Gmail Posted March 4, 2013 Posted March 4, 2013 Long story short..6 year relationship with my ex-girlfriend "broke up" in July but spent pretty much everyday after that she seemed actually happy but I've noticed she started to club party and drink a little more with her coworkers . Noticing not as much contact anymore but limited contact texted her called her no reply. Go to her home see what's going on she tells me she has a new Bf that works with her and that she falling in love with him! Made a mistake and chased her during the month of January on and off. Got a BS closure excuse. Started "No Contact" since the 1st of February and haven't talked to her since. She postes on Instagram and twitter on how happy she is but they haven't been going out no more then 3months. Is that GIGS or any other input or advice for the situation?
CptSaveAho Posted March 4, 2013 Posted March 4, 2013 Sucks to be her... sounds like GIGS to me For you, stop reading about her, remove her from social media, focus on your life, go NC and move forward Been in your shoes before and it sucks, especially if you are a first timer. You probably will hesitate from removing her from social media but the sooner you do it and stick to it, the sooner you do move forward. It takes a long time to get over a relationship like that so if you are still not recovered in 6 months to a year, it will be ok, just keep moving forward Ignore everything that comes out of her mouth and how she is so happy. I will tell you a little secret, people in gigs are not as happy as they appear to be
Author Gmail Posted March 4, 2013 Author Posted March 4, 2013 Sucks to be her... sounds like GIGS to me For you, stop reading about her, remove her from social media, focus on your life, go NC and move forward Been in your shoes before and it sucks, especially if you are a first timer. You probably will hesitate from removing her from social media but the sooner you do it and stick to it, the sooner you do move forward. It takes a long time to get over a relationship like that so if you are still not recovered in 6 months to a year, it will be ok, just keep moving forward Ignore everything that comes out of her mouth and how she is so happy. I will tell you a little secret, people in gigs are not as happy as they appear to be Yah it is and it does suck and I removed her a couple weeks ago but I still get the urge to look some to see what she post. But I got some advice from a couple of friends that if you completely seperate yourself from social media and do let her know what I'm doing and start working on myself she will start to miss me I guess
CptSaveAho Posted March 4, 2013 Posted March 4, 2013 Just because someone misses you, doesnt mean they want you back This is one of the biggest things people fail to see when NC is broken. They assume missing you = they want you back and want to come back. If they do come back, its to get a hit of a drug(you) and then they are back off into the gigs world.
na49 Posted March 4, 2013 Posted March 4, 2013 I can vouch for them missing you meaning they don't want you back. because what does someone really mean when they say "I miss you"? It means about as much as someone apologizing for bumping into you. My ex told me she missed me, she never mentioned anything about wanting to try again or apologizing for what she did. She "missed me" because no one else would talk to her. Do I think she misses me right now? While she's on campus surrounded by people? HELL NO! Don't go NC to get her to miss you. Go NC to try to move on. Don't check up on her, it's normal for them to try to appear as happy as can be. They usually do it to hurt us or show us how much better life is without us. It's all BS. We just need to worry about ourselves.
marklarsson Posted March 4, 2013 Posted March 4, 2013 i think my EX is on GIGS and driving down rebound avenue but it doent really matter if its GIGS or not. it should be all about you now. if it is GIGS she most likely to come back but the reason why this reconciliation does not work is by then the dumpee has moved on and wants nothing to do with the dumper. dont beat yourself up about chasing her it was not a mistake it was just a waste of your time because of the nature of the break up you felt you could have done something to win her back. you really should have not chased her when she said she had someone new.
Author Gmail Posted March 4, 2013 Author Posted March 4, 2013 yah that is true..I mean the purpose of me going NC and off of social network is to focus on me and to get all of my emotions of,find what I can do to make myself happy but that was a couple of my friends input on it and I kind of do regret chasing her cause it was a waste of my time but I cant do anything about it now though just trying to stay positive
na49 Posted March 4, 2013 Posted March 4, 2013 lol you regret chasing your ex. I regret not chasing mine more than I did. Do we ever win?
Author Gmail Posted March 4, 2013 Author Posted March 4, 2013 lol you regret chasing your ex. I regret not chasing mine more than I did. Do we ever win? what do you mean?
na49 Posted March 4, 2013 Posted March 4, 2013 what do you mean? You said you made a mistake my chasing her in January. I feel like I made a mistake by not chasing my ex more when she broke up with me. We both feel guilty about it and it sucks.
Author Gmail Posted March 4, 2013 Author Posted March 4, 2013 You said you made a mistake my chasing her in January. I feel like I made a mistake by not chasing my ex more when she broke up with me. We both feel guilty about it and it sucks. yah thats true and sucks really bad but what had we do
marklarsson Posted March 4, 2013 Posted March 4, 2013 You said you made a mistake my chasing her in January. I feel like I made a mistake by not chasing my ex more when she broke up with me. We both feel guilty about it and it sucks. did your ex tell you if you chased them more they would have come back?
marklarsson Posted March 4, 2013 Posted March 4, 2013 when i tired to win my ex back based on my personality she would know that it was easier for me to not do anything than to try winning her back. maybe she will see this in time to come maybe not. at this point im numb to what she thinks of me
Author Gmail Posted March 4, 2013 Author Posted March 4, 2013 when i tired to win my ex back based on my personality she would know that it was easier for me to not do anything than to try winning her back. maybe she will see this in time to come maybe not. at this point im numb to what she thinks of me She did a couple of times in October thats what is really shocking..she would say she was too comfortable in this relationship , there is this spanish saying that being comfortable with some body is alot stronger then love...so I dont know but a couple of my friends who know her pretty well and been in the same situation are saying she's faking her feelings she will be back sooner or later..but I dont know I feel like all hope is gone.
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