MrDrama Posted March 4, 2013 Posted March 4, 2013 Hey guys girlfriend basically broke up with me 1 month ago ( 4 year relationship) she chose friends of 6-8 months over me basically. We also work together , last week we had talked she was pretty nasty and cold. I ended the conversation this is last time I'm getting over you. We worked with each other yesterday I treated her just like a co worker, I acted normal as if I were completely fine. She texted me this morning Well I'm pretty sure you're not going to respond but I need to say these things for myself... I wanted to apologize for yelling at you last week, I didn't want our conversation to go that way, but I was really upset and I shouldn't have gotten mad at you like that... There's alot more I want to say, but you know I suck at expressing things, overall I just want you to be happy and I hope you're doing well... And yes I know I'm going to see you at work, but I would like work to be strictly work... What is this breadcrumbs? I'm confused why would she even say anything I still love her I'm not sure what to do.
na49 Posted March 4, 2013 Posted March 4, 2013 I guess she was uneasy about yelling at you, and wants there to be no hard feelings. I don't blame her really, especially if you guys work together. She does sound like she wants pity from you which is very selfish of her.
cavalier99 Posted March 4, 2013 Posted March 4, 2013 Don't do anything. Proceed on as if it didn't take place. She just wants to alleviate guilt at your expense. Stay NC and keep work strictly business like you are doing and she asked..and avoid getting sucked in. She will probably fish for some reaction inspite of her proclamation of keeping everything strictly business
TaraMaiden Posted March 4, 2013 Posted March 4, 2013 Yeah, it's 'breadcrumbs'. She would like you to forgive her - it would make her feel a lot better. Pally-pally is good. it means that if you're willing to be firndly about it, then everything's ok, yeah....? Yeah..... No. But she is right in one thing: Work - is work. Strictly business. Nothing personal or anything to do with you guys prior to this.... The Caliguy No Contact Guide (see my signature/link) was written by a guy in precisely your position: he had to work with his ex. Kept it professional, avoided eye contact, and just got on with the work. Go with that. Never question their motives. never ask Why, wtf, or anything. Just decide how you tackle it - and the best way is to ignore, rise above and carry on with NC.
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