FaithInTheDark Posted March 5, 2013 Posted March 5, 2013 here's my story: over a year ago -I met this guy in a group of mutual friends and liked the person he is. I was friends with a girl and her brother was good friends with him. I had mentioned to my girlfriend that i thought he was cute and wanted to get to know him. .. the guy and i would text and hang out a bit but i never directly told him i liked him - but it felt he kinda mind fu**** me along the way. and send mixed signals- etc So about a month later , the girlfriend of mine ends up dating him. I admit, I was naturally disappointed and it felt like a blow to my ego. i worked on moving on and hoping nothing became ackward and i wanted to make sure my girlfriend didnt think i was jealous. I wasnt jealous and i brushed it off. While they were dating, my girlfriend became really weird, especially when it came to her new BF and I, even though i moved on from him. I wanted them to be happy anyway. Our friendship faded due to her acting so weird and you could tell she wanted to make me jealous in small things she would say. plus we never discussed her going out with him even though i expressed having interest with him. Anyway my friend and the guy ended up breaking up 3 months ago, guess she cheated on him and treated him like dirt... he messaged me recently to hang out cus he was in town, he would call me to hang out from time to time when he was in town. (he works away for weeks at a time) and i accepted that we were just friends. we met up at the bar, had some drinks and he went back to my house . one thing led to another and we hooked up... we would keep in touch and he asked to get together when he was back in town and we spent the night together and had a great time, we hit it off really well.. he is a genuinely good person and a really nice guy. he called me again yesterday for dinner and drinks before he left back for work. I am happy to spend time with him but never want to feel like his "rebound girl" or my old friends "sloppy seconds" i know i have respect for myself . yesterday when we went out for dinner , i dropped him off at a friends and said good bye and i ended up running into his ex - my old friend at the store. it was ackward becuase i didnt know if she knew the guy and i had been spending time together and being intimate. ... She treated me very different compared to other times, this time around. ( we would run into eachother and had small talk but she always gave me a weird vibe and we didnt seem close anymore) .. This time she was very friendly, gave me her number and said we should hang out.i was surprised..i think she knows. i was friendly back and just before we parted ways , she mentioned that her ex - the guy! had text her randomly this morning . i didn't ask about it and told her i had to run. -- after i feel so turned off by the whole thing, because it made me feel uncomfortable after hearing that. i dont want to go thru this if hes not over it. by explaining my situation and am wondering if anyone has any adivce - if i should just distant myself for now on since he is still contacting his old GF, .. i felt like i went though enuff bs with this whole ordeal... or if this guy just looks at me like a rebound. ..i feel lost. i like spending time with him but refuse to be treated poorly. thanks so much for any friendly non judgemental advice
Author FaithInTheDark Posted March 5, 2013 Author Posted March 5, 2013 not worth the heart ache at all
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