Kermit Posted March 5, 2013 Posted March 5, 2013 My ex and I had a great realationship at first. Things got dicey at the end and we got in a fight that caused me to leave her house. She called me and told me we are done and i agreed it was time. For about a month after our breakup she contacted me regularly. She told me she missed me and loved me and that we werent bad together at all. She told me not to find anyone new because she was saving herself for me and wanted me to do the same. One day, after calling me the night before to tell me she loved me and all that she told me that we shouldnt talk anymore. That night she met up with a guy and started dating him. 5 days later they are living together and engaged. Keep in mind she didnt even know this guy while we dated. As far as the month after we broke up I dont know the whole story. But the fact that she just became friends with this guy on FB 1 day before she told me we shouldnt talk, leads me to believe she literally just met this idiot. Keep in mind this girl has 2 kids from a previous BF. She is currently still married to someone. And has no place to stay. I know this new guy of hers is going to basic training. He will be gone for 5 months. He let her have his car, apartment, and all his belongings while he left. She is now able to see her 2 kids that she lost custody of 2 days out of the week because she now has a stable place to live. A part of me wants to know what you guys think. Is my ex gf on the rebound? And is she mainly doing this relationship and committing to engagement simply because of all the benefits she just received? Keep in mind, she saw me out at a bar last weekend and i was talking to a girl i just met, being kind of flirty, and she approached me and was furious i was talking to someone yet she is engaged? I dont see why she should care you know? But she does. Doesnt this whole thing seem like a huge joke to you guys? Please advise. I am kind of beating myself up over this as i am clearly not over her quite yet. I guess I would find comfort in knowing she really doesnt care about this guy at all and is just using him. Sick i know, but it will help. She also contacted me over email looking for support because she had a miscarriage with her new BF's baby. She cant contact him since hes in basic training, so she contacts me telling me it was my kid she miscarried. Later i come to find out she lied and it was only a 3 week old pregnancy making it impossible to be mine. So this whole thing is bananas.
LFH Posted March 5, 2013 Posted March 5, 2013 My ex and I had a great realationship at first. Things got dicey at the end and we got in a fight that caused me to leave her house. She called me and told me we are done and i agreed it was time. For about a month after our breakup she contacted me regularly. She told me she missed me and loved me and that we werent bad together at all. She told me not to find anyone new because she was saving herself for me and wanted me to do the same. One day, after calling me the night before to tell me she loved me and all that she told me that we shouldnt talk anymore. That night she met up with a guy and started dating him. 5 days later they are living together and engaged. Keep in mind she didnt even know this guy while we dated. As far as the month after we broke up I dont know the whole story. But the fact that she just became friends with this guy on FB 1 day before she told me we shouldnt talk, leads me to believe she literally just met this idiot. Keep in mind this girl has 2 kids from a previous BF. She is currently still married to someone. And has no place to stay. I know this new guy of hers is going to basic training. He will be gone for 5 months. He let her have his car, apartment, and all his belongings while he left. She is now able to see her 2 kids that she lost custody of 2 days out of the week because she now has a stable place to live. A part of me wants to know what you guys think. Is my ex gf on the rebound? And is she mainly doing this relationship and committing to engagement simply because of all the benefits she just received? Keep in mind, she saw me out at a bar last weekend and i was talking to a girl i just met, being kind of flirty, and she approached me and was furious i was talking to someone yet she is engaged? I dont see why she should care you know? But she does. Doesnt this whole thing seem like a huge joke to you guys? Please advise. I am kind of beating myself up over this as i am clearly not over her quite yet. I guess I would find comfort in knowing she really doesnt care about this guy at all and is just using him. Sick i know, but it will help. She also contacted me over email looking for support because she had a miscarriage with her new BF's baby. She cant contact him since hes in basic training, so she contacts me telling me it was my kid she miscarried. Later i come to find out she lied and it was only a 3 week old pregnancy making it impossible to be mine. So this whole thing is bananas. None of these timelines make sense. I think perhaps there is a lot more going on with this guy behind the scnees than you may realize. Additionally, you should strongly consider that you are better off without this girl. And she sounds like the type of girl that uses everyone. 3
wisernow Posted March 5, 2013 Posted March 5, 2013 None of these timelines make sense. I think perhaps there is a lot more going on with this guy behind the scnees than you may realize. Additionally, you should strongly consider that you are better off without this girl. And she sounds like the type of girl that uses everyone. I agree. You dodged a huge bullet with this one. Why in the world (given all you know about her) would you be anything but relieved? My advice: thank your lucky stars she is out of your life., press on, and don't look back. 1
TaserTag Posted March 5, 2013 Posted March 5, 2013 I agree with what everyone else has said. She seems like she's just scrambling and using guys, including you, for whatever is easiest for her at the time. Just selfish and using people. She will probably try to see you with her new boyfriend away, and I hope that you don't get involved in any more of her messes. You'd be lucky to just get away from her and not get trapped into any of her schemes... I hope that you don't take her advice and that you do go out and find someone new, because it sounds like she is already stringing along enough people.
Author Kermit Posted March 13, 2013 Author Posted March 13, 2013 I agree i have been used. But as stated earlier the timeline does seem crazy. But i can confirm that she literally just met up with this guy the day after we broke up and started dating him. Then 5 days later was engaged and moved in with him. The guy offered, probably with her nagging, to let her move in and have all his stuff including his car while he left for whatever he is doing for 5 months. Its all crazy. Thats kind of the point. Its pathetic and i am soo ashamed of myself for even letting it bother me. But it does.
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