SomeRandom Posted March 6, 2013 Posted March 6, 2013 So I ask this girl out on a date and she says yes with little hesitation. I see her not very often, a few times a month, so we're not really even friends. I asked her over the phone and was brief and concise, and the day of she texted me before hand asking if we're still on, to which I replied yes. However, she arrives to the date and immediately displays cold body language (no eye contact, body/shoulders angled away), etc. Her body says she's completely uninterested, but then why agree to go on a date and act as if you were looking forward to it? In the few conversations that we've had (we never really hung out), she laughs at some of the things I say so I'd assume she thinks I'm at least somewhat humorous? I arrived about 5 minutes early to scope the place out and find a nice place to sit (it was a coffee shop), stood when she walked in, greeted her, etc. I don't think I did anything within the first 30 seconds to warrant an instant hot-to-cold reaction. After the date, when I saw her again in class, she was somewhat distant and much less willing to talk to me (short, 1-word answers, no eye contact/didn't look at me, etc.) The date didn't tank, it was ~40 minutes and we just left saying we had work to do, and it was like noon-time, so it was very casual. It was difficult for me to facilitate the both of us having fun because it seemed like she just wasn't trying or contributing at all; I tried to get her to talk about herself but she didn't offer much and didn't have much to say about a variety of topics (movies, books, music, art, school, etc.) Now seeing her around is just kinda weird, because I don't know whether she wants me to leave her alone or what? Basically her body language and her tone in texts are complete opposite (friendly in texts, super cold body language in person).
cosmicpanda Posted March 6, 2013 Posted March 6, 2013 While you were on that date.. if she was looking away and smiling that would just mean shes really nervous but if she pretty much ignores you after the date she probably regretted it and its a lot easier to be friendly and open over text so i wouldn't count that. and while you were on that date if she kept looking at the exit or if her feet were facing it than ya she definitely didn't want to be there. To me it sounds like a lost cause.
JennaMax Posted March 6, 2013 Posted March 6, 2013 are you a copper? "she arrives to the date and immediately displays cold body language (no eye contact, body/shoulders angled away), etc"..just sounds like the typical language used by cops. anyways, it does sound odd but it's most likely her going thru some drama at home or some other personal thing. If she didn't want to be with you, she would've stood you up, but she didn't. Just give her space and tell her that you're concerned about her...
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