snarky? Did you not see the funny tongue face? Here it is again =P lol
TaraMaiden Posted March 6, 2013 Posted March 6, 2013 No - but we rarely get multi-post threads on following map directions, scientific equations or logical problem-solving here, do we? Most problems hinge on communication, and the kinds of skills where specifically to these areas, women have the advantage. That's why HERE, specifically, it is considered that women are slightly ahead. Jeesh, Kaylan, don't turn this into a gender war - it is what it is!
kaylan Posted March 6, 2013 Posted March 6, 2013 No - but we rarely get multi-post threads on following map directions, scientific equations or logical problem-solving here, do we? Most problems hinge on communication, and the kinds of skills where specifically to these areas, women have the advantage. That's why HERE, specifically, it is considered that women are slightly ahead. Jeesh, Kaylan, don't turn this into a gender war - it is what it is! Oh gimme a break... I hear people in all walks of life and in variously different speaking arenas saying women are more mature than men. So no...people dont usually say women are more mature than men and mean it for just specifically this site. When people say it, they are talking about life in general. We all know this. And Im not trying to turn anything into a gender war. Im not the one making vague generalizations about the genders here.
xxoo Posted March 6, 2013 Posted March 6, 2013 Do you have the link to the actual study? Because I cant find it. Plus, as I said, all info Ive seen on the matter contradicts the woman in the interview. Its weird that NPR would have an interview up with no links to the actual studies to back up the claim being made. It's not that odd. Most interviews don't include citations. But her comments were based on a body of evidence, not just one study. Here's an example, if you are interested. It's not a bad thing at all. In fact, male brains end up ahead in a lot of ways...but they do get a later start. Any parent can tell you this! 1
TaraMaiden Posted March 6, 2013 Posted March 6, 2013 Oh gimme a break... I hear people in all walks of life and in variously different speaking arenas saying women are more mature than men. So no...people dont usually say women are more mature than men and mean it for just specifically this site. When people say it, they are talking about life in general. We all know this. And Im not trying to turn anything into a gender war. Im not the one making vague generalizations about the genders here. Nobody's made 'vague generalisations' anywhere. I for one, have added reliable links. You're the one refuting evidence, it appears, because it hurts your male sensibilities, no doubt. How childish. Yes, Kaylan, that was a joke.... Let's chill.... The thread actually began as a caveat regarding all brains - regardless of gender - not being fully functional until mid 20's.....
kaylan Posted March 7, 2013 Posted March 7, 2013 (edited) Nobody's made 'vague generalisations' anywhere. I for one, have added reliable links. You're the one refuting evidence, it appears, because it hurts your male sensibilities, no doubt. How childish. Yes, Kaylan, that was a joke.... Let's chill.... The thread actually began as a caveat regarding all brains - regardless of gender - not being fully functional until mid 20's..... Wow...look at kims first response in this thread. The only reason I ever chimed in was because of her vague generalization and male and female maturity. And refuting what evidence? The evidence provided does not play into the idea that women mature faster than men...which is the generalization people like kim usually parrot. Your evidence plays into the idea that they mature faster at some things and do them better, while males mature faster at other things and do them better. Most 25 year olds I know still arent very mature. Im gonna have to agree with you. Ive read research that states most women mature brainwise around age 25 while guys are pushing 30 before they mature brainwise. I go into this when I tell people I dont want to marry a guy who is under the age of 27 and they say Im nuts... How is this not a vague generalization Tara? Edited March 7, 2013 by kaylan
ScreamingTrees Posted March 7, 2013 Posted March 7, 2013 I get along mostly with middle aged folk or guys several years older than myself, despite being barely unable to drink. I guess I'll have to wait awhile for young ladies' brains to catch up.
miss_jaclynrae Posted March 7, 2013 Posted March 7, 2013 While I agree with the post overall, I believe the mid 20'a is a more than acceptable age to make such a commitment. You also have to keep in mind that emotional maturity plays a huge role. Some people just mentally (as in their way of thinking) and emotionally advanced for their age. 2
Sugarkane Posted March 7, 2013 Posted March 7, 2013 I have a co worker who at 35 still sleeps around, cheats and has never stopped partying/ clubbing. I'm 25 and didn't party much. My male co workers all in their 20s still are partying and trying to get drink every weekend. I never really did that. Being female and getting drink every weekend, guys seem to think you're an easy target. Can be dangerous.
