starla33 Posted March 6, 2013 Posted March 6, 2013 went on a great date with a guy. We definitely had chemistry and he complimented me a bunch and I acted interested, etc etc. Told me about all these things we should do. Said we should go out again and I agreed. Texted me afterwards and said he had a great time....i responded and said the same. Well it's been a week and I haven't heard a thing from him. I SWEAR online dating no matter how well a date goes is usually awful for some reason wth
Green Light Posted March 6, 2013 Posted March 6, 2013 went on a great date with a guy. We definitely had chemistry and he complimented me a bunch and I acted interested, etc etc. Told me about all these things we should do. Said we should go out again and I agreed. Texted me afterwards and said he had a great time....i responded and said the same. Well it's been a week and I haven't heard a thing from him. I SWEAR online dating no matter how well a date goes is usually awful for some reason wth OLD makes everyone disposable. 2
SJC2008 Posted March 6, 2013 Posted March 6, 2013 I think OLD just shows how chytty people really are. Think about it; These are real people, could be your neighbor, co-worker or even friend. Peoples true colors show when they have more options. 6
Green Light Posted March 6, 2013 Posted March 6, 2013 I think OLD just shows how chytty people really are. Think about it; These are real people, could be your neighbor, co-worker or even friend. Peoples true colors show when they have more options. You got that right! AND I'm starting to believe that people are less happy overall when they have more options. It sends people into this weird state of neurosis. 4
Author starla33 Posted March 6, 2013 Author Posted March 6, 2013 This man speaks the truth I don't get the point anymore. It was a great date and why the hell text me after if you were not interested. Seriously think OLD is such a waste of time. I've never had this issue with people I met in person (but obviously it's not as many people as OLD sites let you go out with) 2
creighton0123 Posted March 6, 2013 Posted March 6, 2013 I can offer a different perspective as a gay man. OLD is the norm if you want to meet people interested in relationships, but otherwise occupied in life with work, etc. If you go to clubs or bars, you meet people interested in hooking up. Since there are less gay men and women around, it's harder for us to just... flirt. You don't always know if the person will reciprocate, so OLD is the perfect alternative to meet someone you know is definitely interested. The same might not be true for straight men and women and OLD, since the choices of potential romantic partners can be found essentially anywhere.
CudLRoo Posted March 6, 2013 Posted March 6, 2013 I find it scary, and kinda cold...but so ADDICTIVE, just browsing and not even interacting. I ask for BBWs and I've got 30 viewing me in the space of a day. It's too easy, it feels like a fohking barnyard. (last sentence to be said in a deep Bronx accent) Funny, though, I kind of immediately understood how cutthroat the place would be, and I'm kinda reticent to be on there, anyway, so it doesn't bother me right now, just a distraction.
Soxfaninfl Posted March 6, 2013 Posted March 6, 2013 (edited) I've gotten more dates thru online dating than I would if I wasn't using those sites. I'm a shy guy so online dating is easier for me to meet potential girlfriends. I'm not giving up untill I find the one that I'm suppose to spend the rest of my life with. Edited March 6, 2013 by Soxfaninfl 5
Green Light Posted March 6, 2013 Posted March 6, 2013 I'm not giving up untill I find the one that I'm suppose to spend the rest of my life with. I've already found mine. Her name is Rosey Palmer and she brought her 5 sisters with her. It's like a freaking harem over here! 5
Soxfaninfl Posted March 6, 2013 Posted March 6, 2013 I've already found mine. Her name is Rosey Palmer and she brought her 5 sisters with her. It's like a freaking harem over here! I thought I found my one true love, but she left me after 11 years off marriage. So I'm trying to find my future wife. I'm happy for you and envy you.
Green Light Posted March 6, 2013 Posted March 6, 2013 I thought I found my one true love, but she left me after 11 years off marriage. So I'm trying to find my future wife. I'm happy for you and envy you. It was a joke. A not so subtle innuendo. Really, I'm pretty much in the same boat as you right now. 1
Estate Posted March 6, 2013 Posted March 6, 2013 went on a great date with a guy. We definitely had chemistry and he complimented me a bunch and I acted interested, etc etc. Told me about all these things we should do. Said we should go out again and I agreed. Texted me afterwards and said he had a great time....i responded and said the same. Well it's been a week and I haven't heard a thing from him. I SWEAR online dating no matter how well a date goes is usually awful for some reason wth He could have stuff going on. He could have just met someone he clicked with bettter. Jeez, it was ONE online date. Get over it. 4
Green Light Posted March 6, 2013 Posted March 6, 2013 He could have stuff going on. He could have just met someone he clicked with bettter. Jeez, it was ONE online date. Get over it. Your posts are like digital rug burn. 1
MrCastle Posted March 6, 2013 Posted March 6, 2013 OLD is no joke. When people tell me they've had success I look at them like they're some sort of mythical creature. Like they're fictional. Make believe. I believe anyone, seriously, whoever you are, you will fare better in real life. You will get much better in real life. In real life I've gotten girls who have posed in magazines. Online, I couldn't get a reply back if I messaged Rosanne Barr. I don't know how people game online. 6
Author starla33 Posted March 6, 2013 Author Posted March 6, 2013 He could have stuff going on. He could have just met someone he clicked with bettter. Jeez, it was ONE online date. Get over it. I just went back after months of not online dating....don't get me started on my other OLD's 1
Soxfaninfl Posted March 6, 2013 Posted March 6, 2013 He could have stuff going on. He could have just met someone he clicked with bettter. Jeez, it was ONE online date. Get over it. He could responded back to her and not left her hanging waiting for a respond of one kind. Be considerate of that persons feelings.
