Strange Situation

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Well, I've been a month and half of NC. Last week, I was beginning to feel a bit more relieved about the situation, accepting the reality of it all. Also, what furthered my sense of relief was that, last I remember, my ex mentioned she was moving out of her current place on March 1, when her lease expired. I was joyed in knowing that I would be completely unaware as to her current location, and that I resisted traveling to her place unexpectedly. Well, I wait until the 3rd, giving her and her roommate some time to move out. I felt like going over there to reminisce, and even planned to write a symbolic eulogy letter and burying it there. To my surprise: she still lives there. Luckily, no one was home. But, seeing her lawn chairs out in the front brought back a lot of memories, and was frustrated that she decided to stay. I just wish I didn't know where the hell she is on the earth. I haven't gone back since.

Also, to further complicate the situation is, before the BU, we shared the same therapist. Because my ex was her client first, her ( my therapist) original policy was that, if we split, I would have to be dropped as her client. However, after the BU, she decided to continue with me. She never explained why and I never asked, but presumed that my ex continued to see her as well. I talked to her about my excitement of my ex moving out, and even mentioned the idea of writing a eulogy. If my ex is continuing to see her, I would figure my therapist knew that she would continue staying at her current place. But, knowing my sensitive situation, and encouraging me to stay NC, I guess I was surprised that she wouldn't give me a hint, suggesting it was not of my best interests to go there. So, just raises a lot of questions. Either my ex has discontinued seeing her, or my therapist was just in a difficult bind because of confidentiality of client. Anyway, if someone wants to add their insight or comment, I would be interested in hearing. Thank you.