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I have been thinking about ending my year and a half relationship with my boyfriend for a while now, but i don't know how to go about it. I love him, but i'm still young and i want to see what else is out in the world. I don't want to hurt him because the last time i broke up with him i found out how much he really cares for me. He cried and begged for me to stay with him. And i did.

About a couple of days ago i ran into an old flame that i believe are resparking. I'm confused and scared that i will lose my boyfriend forever. I don't know how to what to do. Should i end it and take a huge chance of losing him or stay and just wonder?

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I don't know how to what to do.

 

If I were you I'd want you to break up with me. I would not want a confused girlfriend; it's not healthy for the relationship.

 

You will see that the world has nothing more to offer. Either you break up with him and regret it. Or you stay with him and regret it. Either or you are in a no win situation.

 

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Peaches:

 

We all deserve to be with someone who makes us happy and loves us unconditionally. That includes your current boyfriend.

 

If you don't have it in your heart for him anymore, then it's only fair to let him know. It's better to end it with him before you start back up with anyone else (including your old flame). That would not make you look cool.

 

If you are young and want to explore, there is nothing wrong with that, as long as you are honest and fair to the other person. The world has a lot to offer for everyone if you make the effort to discover it.

 

Who knows, maybe you guys might rekindle something down the road. But staying with someone because they beg you back isn't a valid reason. Your just feeling sorry for them, and in the long run you'll realize that you didn't do him--nor yourself--any favors by doing so.

 

Follow your heart.

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I would agree with Vegas. But I also agree with hurting.....you dont deserve him. If you let him go you could find someone better but if you dont then you'll regret it forever. Make your choice wisely, it maybe the last with him.

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My GF did the same thing.......we were together for a year and 6 months.....lived together for a year....

 

Its still "iffy" whether we will ever have a chance or not, but if your current BF believes like i do, when you move on and have sex with someone else your forever "tainted" to him. Something you need to look inside and ask is "am i happy with him?" and "would he make me happy for the rest of my life?" because simply put when your young you want to explore......when your old you regret the exploration many times......choice is yours but remember it really is HARD to find a man that treats you correctly....

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Bender donetat or anyone else who would like to reply

 

Thank you so much for the words...but i have a personal question to ask. And as you and i both know u do not have to answer, but it would be nice to know...how exactly did ur GF end the relationship. Was she nice with it, did she go into details like what was going on or just came out and said it and was done with it.

I love my BF. He was my first at everything...first love, first real relationship, etc. It's not that i want someone else it is just that i sometimes wonder what it would be like to be with someone else. He has been in a couple of relationships. He is more experienced. Where as for me, i know nothing but him. He is the only guy that i have ever been on dates with. I just i'm just afraid that if i end things that i will never get him back. I'm scared of change.

Trust, passion, sweetness, respect understanding, loving and sooooo much more describes him. Plus i don't know how to act if i don't get those kind of attention from someone new. I just don't know. I don't expect him to just wait for me while i see what is out in the world but i don't think that i can accept the fact that if he finds someone better that he wouldn't want to come back to me. I just don't know what to do. To leave or just deal with the way things are.

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heres the deal......

 

The world and people in it generally suck......

 

The grass always SEEMS greener.......

 

You have to ask yourself if this guy is so great, why do you want to be with anyone else.

you also need to think that another person will come along, they always do.

what you need to answer to yourself is do YOU want someone else OR do you want some strange........if its sexual exploration your after then you could be turning your back on a man for no reason......if its that you dont love him, leave him......

 

just my 2 cents.....

 

P.S. its hard to find a CARING, HONEST person that WANTS to be with you, cherish it when you find it.

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