AyushRao Posted March 5, 2013 Posted March 5, 2013 My ex and i broke up about 3 weeks ago. I was just a rebound although she never really got over her ex. She broke up with me because she realized he was the one for her. He loves her too and was hurt that she immediately got into a relationship. Now, she's going to wait for him to come back to her. Red flags kept propping up throughout the relationship and when i asked her about it she kept re-assuring me that she'd choose me over him. I'm deeply hurt that she left me but at the same time i want her to be happy but it hurts so bad that she doesn't really even care about me a little. My screaming at her when she broke up and calling her a bitch, might've contributed to it. my problem is we were best friends before this and we're part of the same group of friends at school. we always hang out together and neither of us are ready to back out of the group. i told her that its okay and even wished her all the best. (she broke up with me over text) I'd act as if everything was cool between us but she keeps saying hurtful comments about finding an awesome guy on purpose for me to hear and i asked her to piss off. It makes me feel sick to the core that she doesn't even believe i've got the right to be angry at her. I tried to make things right by talking to her but she acted all cocky and laughed when i asked if it was something i did. i didn't want to scream at her again so i walked away. About a week later i apologized to her and tried to take up the consolation prize of being just a friend again because i didn't want to lose her and even then she ignored me most of the time so i left it. Its been 2 weeks of NC and all our friends are going to meet up in a couple of days and she'll be there too and she'll be all extra energetic and she'll keep hugging all the guys except me and it was vice-versa before. lol How do i cope with all the hurtful comments? I do have friends other than this group and i'll be just fine without them but one of my best friends is in it. They tell me that if it wasn't for me dating her, no one would give a rats ass about her but that's not what they portray when she's around. They act as if nothing happened and i'm glad its that way but i feel a little bad when they don't take my side at all. I don't want to leave the group as it'll be just a sign of weakness from my side. I don't know what to do. Sorry about the super long post
katylou84 Posted March 5, 2013 Posted March 5, 2013 Thats really hard - I totally understand friends and social groups suck sometimes as they are on your side but it wont seem that way to you. Especially guys they just like drama free so will be nice to everyone. You dont need to leave the social group at all, if it feels to painful just stay away that night tell people you have a date or if you feel strong enough get yourself looking at your best eat salad and meat for a week have plenty of sleep and go and be super hot and show her what she is missing. You can achieve either just do what you feel strong enough to handle, if you cant be at your best and bring you A game then stay away. Just for now but dont get drunk and get upset thats the worse.
Author AyushRao Posted March 5, 2013 Author Posted March 5, 2013 I wouldn't do something so stupid. I know i'd just end up drunk dialing her. I try not to let it get to me, but at times its just really hard. she was never all that jumpy and happy through the relatioship even though i was there for her every second of the day and night. I'd wake up at 3 sometimes to answer her call and talk about her feelings for her ex just because she meant so much to me.
A n t h o n y Posted March 5, 2013 Posted March 5, 2013 I wouldn't do something so stupid. I know i'd just end up drunk dialing her. I try not to let it get to me, but at times its just really hard. she was never all that jumpy and happy through the relatioship even though i was there for her every second of the day and night. I'd wake up at 3 sometimes to answer her call and talk about her feelings for her ex just because she meant so much to me. First thing you need to do is act like you could care less about her. You did nothing wrong so why should you feel awkward or miserable around her. Just act yourself, don't let her know you're hurting, women can sense that ****.
Author AyushRao Posted March 5, 2013 Author Posted March 5, 2013 Yeah i called it a truce between us but she still acts like a bitch. If i'm talking to some guy or girl she comes over every time and either physically obstructs me by coming between my conversation partner or she drags them away! or if i'm talking to the whole group she just cuts whatever i say by talking louder. Its really getting on my nerves. I'm a really short tempered guy but i've tried really hard to stop yelling at her. so far so good. but i know i'll snap soon if that keeps up.
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