SSSoto Posted March 4, 2013 Posted March 4, 2013 Yeah, so I had this friend... I met him when we just started public school, and we've been friends ever since; in sixth grade we became best friends and started crushing on each other, then we lost contact for two or three years, and now about a year ago we initiated contact again, and become closer friends than ever before, eventually leading to a romance. I'm the first girl, he's ever been in love with, and the feelings really confused him... He doesn't have very much experience, but he promised me he would never let me down.. But after being in a relationship for only three months, he broke up with me... It came as a shock to me, 'cause even though we had had it a little rough with fights lately I didn't know it was that bad. He told me he still loved me, but didn't know if we were right for each other because we're so different... I don't really see his point, 'cause we're only different when it comes to our emotional state; he hasn't got a clue about feelings, while I'm really sensitive. The other reason was because he didn't want to hurt me anymore, but he nevr realized that he didn't hurt me /: We even took a break for one and a half week, because he said he needed time... But he didn't change his mind... So now it's been one week since we broke up. We've talked to each other once a day ever since, only be me contacting him... The day after our breakup he went to my place and just held me for hours, while I cried my heart out.. We ended up having sex, just one last time; he didn't want to at first because he was afraid he'd be using me, but I said I was fine, and I am. But afterwards, we've been having some really bad fights, because he won't answer why he's feeling that way, and I've been very unstable.. So ever since friday I jut decided to let him be and give him some time. From what I can see from his facebook page and such, he seems very sad... He even played a game, I bought for him two months ago for his birthday, for the very first time today. It seems like he wants my attention, but I don't wanna initiate contact... We've been best friends for so long, and I don't wanna ruin that... But I wanna know if there's any hope left for us? If I let him be, could he eventually come to his senses and want me back? Or could we at least get our friendship back? I know he still loves me, and whenever I've asked him if there's still a chance we could get back together, he just answers that he doesn't know, but there's like a fifty/fifty chance... So what do you think? You've got any advice on how to fix this? I really miss him, and I feel so terrible about everything... I know I shouldn't have contacted him this soon, but will it help if I just let him be for a month or something? /: Thanks a lot!
CaliBabe Posted March 4, 2013 Posted March 4, 2013 I think either way, if you go NC you will be working on yourself and starting the healing process, and if he happens to come back in that time then great! Time and distance always brings alot of clarity. Try your best to not contact and bring yourself to a better mind state.
SSSoto Posted March 4, 2013 Posted March 4, 2013 Thanks, I did think that would be a good way to approach it too!
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