tlamb93 Posted March 4, 2013 Posted March 4, 2013 There's this girl in my class who I can't stop thinking about. I've never actually talked to her, but I've seen her around a lot. I've been sitting 6 or 7 seats away from her in class all semester, so I feel like it'd be weird if I just randomly sat next to her. How can I approach her, and what should I say to her? This girl is just so ****ing gorgeous in my eyes I feel like ill freeze up and have nothing to say, or just babble like an idiot.
iKING Posted March 4, 2013 Posted March 4, 2013 (edited) There's this girl in my class who I can't stop thinking about. I've never actually talked to her, but I've seen her around a lot. I've been sitting 6 or 7 seats away from her in class all semester, so I feel like it'd be weird if I just randomly sat next to her. How can I approach her, and what should I say to her? This girl is just so ****ing gorgeous in my eyes I feel like ill freeze up and have nothing to say, or just babble like an idiot. Sit a seat or two away and think up a clever intro (borrow a pencil, ask about something related to the class), then introduce yourself "I'm ____ by the way" and just play it cool. Some girls find it cute when a guy is nervous talking to them at first so that might work to your advantage, but relax and talk to her like you would anyone else. Pretend she's a friend of yours if it'll ease the tension. (female friend, not male friend, dick jokes probably wouldn't go over too well ). Most importantly have fun! It's only life and only one girl, It's not the end of the world if things don't go quite the way you want them to. Edited March 4, 2013 by iKING 1
Author tlamb93 Posted March 4, 2013 Author Posted March 4, 2013 Sit a seat or two away and think up a clever intro (borrow a pencil, ask about something related to the class), then introduce yourself "I'm ____ by the way" and just play it cool. Some girls find it cute when a guy is nervous talking to them at first so that might work to your advantage, but relax and talk to her like you would anyone else. Pretend she's a friend of yours if it'll ease the tension. (female friend, not male friend, dick jokes probably wouldn't go over too well ). Most importantly have fun! It's only life and only one girl, It's not the end of the world if things don't go quite the way you want them to. But how do I continue that? I have barely any game at all, so I really don't know how keep things going when we don't know eachother at all.
iKING Posted March 4, 2013 Posted March 4, 2013 But how do I continue that? I have barely any game at all, so I really don't know how keep things going when we don't know eachother at all. The introduction conversation doesn't have to be an epic philosophical debate, just making your presence known is the primary objective. Make some small talk and participate in the class, show off some brain powers, if you fail, the embarrassment will actually make you seem more approachable if you play it off right. The next time you talk it'll be far more comfortable from both sides to chat and easier to carry on a conversation. Just relax and be yourself.
JuneJulySeptember Posted March 4, 2013 Posted March 4, 2013 There's this girl in my class who I can't stop thinking about. I've never actually talked to her, but I've seen her around a lot. I've been sitting 6 or 7 seats away from her in class all semester, so I feel like it'd be weird if I just randomly sat next to her. How can I approach her, and what should I say to her? This girl is just so ****ing gorgeous in my eyes I feel like ill freeze up and have nothing to say, or just babble like an idiot. Don't take this the wrong way, but it's not that YOU can't stop thinking about her. Your **** can't stop thinking about her. OK. That was a little vulgar, but if you just think to yourself for a second that you know nothing about this girl and thus take her off the lofty pedestal you have her on, things will probably go a lot smoother. Start there, and then use the advice that has already been given by other posters.
Author tlamb93 Posted March 4, 2013 Author Posted March 4, 2013 Don't take this the wrong way, but it's not that YOU can't stop thinking about her. Your **** can't stop thinking about her. OK. That was a little vulgar, but if you just think to yourself for a second that you know nothing about this girl and thus take her off the lofty pedestal you have her on, things will probably go a lot smoother. Start there, and then use the advice that has already been given by other posters. How do you do that, though? It's easier said than done.
iKING Posted March 4, 2013 Posted March 4, 2013 How do you do that, though? It's easier said than done. Understand that she is a human being just like you. It takes time, but you can get over the attraction jitters. Practice makes perfect they say. This should be a good learning experience.
JuneJulySeptember Posted March 4, 2013 Posted March 4, 2013 How do you do that, though? It's easier said than done. Well in my case, years and years of rejection and jadedness and just really appreciating human beauty less and less. Crushes are mostly illogical. There is nothing to suggest that person will be any kind of match for you. Also, remember that she will likely judge you on your looks and not what you say (your game). If she likes you and you don't totally screw it up, you're in, at least at the start. If she has no physical attraction to you, there is very little you can say or do to change her mind. It's kind of out of your hands. So considering all of that, what is there to be nervous about?
Author tlamb93 Posted March 5, 2013 Author Posted March 5, 2013 Well in my case, years and years of rejection and jadedness and just really appreciating human beauty less and less. Crushes are mostly illogical. There is nothing to suggest that person will be any kind of match for you. Also, remember that she will likely judge you on your looks and not what you say (your game). If she likes you and you don't totally screw it up, you're in, at least at the start. If she has no physical attraction to you, there is very little you can say or do to change her mind. It's kind of out of your hands. So considering all of that, what is there to be nervous about? That strangely made me feel a little better. Thanks!
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