don'tknow88 Posted March 4, 2013 Posted March 4, 2013 I don't know what to do. My oh is away and I went out with a girlfriend. Two of her male friends walked us to the hotel to make sure we were safe and came in for a drink. I didn't know them. While she was getting hot and heavy with one in another room she left me alone with the other. He seemed to think he was in for the same treatment. I was wasted and he kissed me and put his hands down my pants. I told him to stop and that I love my man, I was not going to sleep with him. Thankfully he did stop, but now I feel so stupid and guilty for putting myself in that position. I want to tell my boyfriend what happened, but wonder if this is only to appease my own feeling of guilt. Is it worth hurting him over? I know he will be hurt that I let myself be put in this position. I did not want or encourage this attention from the guy, didn't even find him attractive and he knew I was attached. I am angry that he tried this, but angrier with myself for being so stupid as to think all he wanted was a drink. I should have known better. The thought of this guys hands on me makes me feel sick and dirty. I don't know what to do, if anything.
Radu Posted March 4, 2013 Posted March 4, 2013 I'd tell him, and i'd also rethink your hanging out with this friend of yours.
SimonSerenade Posted March 6, 2013 Posted March 6, 2013 If I was your guy I'd be heartbroken but the real deal breaker would be that you took so long to tell me, if you love this guy and your a good person and you genuinely seem like a good person I think you will tell him eventually, I think the best thing to do is tell him as soon as you can, it's only fair and I'm sure if the roles were reversed you'd want to know straight away too, he might very well understand just be sure to emphasize the fact that this guy took advantage of you because he did and if your friend puts you in those situations then I really would consider making some new friends and putting her in the past, if not for your sake then the sake of your man's feelings, good luck
aussie sam Posted March 8, 2013 Posted March 8, 2013 I'm a guy and I would definitely like to know. It's worth noting that WHEN it gets back to him (might be ages down the track), he will probably loose his trust in you and other women. If it was as harmless as you say then you don't deserve to carry that guilt either... However it is worth making sure that you're being honest with him and yourself about what ACTUALLY happened. For this other guy to get to a point where he is kissing you and has his hands down your pants is not USUALLY a 2second surprise thing. But only you know what actually happened. If it were me then I would be hurt but want to work it out if you told me straight away and were honest and sorry. If I found out later it would be quite different. Hope this helps.
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