Author starla33 Posted March 6, 2013 Author Posted March 6, 2013 OLD is no joke. When people tell me they've had success I look at them like they're some sort of mythical creature. Like they're fictional. Make believe. I believe anyone, seriously, whoever you are, you will fare better in real life. You will get much better in real life. In real life I've gotten girls who have posed in magazines. Online, I couldn't get a reply back if I messaged Rosanne Barr. I don't know how people game online. I agree with this. There were a few guys i met through friends that I went out with that I would have totally ignored on dating sites (their pictures are really bad) 1
ruh roh Posted March 6, 2013 Posted March 6, 2013 Even though I was an OLD virgin until just a few days ago, I already see that this type of dating is more like going to a casino. You have so many choices, but you finally pick a machine, drop your money and pull the handle. Now it all comes down to luck whether you picked the right one. If you win than you drop more coins (a second date), but if you loose you can just move to the next one. That seems to be the problem with OLD, way too many choices. The more choices we have the less tolerant we become of imperfection because we always think the jackpot is in the next 24-matches! However OLD does seem to fill a void for those of us that aren't blessed with lots of time to find a partner the old fashioned (analog) way. It also amazes me how many seemingly beautiful, intelligent and successful divorced women are on OLD. 1
Estate Posted March 6, 2013 Posted March 6, 2013 He could responded back to her and not left her hanging waiting for a respond of one kind. Be considerate of that persons feelings. It doesn't happen with OLD. Sorry to be harsh, you guys obviously don't like what I'm saying... ... but what are the choices here? You can't take much from 1 or even 3 or 4 dates, let alone from online... ... so you can let it get you down or just accept that these things happen, you need to be able to let it go. I'm not saying it's easy, we've all been there... we like someone and they never respond again.... but that's life. There's someone better out there.
SJC2008 Posted March 6, 2013 Posted March 6, 2013 I've already found mine. Her name is Rosey Palmer and she brought her 5 sisters with her. It's like a freaking harem over here! Yup if Pamela breaks up with me I'll get back with "Palmela" lol 2
Keenly Posted March 6, 2013 Posted March 6, 2013 If you asked me, the OLD was successful to their part of the deal. The "Content" or behavior of the other person cant then be placed on OLD as a whole, just that guy.
rocketman122 Posted March 6, 2013 Posted March 6, 2013 When I did OLD I noticed that many just seem to hide behind the screen and just window shop . they seem to be looking for a virtual relationship and just for attention. 3
Mr_Flay Posted March 6, 2013 Posted March 6, 2013 The response rate that I get is usually higher than 50%, but I use the "sniper approach". Seven out of ten girls with whom I exchange messages want to meet me in person. However, so far I've only reached two second dates. My problem seems to be in the offline component rather than the way I handle things online, but I guess the "disposability" factor mentioned in the above posts plays a significant role in this. Many people spin multiple plates at a time, or multidate, then just pick the best prospect and discard the rest.
MidwestUSA Posted March 6, 2013 Posted March 6, 2013 went on a great date with a guy. We definitely had chemistry and he complimented me a bunch and I acted interested, etc etc. Told me about all these things we should do. Said we should go out again and I agreed. Texted me afterwards and said he had a great time....i responded and said the same. Well it's been a week and I haven't heard a thing from him. I SWEAR online dating no matter how well a date goes is usually awful for some reason wth You "acted interested". How great of an actress were you? Maybe he could tell that you weren't really interested. Chalk it up to experience and hope to find someone who truly does interest you.
bac Posted March 6, 2013 Posted March 6, 2013 went on a great date with a guy. We definitely had chemistry and he complimented me a bunch and I acted interested, etc etc. Told me about all these things we should do. Said we should go out again and I agreed. Texted me afterwards and said he had a great time....i responded and said the same. Well it's been a week and I haven't heard a thing from him. I SWEAR online dating no matter how well a date goes is usually awful for some reason wth A typical date with a player. He had fun. You should not take players seriously. They are not good for Rs but they are great for fun.
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