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ltjg45 Established Member

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After my last boyfriend cheated and got physically violent, I checked out emotionally. A year later I was raped, and again, completely checked out.

 

Seriously, I'm sorry to see that. I couldn't see myself sitting here and doing nothing if I know of something like this going on around me.

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Eggplant Established Member

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The final 2 years leading up to now I've been living in a very small town, and I've been asked out once (last week actually. it was the most sleazy and disgusting attempt at dating me that I've ever seen from a man).
You've been through everything. :( Relocate to a place with better people, perhaps?
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iKING Established Member

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I'll admit that for about 2 years I was not looking, and I'm sure my unavailability came across. After my last boyfriend cheated and got physically violent, I checked out emotionally. A year later I was raped, and again, completely checked out.

 

The next 2 years was a matter of dating a few guys and things just not clicking. The final 2 years leading up to now I've been living in a very small town, and I've been asked out once (last week actually. it was the most sleazy and disgusting attempt at dating me that I've ever seen from a man).

 

So it's been 4 years of being actively available, rather than 6.

 

Bah, my dating lifestory plastered onto this forum... *facepalm*

 

It's probable, people get the vibe if your heart just isn't available. My ex was pretty similar to yours, after her, just haven't felt a whole lot of anything for quite awhile. I'm sorry to hear about what happened after.. Too many women have to suffer through it. I really wish I could protect them all. Whip out some vigilante justice.

 

It's frustrating trying to find someone you click with. Keep your chin up. You'll find a good guy who will treat you with kindness and respect. You're a sweet girl, and many guys really like dorky personalities. I'm surprised you've only had advances from one guy, it must have to do with living in a rural area.

 

Perhaps It was meant to be that both you and I (and many others) spend enough time being single. Why? Haven't got a clue. Just makes it sound nicer.

 

Don't feel bad, we're all here to support each other. My debt is to humanity, which is why I'm here. It's best we uplift our fellow humans instead of trying to put them down. :)

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tuxedo cat Established Member

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It's probable, people get the vibe if your heart just isn't available. My ex was pretty similar to yours, after her, just haven't felt a whole lot of anything for quite awhile. I'm sorry to hear about what happened after.. Too many women have to suffer through it. I really wish I could protect them all. Whip out some vigilante justice.

 

It's frustrating trying to find someone you click with. Keep your chin up. You'll find a good guy who will treat you with kindness and respect. You're a sweet girl, and many guys really like dorky personalities. I'm surprised you've only had advances from one guy, it must have to do with living in a rural area.

 

Perhaps It was meant to be that both you and I (and many others) spend enough time being single. Why? Haven't got a clue. Just makes it sound nicer.

 

Don't feel bad, we're all here to support each other. My debt is to humanity, which is why I'm here. It's best we uplift our fellow humans instead of trying to put them down. :)

 

Why are you on this forum? You seem too cute and sweet to be hanging out here. :) There's gotta be a catch!

iKING Established Member

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Why are you on this forum? You seem too cute and sweet to be hanging out here. :) There's gotta be a catch!

 

Just to try to help people in any way I can. You're sweet. :) Nope, no catch.

tuxedo cat Established Member

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I think men are more obsessed with their heights than women are.

 

Yes, you will have more success with women on average if you are taller, but the importance of height is overstated on this forum. I've known a lot of women who care a lot about height. I've also known a lot of women who don't care that much, myself included. I will say if a guy is shorter than 5'9" it starts to become a deal breaker because in heels I will be taller than he is but if he meets that threshold I stop caring. I put a much higher premium on a nice looking face and a fit body (in that order).

 

In fact my ideal, and again not that I really care, is probably 5'10" to 6'0". I find really tall guys too lanky looking and I like being close to eye level with the person I'm dating.

 

This is all nitpicking, though, because in the end intelligence and personality trump looks for me.

tuxedo cat Established Member

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Just to try to help people in any way I can. You're sweet. :) Nope, no catch.

 

Aww.

 

So why don't you have a girlfriend?? I'm serious! :)

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Eternal Sunshine Established Member

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iKing, it's like.....you don't belong here. And I mean it in a good way :o

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somedude81 Established Member

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I think men are more obsessed with their heights than women are.

 

I will say if a guy is shorter than 5'9" it starts to become a deal breaker because in heels I will be taller than he

Thanks for the contradiction :)

 

Just in case it's not clicking with you, the men who believe their height is the issue, ARE UNDER 5'9!

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Aww.

 

So why don't you have a girlfriend?? I'm serious! :)

 

Honestly? I'm scared. Don't want to go through what I did again. Which is hard to admit as It's in my character to be fearless.

 

Taking on the world, no problem. Letting a girl in, problem. :laugh:

 

I've been through countless relationships in my life, all it took was one nightmare to ruin it for quite awhile now. Although being numb most the time isn't all bad, it has its liberating aspects I suppose.

tuxedo cat Established Member

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Thanks for the contradiction :)

 

Just in case it's not clicking with you, the men who believe their height is the issue, ARE UNDER 5'9!

 

The important point that you missed is that it's the height where I become taller than the guy when I'm wearing heels. There are plenty of women who are shorter than I am.

iKING Established Member

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iKing, it's like.....you don't belong here. And I mean it in a good way :o

 

Why not? I enjoy chatting with you guys and trying to give advice. :)

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somedude81 Established Member

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The important point that you missed is that it's the height where I become taller than the guy when I'm wearing heels. There are plenty of women who are shorter than I am.

