divorceddad Posted March 5, 2013 Posted March 5, 2013 I am recently divorced with two kids, I met a beautiful women and we have been dating for several months. We both feel the same about each other. We have met each others Children (She is also Divorced) and our Children have met each other. Problem is her Ex. He is well nuts. He has two counts of child endargement against him and recently got arrested for domestic violence for pushing her and her 8yr old son. My issue is I am torn, part of me wants to give him a piece of my mind, and well you know. It is taking all my self restraint to stop myself from having a not so friendly chat with him. I know part of his problem is alchohol, and more than likely some mental problems, should I just stay out of it and support her, or should I pay this joker a visit?
TaraMaiden Posted March 5, 2013 Posted March 5, 2013 do not get involved unless you feel you have no choice. Then you must ensure you only act in self defence. You can't afford to be seen as the aggressor in this. Not being funny, but are you sure, if you took him on, that you'd win? 1
Author divorceddad Posted March 5, 2013 Author Posted March 5, 2013 Oh I am fairly certain I could take him if I took him on. I don't want to go that route, but without giving too many details, he is well an Ass. He currently has a TPO on her and the 8 yr old, but not on the 12 yr old. The 12 yr old still sees him right now, they have a "shared parenting plan" and by law he is required to visit. She (my GF) wants to give him one more chance at stepping up and being a dad, that does not bother me, but I am uncertain if he is willing to put in the work to change, you know AA, therapy etc. I told her that if he goes back to his old self she needs to get sole custody and that I would more than likely take him on and she would have to bail me out if I got arrested for assault...LMAO
Luckydad Posted March 5, 2013 Posted March 5, 2013 The more you let yourself get involved in your GF's dispute with her ex, the more issues you will find down the road in your relationship. Even though this man is, as you say, nuts, he is still the father to your GF's kids.
Author divorceddad Posted March 5, 2013 Author Posted March 5, 2013 The more you let yourself get involved in your GF's dispute with her ex, the more issues you will find down the road in your relationship. Even though this man is, as you say, nuts, he is still the father to your GF's kids. , Lucky Dad I totally agree with you and the last thing I want to do is come between him and his kids ( I know I would hate it if My Ex's bf ever did that to me), but the hard part is where is the line? I mean he can't threaten harass and push her around etc. I am trying to be the bigger person and be there for her and all that, but I don't know never been in this situation before, which is why I am here I guess. I was raised to be a gentleman and to treat people with respect and well this is just not right. I guess I can only hope he gets the help he needs and turns his life around
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