xdeadinsidex Posted September 5, 2004 Posted September 5, 2004 [font=century gothic][/font][color=violet]I am 19 years old and I have an 8 month old daughter. I am sort of in a relationship with the father of the baby.. but we argue all the time. for the past couple of months I have had feeling for my manager.. and I can't really tell if he has feelings for me back. he's quite a lot older than I am...20 years..lol, but he flirts all the time and acts interested. he's married though. I am not a slut - the only person I've ever had intercourse with is my baby's father, but my boss treats me a hell of a lot better than my baby's daddy does. i want to know if he has feelings for me without actually coming out and asking him. i will give you an example of some of the **** he's said/done to me. first of all - the other day i was sitting outside during my break smokin a cigarette and he came outside and asked me what was wrong. i said that i didnt feel good and he said 'im sorry baby' and kissed me on my cheek like 5 times and was hugging all over me and stuff like that. then one day i was crying over stupid **** and he gave me a hug and kissed me on my cheek and put his hands on my butt and said 'lets kiss and make up' so i gave him a kiss on the cheek and he said 'can i spank you later?' and i was like..uhhh. just **** like that that happens all the time. i am not going to cheat but his best friend (another one of my managers) said that he was unhappily married and i just want to know if i am reading into this too much or if he really has feelings for me. i am just a female and he really can't expect to treat me special and me not have feelings for him. any advice is appreciated. thanks. ~deadinside~ [/color]
uriel Posted September 5, 2004 Posted September 5, 2004 He'd like to have sex with you. Does that mean he has feelings for you? Well, they're not the kind you can bank on if he's married. A married man who would have sex with a single girl who's got a young baby and isn't married is a creep. CREEP. Stop inviting chaos into your life. Just because a man shows you some attention doesn't mean he's good or decent or in love. Maybe your baby's father isn't the one -- and that's too bad for you and especially your child. But don't just go to the first guy who flirts. Take your time and find someone to whom you matter -- someone who is stable enough to follow through with you on more than just a good time. -- uriel
emra Posted September 5, 2004 Posted September 5, 2004 I agree 100%. I would also ask yourself if it is actual feelings you have for this person or is it the attention. A lot of times, we confuse the two and take it as, it makes us feel good and then we ASSUME it is feelings other then what it is, It flatters us. And you need to remember, unhappily or not he IS married. You do not need to put yourself in that position to hurt other people that have nothing to do with this. I don't care what the reason behind him doing this is. He IS married, if you let something happen, You WILL be the one to get hurt. Along with the family he has at home. As for the "he can't expect to treat me special and not have feelings for him," he is trying to seduce you. Make you feel great about you and all that. He is going to get what he wants out of this and where will you be in the end. Wondering why he is with his wife and not you. He is trying to play you,. You are young, with a child...... Be careful!!!!
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