mr82 Posted March 4, 2013 Posted March 4, 2013 I'll try to make this as short as possible. Hi, im have always been a shy guy, and have always been shy about asking a girl out. I really have a crush this girl i was working with for one month back in december, he would always touch my arm when we talked and would say things like "i like you, your really nice", but i just assumed she was being nice. Anyhow at a party on her last day we were really drunk and she said again that she likes me and we kissed. Me being me i put it down to her being drunk and did'nt want to embarrass by mentioning it. She left the department and rotated to another, whenever i see her around we smile and just say hi and talk about general things. The other day on friday, i happened to bump into her at a bar, she was with friends, and asked if me and my friend to come with them to a club, which we did. So again after a few drinks she was hugging me and kissing me telling me that she likes/loves me. Because i did'nt want to mess things up this time i told her that i really like her too, and when i had to leave, because i had work the next day, she gave me a big snog and said that i better call her and made me promise. The next day i called but she didn't answer, i thought that since i have her number and she does not have mine it must be showling as unknown, so i sent her a text. So we're at sunday now she finally texts me back, but is very vague in her replies, where i make it obvious that it was her that i liked spending time with. e.g. me, "yeah ____ i really had a good time with you" her, "I had a good time with you guys too glad you both came" She text saying that it not a good time to call now because she has to go to sleep as she has a test tomorrow. so i text her "goodluck goodnight, maybe another time then. xxx" she replied "goodnight mate" Now i dont want to come across to strong, so i was thinking of waiting a few days before calling again, because i really do like her. Its just that last message thats bothering me she called me MATE? What does this mean? Will i be wasting my time asking her out? because as i've said i have always been shy, and is she say's no i'll be depressed for weeks. 1
dj572 Posted March 4, 2013 Posted March 4, 2013 I'll let some others weigh in here but it sounds like you have gotten some mixed signals. I've always been told when a woman touches your arm while she's talking to you that she likes you and I have had that happen. You said at work she said she liked you so that all sounds good. The night out for drinks I would not take anything she said while under the influence to heart. In my experience alcohol makes some people love everybody so I have learned to ignore anything that happens under the influence. I had a friend propose marriage to me and asked me to sleep with her one night when she was drunk. I did not take advantage of either offer and she denied she ever said it later. My advice and I'm sure others will ring in here but maybe try to continue talking to her just to see how it goes. The texts she sent back seem like she might not be interested so proceed with caution. But I'm no expert lets see what others say.
Shardish Posted March 5, 2013 Posted March 5, 2013 It sounds like she likes you when she is intoxicated and then doesn't when she is sober. I would say that she doesn't like you and I implore you just to move on. If a girl truly likes you she won't send you mixed signals, she'll give you the green light to proceed.
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