My sister seems like a mean person (or is she just crazy)?

[MRogersI]

At first, I used to think my sister was weird but now I don't know. I'm starting to think she's a sister from hell; a very mean person. Though I love her (she is my sister afterall), at times I feel like cutting contact with her for sometime.

 

For instance when she was 11 (while I was 14 at the time), was the first time she kicked me in my groin. When asked why, she said ''I was curious and it was funny''. Then she would do it a couple times more but only if she caught me by surprise. This went on for 3 years.

 

Another time (she being 13 then), can't recalled why she got upset. I caught her putting her foot out just as I was heading downstairs, which was just a few steps and nothing serious but still. And she had a grin in her face. Or the time she egged someone's car or ruined a student's homework.

 

She would do weird things (esp if she was bored, angry or curious) and at some time I started wondering if that's even normal, to want to hurt your own sibling or destroy things.

 

Now: She's now 21 years old and though we get along better now, I wouldn't trust her with my bank account nor personal information. She would be capable of stealing all my money and putting me in debt. I don't think she'd changed that much. She is currently cheating on her bf and it's not the first time. She has cheated on her other ex bfs too.

Edited March 5, 2013 by MRogersI

[TaraMaiden]

She seems to have no boundaries, or 'brakes' on unacceptable behaviour.

if this was funny, I'd say she reminds me of Wednesday Addams - but it's not funny....

There is every possibility that she has a mental condition.

But I personally don't know what one would call it, but I'm certain it exists...

 

Googled:

 

Does this sound like her....?.

[MRogersI]

Umm that seems like the perfect description of her. What really irks me is she nevers see when something she's doing is wrong. I have never heard her apologize.

[Radu]

Where were your parents in all of this ?

Did you tell them about what happened between the two of you ?

[TaraMaiden]

Umm that seems like the perfect description of her. What really irks me is she nevers see when something she's doing is wrong. I have never heard her apologize.

 

Well, no... see, that's the point.

If she has this disorder, then she's never going to.

It's part of that disorder....

[MRogersI]

Where were your parents in all of this?

When she would do all those things is was when our parents weren't looking or simply weren't present at that moment. She was sort of sneaky as a kid.

Did you tell them about what happened between the two of you ?

No, not really. At the time, I took it as a phase she was going through. In my mind I was thinking ''Ok she's a bit different but guess this must be normal thing between siblings''.

 

I was never really rat on her. I guess I thought she would change as we got older. I didn't think she had a mental disorder nor that she might stay like this for life.

[MRogersI]

Well, no... see, that's the point.

If she has this disorder, then she's never going to.

It's part of that disorder....

That sucks.

So she won't be able to function like a normal person that bonds with others nor feels bad when doing something wrong?

 

It feels like I were dealing with someone so empty. Unlike normal people that can relate to their siblings and trust them. It makes me feel sad that I can't trust her. Come to think of it, my own parents are recently finding out how she is and they don't trust her too much either.

 

If it was someone else, I would have long cut losses but it's my sister. I wish there was a way to fix her; some way to knock some sense into her.

[TaraMaiden]

Sadly, she may need treatment.

Even more sadly, she's not going to get it, unless she agrees there is a problem.

And why should she do that?

 

Unless she is receptive, or broaches the subject herself as something that she has noted, and worries her, then you guys are going to have to keep your guards up.

 

Speak with your parents.

Let them know what you think.

They may be offended and take it upon themselves to believe you are blaming them, or that they are responsible.

 

Assure them they are not.

But you guys need to be on the same page....