UltimaWeapon Posted March 6, 2013 Posted March 6, 2013 (edited) Hey, We are in our early 20's My girlfriend of 3 months has 2 weeks ago told me she wants to be alone and she isn't ready for a relationship. This comes as a surprise to me because she just got out of a really bad three year relationship that she says was 2 years over due. Me and her got close right after and it was because of me that she pulled the cord finally. Her ex is out of the picture he is in another country and won't be back. The problem is she was fine with being with me for 3 months everything was normal, she wanted to see me constantly and hang out and now she says she just isn't ready and wants to be alone for the time being and It is selfish on her part but it has nothing to do with me. She says its a feeling she has and she needs to do what she feels is right, she says she hasn't had time to fully get over past relationship and doesn't want to get into another one right after. She says she was vulnerable and that I was perfect for her and still am but she wants time to not be in one right now. She said it feels like we have been dating for 2 years instead of two months. Maybe it was all too much for her at once but If she felt this strongly for me why would she want to be single? She has a history of being with other guys during the time she had rough patches with her ex. I feel like I also have fell for this, however I was the only one who managed to get her to break up with him. She says a lot of guys were in the same situation as me but she fell really hard and fast for me. I just hope she isn't using this as an excuse for something else. She tends to hang out with only guys too and has a lot of guy friends. Can anyone give me insight on what to do and how to approach this? She said she wants to remain close and be friends and hang out she just needs time and when she is ready she wants to be with me again. I have been in this situation before with my other EX. she said the same crap to me after 4.5 years and pulled the I am not ready for a relationship, I am confused and I was in limbo for 2 months didn't know what was happening. Till I found out she had someone else all along. My question is: would she really have someone else? She has been hanging out with her guy friends this entire time and she has completely changed, has started acting cold, avoids trying to see me. Says this is the only way she can act because we are not a couple anymore. She says when she is ready she wants to be with me. However, what she is doing is complete opposite of what she is saying. If she felt so strong for me why would she want to be alone? If she truly cared why would she want to give this up? Even if she isn't fully over the past rel. why not get through it with me? Even though she said she wants to hang out and chill- we still haven't. I just find it hard to believe she wants to be "alone" after she was so into me the past three months. Any advice is appreciated. It has been 2 weeks since it happened and we have been talking but nothing is changing. I really don't know where this puts me and I don't know her intentions. I feel like she is lying to me and is using this as an excuse to do whatever without any problems because she is "single." I realize this "screams" rebound relationship however, I told her if you want to be with me you have to completely cut ur past relationship once and for all. She says it hasn't been good for the past 2 years so it was just inevitable waiting to happen. What do I do now? I don't want her out of my life I truly care about her but I am really confused as what to do. I really don't trust girls with guys as friends- that is just my gut feeling talking and its always right. Nothing good comes from that. I just don't know what to do. *** I confronted her about if there was anyone else and she said many times- she doesn't want to be with anyone right now. she wants to be alone. she doesn't want a rel. a guy or anything in her life she just wants to focus on herself. She says she doesn't want to be anyone's anything. She has always had someone since she was 15 and she wants to be alone right now. *** Can anyone give me insight on what to do? Edited March 6, 2013 by UltimaWeapon
denxnis Posted March 6, 2013 Posted March 6, 2013 Hey, My girlfriend of 3 months has 2 weeks ago told me she wants to be alone and she isn't ready for a relationship. Let me save you the trouble of reading anyone else's response, walk away and don't look back. 1
fancy feast Posted March 6, 2013 Posted March 6, 2013 Let me save you the trouble of reading anyone else's response, walk away and don't look back. Bingo bango
TaraMaiden Posted March 6, 2013 Posted March 6, 2013 ...and forget the friendship crap. You can't be friends with a person you're in love with. if she wants/needs to be alone right now - then that is what you have to give her.
veggirl Posted March 6, 2013 Posted March 6, 2013 Dude you were a rebound, obviously. Why would you rush into a relationship with someone JUST out of a 3 yr relationship? Thats just looking for trouble. Of course she wants to be single, she hasn't been single in over 3 yrs now.
Toddbt12y1 Posted March 6, 2013 Posted March 6, 2013 More alarming: She messes with other guys, during the rough spots with her then bf, who is now an ex. Yeah...she's a keeper.
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