You are the worst of the shallow women.

 

BTW, average height for a man is 5'9-5'10.

 

How tall are you anyways? 5'6, 5'7? And any man under 5'9 is too short for you? Give me a f'ing break.

tuxedo cat Established Member

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Honestly? I'm scared. Don't want to go through what I did again. Which is hard to admit as It's in my character to be fearless.

 

Taking on the world, no problem. Letting a girl in, problem. :laugh:

 

I've been through countless relationships in my life, all it took was one nightmare to ruin it for quite awhile now. Although being numb most the time isn't all bad, it has its liberating aspects I suppose.

 

Aw. Trust me you will have your pick of women if your online personality is at all representative. Hot guys with good personalities are in short supply and get snatched up fast. :)

tuxedo cat Established Member

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You are the worst of the shallow women.

 

BTW, average height for a man is 5'9-5'10.

 

How tall are you anyways? 5'6, 5'7? And any man under 5'9 is too short for you? Give me a f'ing break.

 

I'm 5'7". How is it shallow for me not to want to dwarf the guy I'm with in heels? That is totally reasonable.

Eternal Sunshine Established Member

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Aw. Trust me you will have your pick of women if your online personality is at all representative. Hot guys with good personalities are in short supply and get snatched up fast. :)

 

And he is intelligent too :)

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somedude81 Established Member

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I'm 5'7". How is it shallow for me not to want to dwarf the guy I'm with in heels? That seems totally reasonable.

Then don't wear your fu*king heels!

 

Do you see that post by Phoe a while ago? She's 5'8 and has dated men shorter than her (without heels.) She's a perfect example of not being shallow. While you on the other hand.

 

IMO, if a woman is not willing to date a man three inches shorter than her, without her fu*king heels, because of his height, she's shallow.

Lonely Ronin Established Member

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Then don't wear your fu*king heels!

 

Do you see that post by Phoe a while ago? She's 5'8 and has dated men shorter than her (without heels.) She's a perfect example of not being shallow. While you on the other hand.

 

IMO, if a woman is not willing to date a man three inches shorter than her, without her fu*king heels, because of his height, she's shallow.

 

Dude, stop being a pissy little kid.......

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tuxedo cat Established Member

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Then don't wear your fu*king heels!

 

Do you see that post by Phoe a while ago? She's 5'8 and has dated men shorter than her (without heels.) She's a perfect example of not being shallow. While you on the other hand.

 

IMO, if a woman is not willing to date a man three inches shorter than her, without her fu*king heels, because of his height, she's shallow.

 

Whatever, I'm less picky than a lot of women when it comes to height. Most won't date a guy who is shorter than they are but I'm glad that some will. I'm just not one of them.

tuxedo cat Established Member

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Then don't wear your fu*king heels!

 

Do you see that post by Phoe a while ago? She's 5'8 and has dated men shorter than her (without heels.) She's a perfect example of not being shallow. While you on the other hand.

 

IMO, if a woman is not willing to date a man three inches shorter than her, without her fu*king heels, because of his height, she's shallow.

 

I can say that your personality and bitterness towards women are likely more of a deterrent to your getting dates than your height, whatever it is.

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Lonely Ronin Established Member

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I can say that your personality and bitterness towards women are likely more of a deterrent to your getting dates than your height, whatever it is.

 

His problem seems to be that if a woman isn't open to dating him for any reason, then he hates her.

somedude81 Established Member

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Whatever, I'm less picky than a lot of women when it comes to height. Most won't date a guy who is shorter than they are but I'm glad that some will. I'm just not one of them.

At least you stopped trying to deny that you're shallow.

iKING Established Member

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Aw. Trust me you will have your pick of women if your online personality is at all representative. Hot guys with good personalities are in short supply and get snatched up fast. :)

 

What you see is what you get, I'm me and that's that. :laugh: Women have tried, but I haven't been able to bring myself to do it. It always seems like there's something missing. Like Phoe was saying, the "click" just wasn't there, so I didn't get involved, but the lack of "click" could just be a result the scarring, who knows.

 

And he is intelligent too :)

 

You guys are really sweet :laugh:

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Eternal Sunshine Established Member

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What you see is what you get, I'm me and that's that. :laugh: Women have tried, but I haven't been able to bring myself to do it. It always seems like there's something missing. Like Phoe was saying, the "click" just wasn't there, so I didn't get involved, but the lack of "click" could just be a result the scarring, who knows.

 

You guys are really sweet :laugh:

 

Yep, I get you. I have felt like that for the past year too. A lot of it I think is to do with me being scared because of bad past experiences. I find that when I am more emotionally open, I click with more people.

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What you see is what you get, I'm me and that's that. :laugh: Women have tried, but I haven't been able to bring myself to do it. It always seems like there's something missing. Like Phoe was saying, the "click" just wasn't there, so I didn't get involved, but the lack of "click" could just be a result the scarring, who knows.

 

 

 

You guys are really sweet :laugh:

 

 

Aww f*ck! Since when was sweet a good thing in a chick? :( Where was my damn memo. I've been doing it all ass backwards :(

 

Head are gonna roll on this one boys!

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