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Fallen Petals Established Member

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Wow you women are such forgiving non shallow creatures you actually know a short guy or two who gets women how insipirational

 

You're sounding bitter. He's not the only short guy I know. He's just one of many. I don't think I need to fill the thread with each individual short guy I know. I'll say this - my bil and my stepdad and my other bil are all under 5'10"...I've dated shorter guys and I've known many way awesome shorter guys - I think you're missing the part where it's about the FOCUS. If you're focusing on the things you cannot change then you're a hamster on a wheel.

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Women being attracted to taller men does not happen on a conscious level. A short guy who knows Karate is obviously more than capable of being very protective and filling the role of a protector but his skill does not make him more attractive, the same way a bigger mans physique does.

 

ehh part of it is that part of it is also society

 

tall dark and handosme is drilled into their heads their whole lives and short men are looked at as less then desirable napoleon complexes etc

 

short fat and bald is a saying looked upon as negatively

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You're sounding bitter. He's not the only short guy I know. He's just one of many. I don't think I need to fill the thread with each individual short guy I know. I'll say this - my bil and my stepdad and my other bil are all under 5'10"...I've dated shorter guys and I've known many way awesome shorter guys - I think you're missing the part where it's about the FOCUS. If you're focusing on the things you cannot change then you're a hamster on a wheel.

 

and weve also heard women be hoenst and say women will settle for a short guy but a tall men is what they lust over and give them a "feeling" a short guy canrt

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What I don't understand, and this is coming from a 5'7 man--what I don't understand about these height threads is, where do you expect it to go?

 

Whether women agree it matters and it reinforces your negative beliefs about yourself, or whether they say it doesn't matter, your height remains constant.

 

You cannot change it. So what are you waiting for? Are you waiting for enough women to say it doesn't matter so that it gives you the confidence to date? Or are you waiting for enough women to say it does matter so you can sulk for life?

 

Who cares what they say. People say a lot of things. Women also say they don't date jerks, and then almost always end up with one. What people say and what people do are two different things. My first girlfriend friend zoned me. Two weeks later, she asked me to be her boyfriend.

 

If you're gonna go by what people say, as opposed to looking at the world around you, you are gonna have a sad life.

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and weve also heard women be hoenst and say women will settle for a short guy but a tall men is what they lust over and give them a "feeling" a short guy canrt

 

Dude, if I had a girl lust over me as your suggesting because of my height... it doesn't work that way. Although, i do agree with the media drilling ideals into peoples heads, for both men AND women though.

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What I don't understand, and this is coming from a 5'7 man--what I don't understand about these height threads is, where do you expect it to go?

 

Whether women agree it matters and it reinforces your negative beliefs about yourself, or whether they say it doesn't matter, your height remains constant.

 

You cannot change it. So what are you waiting for? Are you waiting for enough women to say it doesn't matter so that it gives you the confidence to date? Or are you waiting for enough women to say it does matter so you can sulk for life?

 

Who cares what they say. People say a lot of things. Women also say they don't date jerks, and then almost always end up with one. What people say and what people do are two different things. My first girlfriend friend zoned me. Two weeks later, she asked me to be her boyfriend.

 

If you're gonna go by what people say, as opposed to looking at the world around you, you are gonna have a sad life.

All of this right here ^^^^.

 

Dudes, just stop it. Stop taking it all so seriously like the world's gonna end. Stop.

 

Learn to stop giving a f*ck.

 

Come on.

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Fallen Petals Established Member

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and weve also heard women be hoenst and say women will settle for a short guy but a tall men is what they lust over and give them a "feeling" a short guy canrt

 

Need we begin the age old debate over people who settle for things they don't originally lust over? ENTER PORNOGRAPHY So are you gonna tell me that you go for the heavyset girl who is a little too tall and kinda has that Viking look with her being mauled over by scrawny dwarfs or is that not your fetish?? What we're attracted to on the bare surface level is what it is - I can no more help liking what I see when I look at a garden and preferring the view of certain plants over others than if I look over a crowd of men and notice some more than others. It's not settling if he wins her heart - it's each of them enjoying one another for who they are and loving all the parts because they love the person as a whole. And to call it settling is to minimize the value of her (and his) love.

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iKING Established Member

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Need we begin the age old debate over people who settle for things they don't originally lust over? ENTER PORNOGRAPHY So are you gonna tell me that you go for the heavyset girl who is a little too tall and kinda has that Viking look with her being mauled over by scrawny dwarfs or is that not your fetish?? What we're attracted to on the bare surface level is what it is - I can no more help liking what I see when I look at a garden and preferring the view of certain plants over others than if I look over a crowd of men and notice some more than others. It's not settling if he wins her heart - it's each of them enjoying one another for who they are and loving all the parts because they love the person as a whole. And to call it settling is to minimize the value of her (and his) love.

 

So there's women out there who would date a donkey? :laugh:

 

I think porn is mostly novelty, I doubt very many people (a small portion) actually do what they see taking place in it. Fetish porn is mainly based off of users viewing something they've never witnessed before to prompt excitement.

