RiceaRoni Posted March 6, 2013 Posted March 6, 2013 he's treating her the same way he's treated me...hes even dedicating and singing the same songs he sang to me, to her...why is he treated her the same way he used to treat me? It's insulting and kind of weird that he's using the same songs, same lines, same treatment...
Minneloa Posted March 6, 2013 Posted March 6, 2013 How do you know this? If it's from Facebook, Twitter, etc., then you are just torturing yourself needlessly. I urge you to do whatever you can to distance yourself from your ex & the pain that results from continued contact/information. 2
Author RiceaRoni Posted March 6, 2013 Author Posted March 6, 2013 Why do you know how he's treating her? I don't know...I should stop. man it's so hard to stay away from everything social network. I don't care, I don't care, I don't care...He's not worth it, nope, he's just immature...I will find the right one some day... sigh. gotta keep telling myself to just forgive and forget
Toddbt12y1 Posted March 6, 2013 Posted March 6, 2013 he's treating her the same way he's treated me...hes even dedicating and singing the same songs he sang to me, to her...why is he treated her the same way he used to treat me? It's insulting and kind of weird that he's using the same songs, same lines, same treatment... He isn't gonna change his game up. He knows it worked before, and will again. But, all this aside, you shouldn't be looking him up. This pain you now feel, is a result of that action. Please, do not allow yourself to be hurt. Stop looking him up...or whatever keeps yo in the know about him...he's evil. This is how he will act. 1
Minneloa Posted March 6, 2013 Posted March 6, 2013 I think you might be surprised how empowered you feel by blocking/deleting him on social media. Remember, this is one aspect of a lousy situation that you *can* control. You can take care of yourself and take steps forward. 2
Author RiceaRoni Posted March 6, 2013 Author Posted March 6, 2013 He isn't gonna change his game up. He knows it worked before, and will again. But, all this aside, you shouldn't be looking him up. This pain you now feel, is a result of that action. Please, do not allow yourself to be hurt. Stop looking him up...or whatever keeps yo in the know about him...he's evil. This is how he will act. It's really hard...I don't know why..I have the urge to always check up on him, which is pathetic...however there was a time around oh maybe 2 months ago where for about 2 weeks I completely just stopped thinking about him and started doing my own thing...I actually felt pretty good, and then he texted me and I went back to checking up on him...sigh..it's like he knew. I just need to be really really busy
Minneloa Posted March 6, 2013 Posted March 6, 2013 I understand this is painful. But what is keeping you from taking action (i.e., deleting from from FB) right now that will distance you from the source of that pain?
Author RiceaRoni Posted March 6, 2013 Author Posted March 6, 2013 I understand this is painful. But what is keeping you from taking action (i.e., deleting from from FB) right now that will distance you from the source of that pain? well once we broke up I deactivated my fb and it has stayed deactivated ever since...twitter I'm still working on staying off of it, but it's progress because I hardly go on...It's instagram and Tumblr that are the social networking sites that are difficult to stay off of...Ive tried deleting my Instagram app off my phone and it worked really well, and so I thought i was strong enough to go back on and start posting pictures again, but we both have mutual friends so pictures of him would show up even tho i dont follow him.... I think i'll delete the instagram app again...and that will also prevent me from staying off tumblr... I just hate having to give up my social networking site because of him...but it's too tempting to see what he's up to..
na49 Posted March 6, 2013 Posted March 6, 2013 (edited) It's really hard...I don't know why..I have the urge to always check up on him, which is pathetic...however there was a time around oh maybe 2 months ago where for about 2 weeks I completely just stopped thinking about him and started doing my own thing...I actually felt pretty good, and then he texted me and I went back to checking up on him...sigh..it's like he knew. I just need to be really really busy You need to block him. and then be really really busy. You don't have to give up social networking. I kept my facebook. I just blocked her and anyone who is a link back to her that I could use as a way of "spying" on her. Edited March 6, 2013 by na49 1
Minneloa Posted March 6, 2013 Posted March 6, 2013 Then goodbye, Instagram! It's a trigger, and you know you will feel better without it as a temptation/reminder. Do it! 1
Logan oO Posted March 6, 2013 Posted March 6, 2013 Checking up on an ex-partner is just us 'seeking' a glimmer of hope that we are 'thought about' and that the other person isn't a cold hearted piece of trash, and merely that everything we feel will be over if we just check often enough something will change for the better. The truth is, every single time you check and see a profile picture has changed, a status update (positive or negative) it pushes you back a step. This guy is using the same things because he is a one track piece of crap, who has no sense of diversity when it comes to women. Believe me, i JUST made it through my first day (24 hours) with NO CONTACT since i got dumped a month ago, and i feel a bit better You have to take a step. You can't just Block ONE of his social medias, you would have to block them all, otherwise you will still check. I know it's hard, and you WILL meet the right guy for you, i guess the easiest way to look at it is. Given how much you care or love him, do you feel that he is the right man for you seeing how he has no problem moving on. Block his ass. 3
Author RiceaRoni Posted March 6, 2013 Author Posted March 6, 2013 I deleted Instagram lets hope I can stay off I now lol But it actually dissapoints me that he's using the EXACT same songs that we had....they're not special to me anymore now. Shame.
Author RiceaRoni Posted March 6, 2013 Author Posted March 6, 2013 Believe me, i JUST made it through my first day (24 hours) with NO CONTACT since i got dumped a month ago, and i feel a bit better You have to take a step. I'm happy for you that's great. It's been about 4/5 months since the BU for me
Minneloa Posted March 6, 2013 Posted March 6, 2013 I deleted Instagram lets hope I can stay off I now lol Good job! And you can CHOOSE to stay off of it, because that's in your best interest, Stay strong. 1
na49 Posted March 6, 2013 Posted March 6, 2013 I deleted Instagram lets hope I can stay off I now lol But it actually dissapoints me that he's using the EXACT same songs that we had....they're not special to me anymore now. Shame. It's funny, I got an iPhone and wanted to get Instagram because I think taking pictures of random crap with filters is cool. Plus following people seems cool. I won't get it because I know for a fact I will search for my ex's Instagram and God knows she'll be posting new pictures of her/whoever she's dating every day so that's just a recipe for disaster for me. Have you blocked him yet? No excuses!
Author RiceaRoni Posted March 6, 2013 Author Posted March 6, 2013 It's funny, I got an iPhone and wanted to get Instagram because I think taking pictures of random crap with filters is cool. Plus following people seems cool. I won't get it because I know for a fact I will search for my ex's Instagram and God knows she'll be posting new pictures of her/whoever she's dating every day so that's just a recipe for disaster for me. Have you blocked him yet? No excuses! yeah instagram is a major disaster if you're trying to move on...I emotionally killed myself seeing pictures of him and his new gf, but now that I deleted it...NO MORE! lol at least until I can get over him and stop hurting...first relationships are the hardest afterall...
Author RiceaRoni Posted March 6, 2013 Author Posted March 6, 2013 I deleted Instagram lets hope I can stay off I now lol Good job! And you can CHOOSE to stay off of it, because that's in your best interest, Stay strong. I will choose to stay off it until I'm over him or am confident enough to move on and stop pining over him
Author RiceaRoni Posted March 6, 2013 Author Posted March 6, 2013 Well it's been a full day of not looking at any social media and I gotta say I already feel good haha...plus I'm working so it takes my mind off of him a lot. It seems I only think of him when I'm alone in my room or when I'm about to go to sleep.
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