Sugarkane Posted March 7, 2013 Posted March 7, 2013 I have a co worker who at 35 still sleeps around, cheats and has never stopped partying/ clubbing. I'm 25 and didn't party much. My male co workers all in their 20s still are partying and trying to get drink every weekend. I never really did that. Being female and getting drunk every weekend, guys seem to think you're an easy target. Can be dangerous.
nofool4u Posted March 7, 2013 Posted March 7, 2013 Brain changes significantly after age 18, says Dartmouth research You can Google "what age does the brain mature" and pick your source, most will say anywhere between 25-30 ultimately. This isn't necessarily anything new, but I see a lot of people posting about relationships who are 19, 20, 21, etc.; I responded to someone who is about to get engaged @ 21 the other day. The point is; people change significantly after high school for many years to come. Please consider this when you begin to have relationship problems, if GIGS sets it, and especially if you plan to run off and get married at 22 or 23. This is why I think people need to wait until close to 30 before even think about getting married. Marriage isn't for the weak, the selfish, or the insecure. No offense to those who got married in their early 20's. I wish you the best, good luck, and hopefully everything is working out for you(but then again, more than likely wouldn't be here). But people need to have some adult years under their belts to find out what they really want before subjecting another person, children, etc. to their whims and desires. 1
kaylan Posted March 7, 2013 Posted March 7, 2013 The study mentioned women being maturing in certain areas of the brain faster than men and vice versa. Not that overall womens brains matured faster. Thats what Ive gotten from any studies on the matter. Men and women, on average, excel better at different things. 1
Harradin Posted March 7, 2013 Posted March 7, 2013 I'm a 20 year old male, so I guess its expected that I would be immature. But its strange, I get on with adults who 5+ years older then me and people 2+ years younger then me better then I do with people my own age. I seem to have two sides, a very mature side and a very immature side and the two seem to cancel each other out. It means that I either attract immature women or I attract mature women which doesn't really work too well. I've always planned to not even think about engagement or marriage until at least 25 and if a woman I'm in a relationship with before 25 starts seriously talking about it to run for the hills. But judging by the posts on here I think I might wait until 30, it seems the logical thing to do.
SJC2008 Posted March 8, 2013 Posted March 8, 2013 Womens brains may mature faster but that doesn't correlate to the way many of them behave. If they are so emotionally "plugged in" why are men taught to not show women one iota of emotion? Something doesn't add up! Why are they so afraid to say thanks but no thanks? The reason is their afraid to face/feel the awkwardness and that's the farthest from being able to handle emotions. Maturity boils down to the upbringing and life experiences. I'm way more emotionally mature than plenty of women I've dated and seen their signs of being controlling/passive aggressive pretty fast but like I said my sample may be skewed becuase I've met most of the women I dated online.
miss_jaclynrae Posted March 8, 2013 Posted March 8, 2013 (edited) I don't think you should HAVE to wait until a certain age. I know adults older who still are nowhere near ready for such a commitment or are now realizing they no longer want thy commitment. There is a reason why my boyfriend who is in his thirties and I work so well. Relationships take more than just a number to become long lasting. Edited March 8, 2013 by a LoveShack.org Moderator
fortyninethousand322 Posted March 8, 2013 Posted March 8, 2013 Personality wise, I'm about 12 or 13. Physically I'm 45. Mentally, probably 155.
HoneyBadgerDontCare Posted March 8, 2013 Posted March 8, 2013 Brain changes significantly after age 18, says Dartmouth research You can Google "what age does the brain mature" and pick your source, most will say anywhere between 25-30 ultimately. This isn't necessarily anything new, but I see a lot of people posting about relationships who are 19, 20, 21, etc.; I responded to someone who is about to get engaged @ 21 the other day. The point is; people change significantly after high school for many years to come. Please consider this when you begin to have relationship problems, if GIGS sets it, and especially if you plan to run off and get married at 22 or 23. I could definitely see this. I definitely think different now (a month away from my 26th birthday) than I thought when I was 22.....but I assumed that was because I had more life experience.
Author ls32ssibm Posted March 9, 2013 Author Posted March 9, 2013 I could definitely see this. I definitely think different now (a month away from my 26th birthday) than I thought when I was 22.....but I assumed that was because I had more life experience. Pretty much. 18 year olds are still children in the grand scheme of things. I can't believe I even bothered with a serious relationship back that (that ended obviously).
Author ls32ssibm Posted March 12, 2013 Author Posted March 12, 2013 Personality wise, I'm about 12 or 13. Physically I'm 45. Mentally, probably 155. Damn, retired football player? 1
Snowman219 Posted March 12, 2013 Posted March 12, 2013 I actually remember thinking on my 30th birthday, that I'd pretty much 'arrived' at where I was at, if you see what I mean. I actually felt, for the first time, 'fully cooked'. I, on the other hand, am fully baked. GOOD DAY!
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