wadewilson Posted March 6, 2013 Posted March 6, 2013 Hey everyone! I've been trolling these forums for quite awhile after a breakup of my own, and I must say its helped me a lot. Recent events have made me want to post a thread myself. The back story: My ex and I were together for 4 and a half years. We took a break in October, which led to a breakup a couple weeks later. Through mutual friends, I heard she was telling people very different stories, from "I had to break up with him because he wasn't going anywhere" to "I love him and I think we'll be back together". She told her mom she never wanted us to break up, but I suppose actions speak louder than words considering she had more of a hand in the breakup than I did. Anyways, I decided NC was the way to go, said my goodbyes to her family (who told me they were confused as to why she was doing this), and started on with my life. She blocked me from Facebook, even though I didn't attempt to contact her. I ended up having a job opportunity across the country, I took it, and I'm doing well. Not dating anyone inparticular. I found out recently she had started seeing someone a couple weeks after we broke up and is now "in love" with him after a couple months. I have been going strong NC, only hoping that she's happy where she's at. So why am I posting now? Things have gotten confusing for me lately. I received a blank text from her, which I ignored. I find it strange that she would keep my number in her phone, but stranger things have happened. I though nothing of it. A couple weeks later I got a phone call from her at around 2am. I didn't answer, but then thought maybe something was wrong, so I called her back. No answer. She called me back, both said hey, then the call was dropped. I texted her and asked if she was okay, which she said she was. I said I hope everyone is doing okay, and age said same here. That was it. Wtf. Seems weird that she'd call just to act like she had nothing to say. Then today, I saw she had unblocked me on facebook. All this has got me confused. I was getting better with everything, and now I feel like I've taken a couple steps back. Any insight would be greatly appreciated!
CC12 Posted March 6, 2013 Posted March 6, 2013 I get why this would have you confused, but you seem to be doing a really good job of moving on. Don't let that progress be ruined by her strange, passive attempts at communication. Unless she comes right out and says what she wants from you, pay it no mind. Trying to figure this out is a waste of time. If she has something to say, she can say it. Keep moving on.
lavenderlove Posted March 6, 2013 Posted March 6, 2013 Well, I think she is changing her mind. It seems to me that from what you explained what other people think is really important to her, this is why she went around lying to everyone when you broke up. So, she is probably wanting to talk to you, but because she is concerned how this will be viewed down the track she just does all these weird things instead. I mean if she could say, "ah he called me up after all these months" it would look better on her than saying SHE couldn't take it any longer. BUT regardless of all of that please please don't call her and keep NC. I did this mistake two years ago, and now I broke up with the guy again after 8 years. An other two years of my life spent with him walking down a dead end road, just because it was too hard to keep NC. Keep this in mind. Good luck!
Author wadewilson Posted March 7, 2013 Author Posted March 7, 2013 CC-- you are 100% right. If she has something to say to me, she can come out and say it. If she won't come out and say it, it must not be that important to her. Lander-- yeah, her telling everyone all those different stories baffled me. She seemed extremely confused with her life in general at the time, and for her sake I hope she didn't jump into something too quickly with this new person. Personally, it seems like she did, but obviously I'm extremely biased haha. Thanks so much for the responses! Im open to any other insight out there!!
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