 

Preferences in male stature is one thing, but porn? That's a whole different playing field.

 

I'm about the same height as Castle (5'8), and It's never been counted against me when attracting a mate. Then again, I have never dated someone who's taller so I wouldn't know. You have to do what you can, with what you've got, if height is really bothering you, concentrate on another commonly desirable quality about men that you actually can change and work on that.

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Jane2011 Established Member

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Im glad youve contributed in making us short guys feel even worse congrats:laugh: great shell settle for a short guy while admiring and getting wet over tall men

 

We realize how much women worship height

 

I'm glad you're grateful :)

 

That's what most of you want to hear anyway, right? The truth, right?

 

It is the truth. Most women prefer taller men.

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So there's women out there who would date a donkey? :laugh:

 

I think porn is mostly novelty, I doubt very many people (a small portion) actually do what they see taking place in it. Fetish porn is mainly based off of users viewing something they've never witnessed before to prompt excitement.

 

Preferences in male stature is one thing, but porn? That's a whole different playing field.

 

I'm about the same height as Castle (5'8), and It's never been counted against me when attracting a mate. Then again, I have never dated someone who's taller so I wouldn't know. You have to do what you can, with what you've got, if height is really bothering you, concentrate on another commonly desirable quality about men that you actually can change and work on that.

My brother is 5 foot 6 and is currently in a relationship with a girl taller than he is. It's been done :laugh:

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Fallen Petals Established Member

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So there's women out there who would date a donkey? :laugh:

 

I think porn is mostly novelty, I doubt very many people (a small portion) actually do what they see taking place in it. Fetish porn is mainly based off of users viewing something they've never witnessed before to prompt excitement.

 

Preferences in male stature is one thing, but porn? That's a whole different playing field.

 

I'm about the same height as Castle (5'8), and It's never been counted against me when attracting a mate. Then again, I have never dated someone who's taller so I wouldn't know. You have to do what you can, with what you've got, if height is really bothering you, concentrate on another commonly desirable quality about men that you actually can change and work on that.

 

I cannot count how many threads there are about women feeling insecure or insufficient because her man looks at porn when he's got her right there. And ya know what - I completely understand that. I am practically an addict - ready to go at the drop of a hat - always wanting to experiment and try new things, but my H?? He would go a week...two...three....no problem. He sure as heck looked at porn though. "Oh baby, you're beautiful, it's not about THAT" and on a fundamental level I got it - I understood the male mentality behind that feeble claim - but nonetheless, it contributed to insecurities I had over the course of our marriage. I was just bring out the porn issue because it relates to what we're attracted to on a surface level, which is where the height thing comes to play. (oh and believe me, some of us girls try to fulfill the porn style fantasies of our men - but you know, we are all subject to human limitations!!! LOL)

 

The bolded part I agree with though :)

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I cannot count how many threads there are about women feeling insecure or insufficient because her man looks at porn when he's got her right there.

 

I don't understand men that do this either? Why not make love to your girlfriend? I will never choose porn over the real thing. That's just insane to me to be honest. Porn is the last resort for me if I get turned down by my GF or wife.

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I cannot count how many threads there are about women feeling insecure or insufficient because her man looks at porn when he's got her right there. And ya know what - I completely understand that. I am practically an addict - ready to go at the drop of a hat - always wanting to experiment and try new things, but my H?? He would go a week...two...three....no problem. He sure as heck looked at porn though. "Oh baby, you're beautiful, it's not about THAT" and on a fundamental level I got it - I understood the male mentality behind that feeble claim - but nonetheless, it contributed to insecurities I had over the course of our marriage. I was just bring out the porn issue because it relates to what we're attracted to on a surface level, which is where the height thing comes to play. (oh and believe me, some of us girls try to fulfill the porn style fantasies of our men - but you know, we are all subject to human limitations!!! LOL)

 

The bolded part I agree with though :)

 

I actually just posted this in another thread but since the topic came up..

 

The great porn experiment

 

It's not you as far as research is concerned, It's his frequent over stimulation of pleasure receptors that's killing his sex drive. Actual sex drive that is, not hand sex drive.

 

Being a bit kinky every now and again is really all one can ask for who's not readily satisfied with the maritals (marital sex). I wouldn't suggest trying too hard to mimic what you see in porn, personally I find most of it just silly. Give me the naked body of an attractive female and I'm good to go. :laugh:

Fallen Petals Established Member

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I actually just posted this in another thread but since the topic came up..

 

The great porn experiment

 

It's not you as far as research is concerned, It's his frequent over stimulation of pleasure receptors that's killing his sex drive. Actual sex drive that is, not hand sex drive.

 

Being a bit kinky every now and again is really all one can ask for who's not readily satisfied with the maritals (marital sex). I wouldn't suggest trying too hard to mimic what you see in porn, personally I find most of it just silly. Give me the naked body of an attractive female and I'm good to go. :laugh:

 

I'll check that out. But as I said - I understood on a logical level that it wasn't me. But that doesn't negate the fact he was choosing manual stimulation while looking at someone else when I was ready to go and happy to play - always. I can count on one hand the number of times I turned him down in nearly a decade and a half of being together - the number of times he turned me down, however, are countless.

