FitChick Posted March 6, 2013 Posted March 6, 2013 Our local TV weatherman has just started online dating. It will be interesting to hear his stories when he is on a local radio show every Tuesday evening.
truth_seeker Posted March 6, 2013 Posted March 6, 2013 Never had a good experience with OLD. For me, it feels forced and a bit desperate. People putting their pictures out there and telling the world something about themselves comes off like "Hi, I have no one. I would like to be with someone but I am having trouble meeting anyone. Would you like to go out with me?"
CudLRoo Posted March 6, 2013 Posted March 6, 2013 Our local TV weatherman has just started online dating. It will be interesting to hear his stories when he is on a local radio show every Tuesday evening. ^How odd! Actually got my first OLD coming up next week. Don't know if I'm in the right mindset as I'm still into this other girl but that seems well over now, though I still think of her a lot. Doesn't seem too wise to me but I'm trying to escape a rut right now, escape a void. I'm kinda reticent, I wouldn't worry if I didn't get a second date, in fact I'm sorta scared about that potentiality, not sure I'm too ready yet. Anyway, I'll just be myself, and honest, I'm sure it'll be fine.
Green Light Posted March 6, 2013 Posted March 6, 2013 People putting their pictures out there and telling the world something about themselves comes off like "Hi, I have no one. I would like to be with someone but I am having trouble meeting anyone. Would you like to go out with me?" That is EXACTLY what they are trying to say.
outsidethebox Posted March 6, 2013 Posted March 6, 2013 I disagree with the player and coward stuff. The guy was straight up and polite and there's nothing to complain about. Some said he didn't respond. Not true. He didn't contact her about a second date within a week. So what? He did message after date to say thanks and had a great time. What, you want no thank you note (that will give you something to complain about) or a note saying I don't ever want to see you again? What kind of world do you people live in? If there was as real rapport there would be messaging back and forth some before a second date because the people genuinely liked each other and had a rapport. Without followup staying in touch messages then you should expect that he isn't going to launch an invitation out of clear blue sky. Maybe he would, and maybe it would come two weeks or two months later, who knows? But it's not coming from an intense interest, that's for sure. Point being, why is OLD or a guy bad because the guy didn't want to pursue it? How many girls turn down the guy if he did pursue it? Plenty. That's if the guy even gets a first date, or even a response. 1
CudLRoo Posted March 6, 2013 Posted March 6, 2013 ^That's the way I sorta feel. But EVERYONE seems to be doing it, don't they?
Author starla33 Posted March 6, 2013 Author Posted March 6, 2013 I disagree with the player and coward stuff. The guy was straight up and polite and there's nothing to complain about. Some said he didn't respond. Not true. He didn't contact her about a second date within a week. So what? He did message after date to say thanks and had a great time. What, you want no thank you note (that will give you something to complain about) or a note saying I don't ever want to see you again? What kind of world do you people live in? If there was as real rapport there would be messaging back and forth some before a second date because the people genuinely liked each other and had a rapport. Without followup staying in touch messages then you should expect that he isn't going to launch an invitation out of clear blue sky. Maybe he would, and maybe it would come two weeks or two months later, who knows? But it's not coming from an intense interest, that's for sure. Point being, why is OLD or a guy bad because the guy didn't want to pursue it? How many girls turn down the guy if he did pursue it? Plenty. That's if the guy even gets a first date, or even a response. OLD you just don't text after the date if you are not interested....you also don't tell the girl you want to see her again after the date in person and about all the things you want to do together. Give me a break
serial muse Posted March 6, 2013 Posted March 6, 2013 Our local TV weatherman has just started online dating. It will be interesting to hear his stories when he is on a local radio show every Tuesday evening. Wow, that's funny! So he's talking about it on the show? I wonder if he'll have more success as a famous guy. I mean, sorta famous. Locally famous.
