LFH Posted March 6, 2013 Posted March 6, 2013 What if the MM asked you to come to his home? Mine did, and I never understood that logic. I'd ask if he'd been recently hit in the head. 1
Got it Posted March 6, 2013 Posted March 6, 2013 I'd ask if he'd been recently hit in the head. Succinct and to the point.
Summer Breeze Posted March 6, 2013 Posted March 6, 2013 I had so many rules and boundaries in place it was ridiculous. I think I was the most impossible OW in the world at any point in history. Give him his due. He never once broke one or asked me to. 1
Wellington Posted March 10, 2013 Posted March 10, 2013 The more I read, the happier I am to have gotten him out of my life for good. I am such a schmuck. The boundaries? ALL his. -no calling his cell phone -no contact after work hours -no contact on weekends -I paid for all hotels (his wife sees all banking and credit info) -only meet during the day when it's convenient for him Call his house?! NOT bloody likely. He wanted me to come over once when his wife was out. I thought he was joking. His kids were home but in bed. Honestly. The more I look back at it all, the more I cringe. He had odd boundaries. It was okay to be seen with him at his work, he wanted me to Pick him up and I walked with him thru his place of employment before while he showed me around. Grabbed me in an office. As I said in previous posts......I am going to bang my head off a few walls now. What was I thinking?!?!?! He was an odd one for sure....nothing ever made sense.....
spice4life Posted March 10, 2013 Posted March 10, 2013 I had so many rules and boundaries in place it was ridiculous. I think I was the most impossible OW in the world at any point in history. Give him his due. He never once broke one or asked me to. I think you're signature is right on the money, summerbreeze.
MissBee Posted March 10, 2013 Posted March 10, 2013 What if the MM asked you to come to his home? Mine did, and I never understood that logic. People don't like fog but I'm sorry...this is some foggy thinking. One must have taken leave of one's senses to suggest this. There is no other explanation.
spice4life Posted March 10, 2013 Posted March 10, 2013 The more I read, the happier I am to have gotten him out of my life for good. I am such a schmuck. The boundaries? ALL his. -no calling his cell phone -no contact after work hours -no contact on weekends -I paid for all hotels (his wife sees all banking and credit info) -only meet during the day when it's convenient for him Call his house?! NOT bloody likely. He wanted me to come over once when his wife was out. I thought he was joking. His kids were home but in bed. Honestly. The more I look back at it all, the more I cringe. He had odd boundaries. It was okay to be seen with him at his work, he wanted me to Pick him up and I walked with him thru his place of employment before while he showed me around. Grabbed me in an office. As I said in previous posts......I am going to bang my head off a few walls now. What was I thinking?!?!?! He was an odd one for sure....nothing ever made sense..... Good for you for finally saying no and setting your own boundary by getting out. There is no way I would have gone to his work or his house...no way Jose! Stay strong and move forward.
Wellington Posted March 11, 2013 Posted March 11, 2013 Thanks. This site has been wonderful. I have reprogrammed my self to think of only the negative with him and focus on that. It has really helped to pull him into a completely different light. I really don't like him as much anymore. Can't believe I actually thought I "loved him"!! Gag!! If he does attempt contact again, I will continue NC because I am seeing how horrible it all was, and for what?! Let him contact......Im not giving in. I have for the past two yrs. and won't this time. Would love to be a fly on his wall though..... I have decided to take vacations with friends, get more spa days, enjoy some great wine and enjoy MY life because its ALL mine now!!! I'm not sitting around waiting and wondering. He really is not worth my time!! YAY ME!!!!! 1
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