spiritofjosh Posted March 4, 2013 Posted March 4, 2013 ok so I often see people posting threads or responses describing what their ex is giving them as "breadcrumbs." I understand it's self explanatory but what I'm a little confused on is what exactly justifies an action as a "breadcrumb." I mean, are they a bad thing, good thing, or potential to be both? and what would the difference be to an ex boyfriend or girlfriend, as dumper or dumpee, to leaving breadcrumbs or simply looking for reconciliation? examples or stories with outcomes are all welcome.
Minneloa Posted March 4, 2013 Posted March 4, 2013 My understanding is that breadcrumbs are little bits of contact that threaten to undermine a person's recovery/healing because it is so tempting to overthink them and fall into false hope. Example: an email out of the blue that just says, "How are you?" Best ignored because they don't mean anything (except perhaps that the ex needs attention or feels guilty).
markus36 Posted March 4, 2013 Posted March 4, 2013 I've often wondered whether the dumpee can use "breadcrumbs" in the same way on the dumper
Thunderchild Posted March 4, 2013 Posted March 4, 2013 The thing to remember about breadcrumbs is that they are not for your benefit. If the dumper is feeling guilty, needs an ego boost, completely lacking in empathy or is just plain malicious you might receive them. Generally, they are bad news.
TaraMaiden Posted March 4, 2013 Posted March 4, 2013 I've often wondered whether the dumpee can use "breadcrumbs" in the same way on the dumper No. Breadcrumbs are bait. Intended to entice the Dumpee into responding, the purpose of which is to simply make the Dumper feel better. A Dumpee cannot offer breadcrumbs. Their heart, on a plate, only to be dropped, trodden on and then fed to the dog - ? Yes. Breadcrumbs? No. 1
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