southernsweetie16 Posted March 4, 2013 Posted March 4, 2013 My best friend's mother hates me. I'm a full-time college student, and because I drive home (about an hour) two or three times a week to see my family, my friends, and attend a martial arts class, she claims I'm lazy, wasting money, and several other things. She is also accusing me of lying about my job. This man who is my best friend is 24, and still lives with her. I accused him of letting her control his life when he began "hiding" the fact that we hang out. We have been caught together, so his mom knows that he has lied about me, and that makes her dislike me more. She is accusing him of choosing me over her. He came over the other night, and left three hours early because his sister called and asked him to run an errand, and he had no excuse for not doing the errand, since they would have been upset with them had they known he was with me. He is very mad at me for what I said about his mom, and told her what I said. I apologized, and things are okay with us, but his mom still dislikes me. She is also accusing me of starting drama. I really, really, really care about this man. And before all of this, loved his mom as well. I have no idea what I did to start all of this, but I do know I'd like to make an effort to fix it. My friend won't let me talk to her, even though she wants to talk to me, too (just for different reasons- she wants to tell me exactly what she thinks of me and tell me to leave my friend alone, and I want to fix everything). I'm considering a handwritten note apologizing for however I wronged her, delivered with some cookies from a local deli. After reading this post, it seems like I'm fighting a lost cause, but like I said, I care about this man, and just want to fix things. I want to prove to this woman that I am not a bad person, because I'm really not. I'm a full time college student, I work out, I have a job, and I help my mom out, because my dad died recently. I have a lot on my plate, and I haven't done anything wrong. I can't lose my friend over this. Any comments/suggestions?
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