dub fx Posted March 5, 2013 Posted March 5, 2013 So I met my Ex last night, we had fun and she was the one who started to talk again about us and a second chance.. Back ground break up information: we were togheter for 2.5 years. My ex gf broke up with me 5 months ago. She broke up because she moved 1.5 month earlier over seas then me. When I got here we had awefull fights and lots of drama ( She is 24, im 23). The break up reason: she said she was lonely when i was still back home and I was not listening to her problems and also diddn't call her to often(what is quit bad I have to say..) To be honnest I still really think she had to communicate better with me because i had no idea she was struggeling with her self. She never told me she was down or was lonely. But she told me she tried to tell me but I never was listening? To be honnest; If she was strugelling with being happy and i care about her i would listen! But somehow she couldn't talk with me about it.. Bit strange eh? So after the break up we had awefull fights and she started to see this muscle guy who she spended a lot of time going to the gym. We became kind of friends again and we met up few times in this months but always turned out a bit bad cause i was over emotional and angry she was seeing someone else. Once we met up having a coffee and she wanted to talk about whats going on between us. But i asked if she was still with this guy and she said yes and I walked of angry. She texted me the last 2 months sometimes how she missed me and how special we were. I always texted way to emotional back and pushed for meetings but it never happend. She went on a Holiday to Mexico with some friends and her bf and the bf behaved himself as a true dickhead (she told me some storries and I just can't believe she started seeing this guy, the storries were rediciaolous! lol To the Point: I love this girl still madly! I would love to be us again but somethings are holding me a bit back: -If you love someone why do you break up and tell me it was over for always and see started seeing someone else straight away. I f you love someone you should always try to work out whats not working right? Maybe it was not possible cause we were both blaming eachother and there was to much drama? I'm also a bit affraid she grow an emotinal relation wiht this guy ( her ex now sinds a few days) when i was back home. But i think this is was because she was lonely without me? -Why did she always texted me so many times in this months to say how much i mean to her but still kept seeying this guy and never wanted to meet up to talk or hang out? If she really missed me, and really tought i was the best guy who rocks her world why did she kept seeing this guy so long? And now after the holiday i think she really sees what a dick this guy is but am i now a replacement? Why did she broke up only now with this guys untill she realisses what kind of dickhead he is. Why not earier cause she realises how I ROCK !??!? I think what worries me the most:Scared to be her back up plan and wanna come back with me cause she realises this guy is a dick or she realises i am so cool? After last night we had fun and we talk about so much cool stuff and she gave me hints she wants to travell with me in a few months again. ( we are both travellers and thats also how we met) So she asked me whats between us: i Said you know how i feel about you, you are the one who broke up so the ball is at your feet. She told me she wants to be friends first and see how we go from there? So this morning i woke up really early thinking about her the whole time.. I love her sooooo frickin much, and she knows this damn good cause i had to control my tears a few times last night.. To be honnest: I want to be with her now! I wanna have her next to me waking up! I know a lot of you guys say MOVE ON! I tried and saw a girl for a few weeks but i always tried to see my ex in her.. My storry has so much details and i'm not writing everything down, it would be inpossible and I allready have difficulties in writing clear storries ! But i just wonder if some guys have experience in comming back and how you guys did this! So I need some opinions and advice! What are the steps i undertake to come back together? Do I let her undertake contact or asking to meet up? Like I said: i think the ball is at her feet.. She has to play now. But how do I play my cards?
Tmo2 Posted March 22, 2013 Posted March 22, 2013 After last night we had fun and we talk about so much cool stuff and she gave me hints she wants to travell with me in a few months again. ( we are both travellers and thats also how we met) So she asked me whats between us: i Said you know how i feel about you, you are the one who broke up so the ball is at your feet. She told me she wants to be friends first and see how we go from there? ... Be friends and see where it goes from there? Just be yourself and become the guy you wish to be. There are other things you can focus on I'm sure. Be yourself, have fun and take it easy. Remember that nothing can be forced. Things will sort themselves out on their own, for better or worse. Accept the possibility of not being with her. She knows you love her, if she is not already in your arms its because she needs some sorting out to do with herself + she probably is watching if you are doing the same.
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