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Okay, so I have a question with online dating, like match.com, for example.

 

If you get an email from someone - and it goes to your gmail account (or some account like this), and you open the gmail account to read the email, WITHOUT logging into match.com, does it still show the sender that the email has been read?

 

Just wondering about this. At first I thought I was all top secret about opening their mail through my personal email account, but now I'm not so sure. I suspect that they can see when I open it even through gmail.

 

Any knowledge out there on this??

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I don't think it does. When I'd read the emails in my real email account and then logged in to my match it still showed a new, unread email.

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It is possible to request a "receipt" that an email has been read but I have no idea if Match does this or not as I've never used the site.

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Can't help you here but thought I would chime in to say I have often wondered this as well!

 

With mine it's just the opposite from the other poster where my e-mails go to my phone, and the next time I log onto Match it doesn't show new e-mails, so it looks like the e-mail has been read.

 

Hmmmm

 

I thought about doing a test to see with a friend but we never pulled it off

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I'm not sure if this is true or not but I googled it and here's what I found:

 

Yes I believe Match can know when you open an email from them, even if it is in in your personal email on your home computer, like using Outlook Express or whatever, or whether you are using GMail or Yahoo, etc. They can do this because they send HTML email. All the images, the GIFs and the JPEGs, that are embedded in those emails, are stored on their servers back at Match.com. So when you open the email, all those images are brought down from their servers, which tells them, "AHA!", so and so opened this particular email. They can embed tracker images , like blank images that contain some specific info about who this email was sent to.

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That's interesting, thanks for the info. Just one reason why I keep images off in email (as well as no automatic opening of attachments, as well as no receipt response, as well as no javascript). I do that stuff manually if I want it. Has to do with protecting myself from viruses mostly though.

 

On OKC notification of message is an email that has link to site to read message. Only if you click link and log in or are logged in automatically does it indicate no longer unread message, and sender can see that you read it (premium only?).

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Yeah - I'm pretty sure that even if you open the notification in your personal email account, it shows up on Match as read.

 

If anyone knows for sure - I'd love to find out 100%.

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requesting receipt notification wouldn't be unusual, and some email accounts may default to send receipt notifications unless turned off, don't know.

 

But the image tracker thing is probably pretty common, and the request for an id of an image says a certain email was opened and images pulled down, something I default don't allow but usually click on images on an email from OKC. But OKC doesn't indicate the message is read just by opening a notification that you have a message, with pic of sender and first few words of message. It wouldn't make sense in their case because entire message isn't sent in the notification so it actually isn't read until you go to site.

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Thanks for your reply. You seem to know your stuff. But in regards to the email preview...true. But if I click on my gmail notification, I can see the entire email (even if it's super long), not just a preview. That's why I think it does come up as "read."

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agreed. But that's apparently how Match handles it, by sending entire message. There may be a setting for OKC to forward the message via email in which case they would probably do same thing, I would have to check my settings page.

 

I checked and if there is a forwarding setting, I didn't see it.

 

Also, notifications of message read is a premium feature only I see. (I dropped it due to low activity of responses etc. but just renewed before it ran out, so it never lapsed. Probably a waste of money but the price was not that bad.) Message read in this case is read the message on OKC site.

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