wheream_i Posted March 6, 2013 Posted March 6, 2013 OLD is no joke. When people tell me they've had success I look at them like they're some sort of mythical creature. Like they're fictional. Make believe. I believe anyone, seriously, whoever you are, you will fare better in real life. You will get much better in real life. In real life I've gotten girls who have posed in magazines. Online, I couldn't get a reply back if I messaged Rosanne Barr. I don't know how people game online. I'm with you on this one, dude. I'm on Plenty Of Fish and I've literally had one woman contact me. That was to tell me I had nice tattoos. She was average looking at best and I responded back to her to say, "thank you, how are you, etc.?" Not a word back, lol. I've emailed maybe five other women and not a single response back either. However, in real life, I've had beautiful, intelligent women that would put most OLD females to shame. Funny how that works. 1
CarrieT Posted March 6, 2013 Posted March 6, 2013 It is a numbers game and easier if you don't get too emotionally invested right off the bat. I used OLD on-and-off for three years; talking to hundreds of guys, having over 50 coffee meet-and-greets, and seriously dating a handful. I think there are a lot of married and otherwise-attached people using the OLD to stroke their egos, but if you are patient, you can weed through to find the serious users. I found my fiance via OLD (I'm also 50, BTW). 1
iKING Posted March 6, 2013 Posted March 6, 2013 The problem with OLD (plenty of strange fish, and OK Cupid you need to get out more) I've found is that It's not real human interaction. You're not face to face with a real human being. Virtual interaction and actual interaction are vastly different. It essentially de-humanises humans. They become a picture and text on a page. At which point It's like selecting toys in a catalog of virtual mates. You have no chance to court a spouse the old fashioned way because It's so straight forward from the get-go. There are so many options to choose from that it turns evolutionary mechanism in the brain on its head. Don't get me wrong, I have nothing against OLD, I've known one or two people who had successful long term relationships (engagement, marriage) that began with online dating, if I remember correctly they were both match. Personally I have much more fun trying to woo females in the real world and have had far more success with far greater women. I've dated models with great personalities that I met the old fashioned way, yet online didn't get the time of day from pretty average women who were in an abundance state of mind. Online dating turns everyone into a disposable commodity, I.e. if this one doesn't work, I've got 10 others lined up that I can give a test-drive. Just my two cents 1
FitChick Posted March 6, 2013 Posted March 6, 2013 Wow, that's funny! So he's talking about it on the show? I wonder if he'll have more success as a famous guy. I mean, sorta famous. Locally famous. He is more than a local weatherman in a major metropolitan city. TV host and producer, very attractive, funny, intelligent, rich, loves animals. Never married and I'm guessing he is around 50, has had beautiful girlfriends. Makes me wonder what is wrong with him!
CudLRoo Posted March 7, 2013 Posted March 7, 2013 ^That I cannot understand(!) Actually got a question to ask about OLD, I've messaged four girls and two of them have got back to me so far, one has said they want to date next week, the other may follow suit, I don't know yet. What would you say was the average 'juggle factor' for one in a full-time job with oddish hours? 2/3 people to date, max? It's too 'candystore', too much like a Chinese buffet, it's nuts. I actually feel very uncomfortable about being on there but I'm trying to take my mind off things, I just don't want to make things TOO complex in such a short space of time.
outsidethebox Posted March 7, 2013 Posted March 7, 2013 iKing, that's all well and good, the point of OLD is to be able to meet someone that you have no problem finding in IRL.
El Brujo Posted March 7, 2013 Posted March 7, 2013 All I can say is... TAMTAM (= there ain't many trolls at meetups).
Casablanca Posted March 7, 2013 Posted March 7, 2013 went on a great date with a guy. We definitely had chemistry and he complimented me a bunch and I acted interested, etc etc. Told me about all these things we should do. Said we should go out again and I agreed. Texted me afterwards and said he had a great time....i responded and said the same. Well it's been a week and I haven't heard a thing from him. I SWEAR online dating no matter how well a date goes is usually awful for some reason wth I've had this happened with people I've met in person too...don't think it is exclusive to OLD, though perhaps the quality of women doing OLD is higher than that of men
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