Ryan_B Posted March 4, 2013 Posted March 4, 2013 A couple of weeks ago my girlfriend (now ex!) finished with me after 7 months (we're both 20 and she was my first partner, she had previously been engaged). We had been away the week before for valentines and everything was great, but when we got back, we had an argument, we had a few over the last fewmonths, and my girlfriend decided it wasn't working between us, which is heart breaking as a couple of months ago, we were so incredibly happy and close to each other. She said there is no bad bone in my body, I'm a great guy and never treated her badly, it's just we weren't going to work out and she'd rather us have a ''very special friendship'' instead she said. I was distraught as I love her so much. I still love her, dearly right now and would love to still be with her, my friend has since spoke to her and she said she misses me, but only wants friendship. I deleted her number, facebook and skype (we agreed that I'd do this and will contact her in the future if I need too, and she will never contact me purely because she knows how much I want her and she doesn't want to hurt me more). I know people say no contact is the best way of moving on, but as everyday passes, it get harder to not contact her. I've even got to the point of writing out a text, asking my mate for her number and sending it, but luckily my mate wouldn't give it to me. I would love to be able to be friends in the future, but it'd be torture right now. I'm hurting, a lot still and constantly thinking about her, all the memories I have, no matter how big or small, her face is planted in my mind. It's killing me, I can't see how I will stop these feelings and it's stopping me getting on with life. I have seen my mates a fair amount of times since, to try and move on and forget, but it doesn't work. What can I do to try and move on a bit?
Author Ryan_B Posted March 5, 2013 Author Posted March 5, 2013 Any help/tips please? I went out with a friend and went to many places (We had too, I didn't want too though) me and my ex used to go (shops, roads we used to park up on etc) and it hurt a lot, also been listening to a lot of music that she LOVE as I like it aswell. I can't stop thinking of all the great times together still and miss her, so much, has anybody got any tips on how to not think about her/the memories as much? I've seen my friends lots recently, but it isn't helping very much to be honest
Mcnulty Posted March 5, 2013 Posted March 5, 2013 You're only a couple of weeks down, I'm afraid you're not going to like it, but time and patience are what will help. Also do as you are now, keep yourself busy and try to exercise. You're young and it's your first ending, it's going to hit you hard, but how you bounce back/react to this will define you for future relationships. Talk it out to friends and family, but do not contact her, it will only set you back. The rel. failed for a reason, acknowledge this and use it as part of the learning process. Good luck.
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