 

I never wanted to do anything too ridiculous, but fantasy fulfillment can be fun - pick me up in a public place and lead me to the bathroom where we hide in a stall...yes that's hot, movie theater? Even better. I'll dress up or dance around if it helps...lol...but the main factor is being able to please one another and willing to take logical steps towards that pleasure. I don't watch porn, though, so it'd be hard pressed to get me to mimic those folks on the regular. Loving your last sentence though!!:D

PJKino Established Member

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I'm glad you're grateful :)

 

That's what most of you want to hear anyway, right? The truth, right?

 

It is the truth. Most women prefer taller men.

 

That's great i just hope your job isnt motivational speaker

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Eclypse Established Member

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So what's the lower limit for height for women who like tall men? 6 feet seems like a magic number. What if you are attracted to a man but when you pull out the tape measure he's only 5'11? I'm just not a fan of arbitrary cutoffs.

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I'm glad you're grateful :)

 

That's what most of you want to hear anyway, right? The truth, right?

 

It is the truth. Most women prefer taller men.

I wish I could say most men don't want tiny little Asian girls but that's wrong because men would date anything.

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These girls in my club were talking about a date one of the girls went on. They all asked if the guy she is dating is taller, and all the girls agrred that the guy they will date must be tall. It seems that I cannot find any girl who will date a short guy

 

 

wherever you can, stand on a chair and then girls wont be talking about your height but the the thing that is level with their eyes...its all about height so show them what they really want to see.....

 

 

honestly if girls are that shallow to judge people and how many inches taller they are than them they will also be concerned with the height of something else .......they arent worth it...there are women who dotn give a frog sperm abotu height......shallow girls who sit there openly discussing height eventually get on to talk of penis width vs length vs everything else............find a girl with a bit of depth....dont play in the wading pool...happy swimming and good luck....did you know the charismatic yul brenner was short, that al pacino is not tall and that many guys are simply that just not tall....not short....just not tall...its all perspective...tom cruise even...ok...wont go there.bad example....i prefer men around my own height a lot of women dont care either way.....i have dated tall over sixers and i have dated short five footers....and in between those extremes dated there too...height is not a consideration..i have a preference but i dont gage who to date on that preference..when you have that something special.....and every guy or girl does.....its a matter of showing that special quality than worrying about your height.me for example....i am short ......average height overweight .....guys see something in me......and i dont think its in physical appearance.....to me, i border on ugly......but i have other qualities and features i love...and that i am proud of....my eyes change color for one depending on what i feel at the time...i think thats cool...and i am a loyal friend.....trustworthy......and i can love ....concentrate on what you have not what you lack......deb

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I wish I could say most men don't want tiny little Asian girls but that's wrong because men would date anything.

 

I wish I could say you weren't alone, sad, and bitter, but that's wrong because you are.

Jane2011 Established Member

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That's great i just hope your job isnt motivational speaker

 

And yeah, I definitely don't want to make short guys feel better.

 

I've come across too many with a huge chip on their shoulder.

 

Mostly online, I guess.

Jane2011 Established Member

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So what's the lower limit for height for women who like tall men? 6 feet seems like a magic number. What if you are attracted to a man but when you pull out the tape measure he's only 5'11? I'm just not a fan of arbitrary cutoffs.

 

I think someone else said that 5'10" is the lower limit to qualify as a "tall" guy; I think that's about right.

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Its girls like you that cause the chip on their shoulders. Who wouldnt have one after experiencing constant rejection over something they cant change

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I think someone else said that 5'10" is the lower limit to qualify as a "tall" guy; I think that's about right.

 

I just made the cut off by an inch!

 

I asked my girlfriend if she would have said yes to my date if I was her height or less. She said "probably not" :| I guess I understand. If she was overweight I wouldn't have asked her.

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Jane2011 Established Member

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Its girls like you that cause the chip on their shoulders. Who wouldnt have one after experiencing constant rejection over something they cant change

 

Who wouldn't? I guess the tons of short guys in the world who live full lives and have girlfriends and friends galore. They, for example, are ones who "wouldn't have one after experiencing constant rejection over something they can't change."

 

Also, I don't care if it's "girls like me" who cause chips on shoulders.

 

Not all short guys have a chip on their shoulder. I respect those that don't. So if there is a group of short guys who have a chip on the shoulder and me or people like me are the cause of it, I don't care much. I just think they're sad.

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Who wouldn't? I guess the tons of short guys in the world who live full lives and have girlfriends and friends galore. They, for example, are ones who "wouldn't have one after experiencing constant rejection over something they can't change."

 

Also, I don't care if it's "girls like me" who cause chips on shoulders.

 

Not all short guys have a chip on their shoulder. I respect those that don't. So if there is a group of short guys who have a chip on the shoulder and me or people like me are the cause of it, I don't care much. I just think they're sad.

 

With all due respect, I doubt that the guys you're describing would necessarily want or need your "respect".. :p

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