wanting more Posted March 5, 2013 Posted March 5, 2013 Didnt actually talk to him but left a message on his work voicemail. Very calmly (thankfully, wasn't sure I'd be able to get thru it without exploding) told him that I have the voicemails saved, he is to never contact me again or I will forward them to his BW, then I'll file harassment charges. I told him there is nothing he ever has to say to me, I think he's a coward, heartless bastard and POS for calling me and then pretending to reconcile with his BW and to stay out of my life for good. 5
imperfectangel Posted March 5, 2013 Posted March 5, 2013 Why did you feel you had to call him and make contact with him? Why not just block him or if that's not possible, ignore him?
Author wanting more Posted March 5, 2013 Author Posted March 5, 2013 Why did you feel you had to call him and make contact with him? Why not just block him or if that's not possible, ignore him? He left me a couple voicemails last week about how he still loves me, total bullshi*. I don't want to hear from him. I can't block him, it's my work phone. Not cell 1
whichwayisup Posted March 5, 2013 Posted March 5, 2013 He left me a couple voicemails last week about how he still loves me, total bullshi*. I don't want to hear from him. I can't block him, it's my work phone. Not cell Yup, it's totally inappropriate of him to call you at work and leave you those kind of messages on your voice mail. I mean, what if someone else (never know as work email and work phones are NOT private) picked up the message. I assume you have an IT department.. Anyway, I hope he leaves you alone. What an idiot. 7
underwater2010 Posted March 6, 2013 Posted March 6, 2013 Quit making threats and expose his crap to his wife. That will be the nail in the coffin. 2
BetrayedH Posted March 6, 2013 Posted March 6, 2013 Good choice, WM. I was very nervous seeing the title of the thread but I think you did exactly the right thing. I hope it works. 1
Author wanting more Posted March 6, 2013 Author Posted March 6, 2013 (edited) I wish I had half of your gumption! 6 months ago I waited for that phone call, I prayed for that phone call, I'd stare at my phone and will that phone call. It never came, what came was his BW, and those phone calls. In the beginning, hearing and reading the things he'd told her about me didn't hurt as I kept telling myself he just had to smooth things over with her, I could accept that, I mean I knew he loved me right?? Then more phone calls and text from her, and then my BSO started getting the text from her over and over and over. Not once, not once had I heard from him, not an apology, not an I'll call you when things settle down. NOTHING. Then I realized all the lies he was telling about me, how he blamed me completely for the A, I was the seductress, he was the innocent loving husband who sacrificed everything because I forced him, he didn't really WANT to be with me for over 3 years, I made him, and she believed him. And they kept coming, some of the most outlandish, rediculous lies I've ever heard. And slowly I realized what "we", the "affair" was to him, NOTHING. The love I had for him turned to hate, the lies he told her that I was still hearing about made me step back and acknowledge that everything I thought I knew about him was a lie. I realized and acknowledged the hurt I'd caused her and my BSO. I felt so guilty, and still do for what I did. I was slowly starting to get over things, over the A, over the bubble I had lived in for over 3 years and then those damn voicemails, I didn't get all emotional and loving and happy that he'd called, it was as though I'd felt his hand slapping my face, and I felt it again the next day with another voicemail, and since then a couple times of hang ups. He'd knocked me down 6 months ago when he threw me under the bus, and then again for a couple months after that as he kept blaming me, I'd gotten up from that and then the phone calls, it didn't knock me down this time, as I said, it felt like a slap, and all that did was pi** me off more, and confirmed again what at cowardly POS he is. Edited March 6, 2013 by wanting more 1
loredo21 Posted March 6, 2013 Posted March 6, 2013 6 months ago I waited for that phone call, I prayed for that phone call, I'd stare at my phone and will that phone call. It never came, what came was his BW, and those phone calls. In the beginning, hearing and reading the things he'd told her about me didn't hurt as I kept telling myself he just had to smooth things over with her, I could accept that, I mean I knew he loved me right?? Then more phone calls and text from her, and then my BSO started getting the text from her over and over and over. Not once, not once had I heard from him, not an apology, not an I'll call you when things settle down. NOTHING. Then I realized all the lies he was telling about me, how he blamed me completely for the A, I was the seductress, he was the innocent loving husband who sacrificed everything because I forced him, he didn't really WANT to be with me for over 3 years, I made him, and she believed him. And they kept coming, some of the most outlandish, rediculous lies I've ever heard. And slowly I realized what "we", the "affair" was to him, NOTHING. The love I had for him turned to hate, the lies he told her that I was still hearing about made me step back and acknowledge that everything I thought I knew about him was a lie. I realized and acknowledged the hurt I'd caused her and my BSO. I felt so guilty, and still do for what I did. I was slowly starting to get over things, over the A, over the bubble I had lived in for over 3 years and then those damn voicemails, I didn't get all emotional and loving and happy that he'd called, it was as though I'd felt his hand slapping my face, and I felt it again the next day with another voicemail, and since then a couple times of hang ups. He'd knocked me down 6 months ago when he threw me under the bus, and then again for a couple months after that as he kept blaming me, I'd gotten up from that and then the phone calls, it didn't knock me down this time, as I said, it felt like a slap, and all that did was pi** me off more, and confirmed again what at cowardly POS he is. Man radar...gotta love it! stay strong sweetie!!! 1
BetrayedH Posted March 6, 2013 Posted March 6, 2013 6 months ago I waited for that phone call, I prayed for that phone call, I'd stare at my phone and will that phone call. It never came, what came was his BW, and those phone calls. In the beginning, hearing and reading the things he'd told her about me didn't hurt as I kept telling myself he just had to smooth things over with her, I could accept that, I mean I knew he loved me right?? Then more phone calls and text from her, and then my BSO started getting the text from her over and over and over. Not once, not once had I heard from him, not an apology, not an I'll call you when things settle down. NOTHING. Then I realized all the lies he was telling about me, how he blamed me completely for the A, I was the seductress, he was the innocent loving husband who sacrificed everything because I forced him, he didn't really WANT to be with me for over 3 years, I made him, and she believed him. And they kept coming, some of the most outlandish, rediculous lies I've ever heard. And slowly I realized what "we", the "affair" was to him, NOTHING. The love I had for him turned to hate, the lies he told her that I was still hearing about made me step back and acknowledge that everything I thought I knew about him was a lie. I realized and acknowledged the hurt I'd caused her and my BSO. I felt so guilty, and still do for what I did. I was slowly starting to get over things, over the A, over the bubble I had lived in for over 3 years and then those damn voicemails, I didn't get all emotional and loving and happy that he'd called, it was as though I'd felt his hand slapping my face, and I felt it again the next day with another voicemail, and since then a couple times of hang ups. He'd knocked me down 6 months ago when he threw me under the bus, and then again for a couple months after that as he kept blaming me, I'd gotten up from that and then the phone calls, it didn't knock me down this time, as I said, it felt like a slap, and all that did was pi** me off more, and confirmed again what at cowardly POS he is. Sadly this post is a classic example of what so frequently happens following a Dday and compelling reason not to get involved with married men. Kudos to you for staying on the right path.
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