realisticbound Posted March 7, 2013 Posted March 7, 2013 I read his posts for a while and there is something really off about him. It's much more than being a player or women not getting the hint or even to do with romance. These are the classic sociopathic traits. Most apply to him. -------------------------------------- Glibness and Superficial Charm Manipulative and Conning They never recognize the rights of others and see their self-serving behaviors as permissible. They appear to be charming, yet are covertly hostile and domineering, seeing their victim as merely an instrument to be used. They may dominate and humiliate their victims. Grandiose Sense of Self Feels entitled to certain things as "their right." Pathological Lying Has no problem lying coolly and easily and it is almost impossible for them to be truthful on a consistent basis. Can create, and get caught up in, a complex belief about their own powers and abilities. Extremely convincing and even able to pass lie detector tests. Lack of Remorse, Shame or Guilt A deep seated rage, which is split off and repressed, is at their core. Does not see others around them as people, but only as targets and opportunities. Instead of friends, they have victims and accomplices who end up as victims. The end always justifies the means and they let nothing stand in their way. Shallow Emotions When they show what seems to be warmth, joy, love and compassion it is more feigned than experienced and serves an ulterior motive. Outraged by insignificant matters, yet remaining unmoved and cold by what would upset a normal person. Since they are not genuine, neither are their promises. Incapacity for Love Need for Stimulation Living on the edge. Verbal outbursts and physical punishments are normal. Promiscuity and gambling are common. Callousness/Lack of Empathy Unable to empathize with the pain of their victims, having only contempt for others' feelings of distress and readily taking advantage of them. Poor Behavioral Controls/Impulsive Nature Rage and abuse, alternating with small expressions of love and approval produce an addictive cycle for abuser and abused, as well as creating hopelessness in the victim. Believe they are all-powerful, all-knowing, entitled to every wish, no sense of personal boundaries, no concern for their impact on others. Early Behavior Problems/Juvenile Delinquency Usually has a history of behavioral and academic difficulties, yet "gets by" by conning others. Problems in making and keeping friends; aberrant behaviors such as cruelty to people or animals, stealing, etc. Irresponsibility/Unreliability Not concerned about wrecking others' lives and dreams. Oblivious or indifferent to the devastation they cause. Does not accept blame themselves, but blames others, even for acts they obviously committed. Promiscuous Sexual Behavior/Infidelity Promiscuity, child sexual abuse, rape and sexual acting out of all sorts. Lack of Realistic Life Plan/Parasitic Lifestyle Tends to move around a lot or makes all encompassing promises for the future, poor work ethic but exploits others effectively. Criminal or Entrepreneurial Versatility Changes their image as needed to avoid prosecution. Changes life story readily. You are correct. I wondered why I was the only one that noticed. 1
TheGuard13 Posted March 7, 2013 Posted March 7, 2013 A lot of people have sociopathic tendencies. That list...that list can apply to lots of people, not just sociopaths. When considering sociopathic behavior, however, this is the big one: Callousness/Lack of Empathy Unable to empathize with the pain of their victims, having only contempt forothers' feelingsof distress and readily taking advantage of them. I see your point, but I can't helpbut imagine how painful that is to hear to someone who actually cares or wantsto care. This sounds like a huge emotional punch to the face. This is him displaying empathy. I am not proud of hurting anyone. This is exactly why I'm requesting help from the people on this website.If I was proud, I would continue to do this without at least considering theramifications of my actions. If he’s a sociopath, then he’s not displaying it in this thread. Unless this is a form of manipulation...but he'd be manipulating us to believe something that most sociopaths don't care about. A true sociopath probably wouldn't care enough to make this post. Wouldn't care ahout the ramifications of his actions. And he wouldn't care enough to try to find a better way to communicate with women, or to alter the ramifications of his actions.
Disenchantedly Yours Posted March 7, 2013 Posted March 7, 2013 How do I avoid this from happening. How do the ladies want me to spell it out to them? If you're a woman who read this, how do you want a man to tell you these things? Do you sleep with these women or encourage them in anyway? On one hand, you say you are honest with them, then on the other, you talk about how you fake certain things to get along with people. Something is missing here. It sounds like you believe you telling them how you are saves you from any responsibility later on about how you decide to treat them. The reality is that *you* are always responsible for how you treat others whether you give them a warning or not. *You* are in charge of that. I don't want you to find a different way to tell women what a jerk you are. I want you to learn to take control and responsibility for ALL your actiosn. Not just the actions you feel you don't have to be responsible for simply because you think giving a warning in the beginning is good enough. This is not the women you are involved with responsibility and it's not their fault. This is on you and your own behavior. You need help. 1
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