na49 Posted March 5, 2013 Posted March 5, 2013 Am I the only one who feels guilty at times for trying to move on? I ignored my ex's attempts at friendship, never found out what it was she wanted to talk to me about, and haven't heard from her since blocking her number, but I still feel guilty. Meanwhile I shouldn't feel guilty about anything. She f*cking cheated on me.. Does anyone else feel this way? You're trying to move on from the BU, but still feel like it's "wrong" and want your ex to know you still love them?
CudLRoo Posted March 5, 2013 Posted March 5, 2013 I do, sort of, because I know she still loves me and I still love her as a person, It's like, I got this romantic prob right now, I messed up with a girl, and the ONLY person who could talk it through with me is her, yet disclosing my info might hurt her, and I don't want to do that, I don't want to cause her pain. I have to say though, I'd probably feel a different way if she'd cheated on me.
cavalier99 Posted March 5, 2013 Posted March 5, 2013 No I do not feel guilty for attempting to move on or not responding to her bread crumb. I feel good i didn't respond. 3
stevie_23 Posted March 6, 2013 Posted March 6, 2013 Never do I EVER feel guilty, but this is because my ex left ME. I would still be with him (for better or worse) if he hadn’t left.
coralie Posted March 6, 2013 Posted March 6, 2013 I definitely do not feel guilty at all. I'm struggling so hard to try to move on and wish I already moved on while he already moved on with someone else, so...no guilt. 1
McDonald Posted March 6, 2013 Posted March 6, 2013 No guilt... but feel like things could have ended differently if she was more honest. So, more upset.
Author na49 Posted March 6, 2013 Author Posted March 6, 2013 So I'm alone on an island with this one? I feel like I need to remind myself why I'm mad at her. The way I do that is usually by coming really close to checking up on her and then telling myself I shouldn't. I get really frustrated about my BU. Then I feel better about moving on. and then the cycle starts over again.
McDonald Posted March 6, 2013 Posted March 6, 2013 I mean in my last move that I made.. Which was the dumb bu post on fb.. I have had guilt that is making me want to send her something. Just because I don't want it to feel like its my fault now
Author na49 Posted March 6, 2013 Author Posted March 6, 2013 I mean in my last move that I made.. Which was the dumb bu post on fb.. I have had guilt that is making me want to send her something. Just because I don't want it to feel like its my fault now You seriously need to get off of that. Send her an apology. Pour your heart out to her. What will it change honestly?
McDonald Posted March 6, 2013 Posted March 6, 2013 it wouldnt be an apology. It will just be explaining my actions in a way.. or knowing what i did was wrong.. but not apologizng because i have nothing to apologize for. I guess im still stuck on trying to be "friends" with her.
Soxfaninfl Posted March 6, 2013 Posted March 6, 2013 So I'm alone on an island with this one? I feel like I need to remind myself why I'm mad at her. The way I do that is usually by coming really close to checking up on her and then telling myself I shouldn't. I get really frustrated about my BU. Then I feel better about moving on. and then the cycle starts over again. Move on and forget about her. I'm trying to do the same. My wife quit on our marriage and cheated on me. I will never be friends with her. The sad part is I still love her, but I deserve better. 1
Author na49 Posted March 6, 2013 Author Posted March 6, 2013 Move on and forget about her. Oh if only it was that easy.
Soxfaninfl Posted March 6, 2013 Posted March 6, 2013 Oh if only it was that easy. It is if you don't have children with her. You can go no contact. I cannot unfortunately. I have a son with my ex-wife, and I have to deal with her for the next 9 years and be reminded of her.
RiceaRoni Posted March 6, 2013 Posted March 6, 2013 sometimes I see my ex at school, and when we broke up I begged and always looked for his attention, and always tried talking to him, but he'd ignore me and avoid me at all costs, so i thought HELL NO am I going to continue to let my dignity be lowered so I started ignoring him and treating him like he didn't exist. turns out I found out he was hurt I was doing that, and yeah I felt guilty, but he treated me the same way and plus I needed to heal..so the guilt faded away
Author na49 Posted March 6, 2013 Author Posted March 6, 2013 I wish I found out how my ex feels about my ignoring her and rejecting her friendship. I'd imagine she's pretty pissed but is over it by now.
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